My girlfriend was sexual abused from by her uncle from the ages of 12-18. I was very supportive when she came confided to me about it, I suspected it a couple weeks before she told me actually. It did not bother me initially and she would talk openly or I'd ask questions she would tell me in a detailed manner. I even met her uncle unfortunately....

 

A lot of drama happened inbetween that time and now... I've grown so tired and exhausted now that I feel that I'm drifting away from her even tho I don't want to. My biggest problem now is when we are laying in bed, I get so angry just being next her and start thinking of her abuse. Part of the reason is her triggers so I feel like I can't even be myself in bed anymore like me simply breathing can be a problem which irritates the hell out of me.

Her uncle is so disgusting looking, he is this hairy boney short uncouth looking guy and it drives me crazy that he had his way with her. It also drives me crazy because I understand in this situation you do what you have to do to survive but once time he wanted to videotape her but she was adament that he couldn't.... I'm like why coudn't you just say no to him. (I never said that to her)

Anyway, I don't want to think like this no more. I asked our therapist what to do but she said to imagine a red stop sign and just stop myself when I do it. It's not really helping. I think I just need a break from her.