..okay so me and my girl friend of 1 1/2 years finally decided to have sex. so the day came and we where both very nervous but we continued i put the condom on and began to insert me penis into her vagina ..about the first 1 1/2 inch or so in i began to to feel a very intense pain then i hear her scream out in pain and i stopped quite obvious that it pain us both very much. i did not insert it deep enough to pop her cherry... when i took of the johnny i noticed that the skin on my penis was pulled back behind the head.. so my question is:
Is sex suppose to hurt that much for the both of us and is it normal than me skin was that pulled back that far ?? thank you in advanced
love and rockets terry..
Is sex suppose to hurt that much for the both of us and is it normal than me skin was that pulled back that far ?? thank you in advanced
love and rockets terry..
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It sounds like she was not lubricated (wet enough). Did you do enough foreplay to get her wet?
You may need to use some store bought lube like KY jelly if you can't get her own lube going.
I think the condom was sticking to the side of her vagina, which would be very painful for her and it would also push it back on your penis, pulling the foreskin back. If your foreskin doesn't normally go back comfortably, that would be painful for you.
Do you normally pull your foreskin back behind the head to clean under it?
You may need to use some store bought lube like KY jelly if you can't get her own lube going.
I think the condom was sticking to the side of her vagina, which would be very painful for her and it would also push it back on your penis, pulling the foreskin back. If your foreskin doesn't normally go back comfortably, that would be painful for you.
Do you normally pull your foreskin back behind the head to clean under it?
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Sometimes, a female can have a very adverse reaction to sex if she's feeling extremely nervous or guilty about the act. This can cause the vagina to clamp down tight when something is trying to enter it. This will cause discomfort on both ends.
You're going to have to talk a lot through the issue in order to find if she's really emotionally ready for a sexual relationship. If she is willing, it's preferable to explore sex first by manual/oral stimulation on her. That way if she still has a strong nervous reaction, there won't be enough hard contact to cause either of you pain.
Once she's relaxed about this kind of stimulation and she's well-lubricated, your chances for success should be a lot higher. And it doesn't have to be right away... you could spend months practicing oral/manual technique, learning how to stimulate her to climax and making her look forward to vaginal intercourse in both the physical and romantic sense.
You're going to have to talk a lot through the issue in order to find if she's really emotionally ready for a sexual relationship. If she is willing, it's preferable to explore sex first by manual/oral stimulation on her. That way if she still has a strong nervous reaction, there won't be enough hard contact to cause either of you pain.
Once she's relaxed about this kind of stimulation and she's well-lubricated, your chances for success should be a lot higher. And it doesn't have to be right away... you could spend months practicing oral/manual technique, learning how to stimulate her to climax and making her look forward to vaginal intercourse in both the physical and romantic sense.
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