Why can't his penis penetrate me fully?

Dear Gilmissa

Your condition is not unique! It sounds like you have a tough hymen and it has only stretched a bit and has not ruptured completely. Some women have to be deflored by their doctor because their hymen is so tough. Hymens vary, and can be so fragile they break way before puberty, some are very elastic and stretch easily. Some are tough and need a doctor's intervention. Usually, after first sex, the hymen is ruptured, but this is not always the case. Have you checked your hymen?

This problem is sometimes compounded by a big penis and a small vagina, but once you have been deflored, I think the problem should go away.

I hope this helps as a start. If you want to talk in more detail, please feel free to message me.

You're not the only one, so don't have a fear of it. It's hard for me too sometimes and I lost my virginity 6 years ago and started using toys a couple years before that. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I have sex, his penis doesn't want to go in, even if lubricated. Other times, it will go in, but will burn like the first time I had sex, which the burning sensation lasts maybe a minute, then it's smooth sailing from there. It could very well be your hymen, or that you just have a small vagina. Just think of it as trying to stick a big object into a small hole, there's going to be some problems. You can gauge it over time and it sounds like you are already slowly doing that, which is good. Have you two tried incorporated a sex toy into the foreplay? Sometimes that can help.

Hi,

I'm relieved to know that my condition is not unique. And yes, I had a look at my hymen and it's still there, though I notice a little hole which widens when I strech the vagina. But that's it. I don't want to get through a doctor's intervention. I think that we'll try until it works.

Actually, it's both my hymen ( which is still there ) and my vagina, which is tight. The good thing is that I'm more relaxed than before and thanks to that, the head can get inside.

No, I never tried incorporating anything inside :-) .. Had I known, I would have done it years before getting married lol.

Dear Gilmissa

Can I suggest that you have a check up. I can understand that you do not desire a hymenectomy, but it sounds as though you might have a microperforate hymen.

A small vagina is not so much of a problem as it stretches to accommodate a baby being born, so can stretch for a penis (but use plenty of lubrication!). I want you to have a check to see whether there is any danger of abnormal bleeding when/if your hymen breaks.

Meanwhile, are you trying to stretch it with your fingers or with aids?

Take care.

I hope I've been of some help.

 

you should not belive in all these advise iadwise u to meet and concern ur prob with a quolified doctor

you have been of great help.. please os there anything as a small vagina.. his penis cant get all d way in and i doubt i still have my hymen there

Like all parts of the body, there are variations in size, and there are small vaginas. If your husband cannot get all the way in, then there might be other reasons, but you don't give much information. The average penis length is 5.5 inches. The length of the vagina unstimulated, ranges from 2.75 inches to about 3.25 inches; aroused, it increases to 4.25 inches to 4.75 inches.
So how far can your husband penetrate, and what size is he? Girth sometimes can be a problem if you are not sufficiently aroused or lubricated.
I hope this helps as a start. If you can provide more information, I might be able to help more.

can you tell me the difference between virgin firl and non virgin girl except hymen intact . i mean virgin girl vagina will be tighter than non virgin girl 

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Different girls have different vaginas, so one virgin might be tighter than another. Some virgins experience difficulties with first penetration; others not so. Also a virgin might have used a dildo. However, if the guy is also a virgin, he would have nothing to compare with anyway. Trust is important. The girl must be believed, or the basis for the relationship is shaky.

I have the same problem and do not know what to do.. its goin to be 2 years of marriage. i don know how to check the hymen.

You can check your hymen by using a hand-mirror. 

This is an example of a typical hymen:

• http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/sites/default/files/files/styles/large/public/field/image/hymen_virginal.jpg

But there are variations, some of which are shown in the diagram:

• http://grassrooted.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/pic2.jpg

I hope this helps as a start.

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Hi when I was first married I could not penetrate my wife's vagina the first 4 times even with Vaseline so I fingered her and got up to 3 fingers in gently then used a lot of Vaseline on my penis and got the head to go part way in it took about 10 or 20 tries to get fully in her but I did not get all the way in I think her vagina is about 6 1/2 inches deep I was told by the doctor that most women are between 6 and 8 inches deep. He said I was too large for her. I am 7 inches in circumference or 2 1/2 inches straight across the head thick and 9 1/2 inches in length. We have sex now without lubricant but it took a few years. so I was gentle with her. In some positions now after 15 years of marriage ( deep stick Position) she says it feels like I am hammering the bottom out but says she enjoys it now. so with time you will enjoy it more and more. I hope this is a help.

hi Im facing the same problem with my wife. Her hymen is not broken and everytime i try to put my penis inside,it just slips to a different direction instead of going in. She wont let me insert more than one finger, i tried many times. Says pain is so much that inserting two fingers is impossible for her.. Its been 5 months since our marriage, dont know wt to do...