Even if we have sex 7 out of 7 days, he will still masterbate at every chance he gets the second I am out of the house. I know all men do it, and I understand that, but if a guy is in a serious relationship, where he IS getting laid and he is having good sex, why the need to still jerk off all the time? I have recently noticed that times when I am out of the house for periods of time (even a few hours shopping), when I come home the computer history has like a million p orno pages he has visited! I have talked to him about this, and he admits to looking at porn and masterbating to it right at the computer! This really bothers me. I can see that men who arent getting laid, or hardly get laid need to jerk off a lot, but why when you HAVE a girlfriend and you are?! I have talked to him about this and I have told him I don't understand why he has to jerk off the second I'm out of the house. I told him I think it 's unhealthy for someone in a relationship to jerk off as much as he does. He claims he jerks off more NOW than he did when he was single. He claims he thinks of us, but the fact that he masterbates to dirty porn videos, and porn on TV clearly makes me believe that it has nothing to do with me. Today, he didnt work and I was at work. I pay attention to things like where the lube is placed in the drawer etc. and I can always tell when he's used it. Even though we had great sex last night, he just had to jerk off again this morning! I think it crushes my ego - I feel like we have great sex (which he agrees!) yet he gets excited at every chance to masterbate to porn when I'm not home. Is this just a high sex drive? My boyfriend is 22 and I am 25. I guess it bothers me that he can't just wait the day in between that we may not have sex, and just look forward to the next time we do. Some days, we will have sex in the morning, and I will go out in the afternoon for an hour even, and he'll do it the second I leave. Please explain to me if this is normal - is he a nympho? When I told him he might hav ea problem, he tried to lie about how often he did it. BUt I know because I can tell when the lube is used and I can see on the computer. Is our relationship doomed? I don't know if I can handle it. Every second he's home alone and I am not there, I am constantly sick to my stomache knowing he's going straight to jerk off.
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Can somebody please respond?!
I swear I spend more time THINKING about how often he's doing it, than how often he actually is doing it!
I swear I spend more time THINKING about how often he's doing it, than how often he actually is doing it!
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Can someone please comment? GUYS?
Is it normal for him to jerk off this often even tho he gets laid a lot?!
Is it normal for him to jerk off this often even tho he gets laid a lot?!
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This doesn't sound particularly good. I understand why this shatters your ego. I think the real question is why he constantly feels the need for sexual release, is he under a lot of pressure?
I doubt very much that he was telling the truth about masturbating more now than he did when you first got together. It sounds like he needs some sort of sexual therapy.
I doubt very much that he was telling the truth about masturbating more now than he did when you first got together. It sounds like he needs some sort of sexual therapy.
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It sounds like you are jealous of your boy friends hand.
What he and you do together is your valid interest ... what he does
alone when you are not there is not your concern ... it is between him
and his hand ... give the guy a break ... lighten up ..... ALL normal guys
jerk off ... often .... regardless of whether they are in a relationship.
What he and you do together is your valid interest ... what he does
alone when you are not there is not your concern ... it is between him
and his hand ... give the guy a break ... lighten up ..... ALL normal guys
jerk off ... often .... regardless of whether they are in a relationship.
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Just talk to your boyfriend and tell him you want him to stop. If he doesn't threaten to leave him. He's just not right for you if he's not willing to make sacrifices for you.
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It does shatter my ego, and I have talked to him about it. He just lies to me saying he doesnt, and I am not going to start pointing out that I can tell the lube bottle is positioned differently in the drawer!! He knows how to delete the history on the computer now, its almost my own fault cuz when I call him on it I would show him how I could see, now he just deletes it. It makes me even more upset that he lies about it, it's almost like HE is embarassed and ashamed to even admit he does it. It causes so much fighting between us! It's normal to do it once and awhile, but not all the time when he's getting laid. To me, it makes me LESS interested in sex with him, because i know that no matter how much I supposedly satisfy him, its never enough. He will still always look for that golden opportunity to jerk koff, and yes it does hurt my ego. Sounds dumb and the guy says i'm jealous of his hand, maybe I am! Maybe I feel like when I have been with someone for 2 years and we live together, that he should look forward to doing ME, not playing with his hand every chance he gets. I actually started hiding the lube, like thinking tha tmight actually keep him from doing it (yeah right!). But I did. That's how stressed I am about all this. I just feel like he doesn't appreciate ME or our sex enough, if he jerks off every chance he gets. I purposely schedule my time away from the home, to make sur eit's when he is out too, so he isn't home alone. IF he is, he'll just go to the porn on the computer. I have talked to him, and I have told him exactly how I feel and how it makes me feel, yet as far as I can see nothing has changed. As someone mentioned, is it really somethiang to break up over? I mean can you ultimatim something like jerking off? You decide, jerking off to porn every day, or having me as a girlfriend?! That just seem so pathetic...but honestly it's coming down to that. I start thinking how nice it would be to live alone and not have to worry about their being cum stains on the computer chair I sit in! help!
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Jeeze! What's your problem? Give the guy a break! Be happy you've got a young, virile and sexually very active boyfriend. Let me ask you, does his masturbation ever cause you NOT to have sex? Does he ever PREFER to jerk off rather than have sex with you? Does his wacking of the love stick really affect you in ANY other ay than psychologically? If not, it is YOU who has the problem. I mean, if you didn't know about it, is there really anything in his doing what he does (on his own!), that is affecting you in any negative way? If not, again, this is a problem that is in your head, nowhere else. If HE feels it is too much, for some reason, he has by now had your points made clear to him and he must make the decision to do something about it if HE feels he needs to. I suggest you start exploring your body a bit more too and that you suggest the two of you masturbate together from time to time. THAT is good sh*t. Good luck with getting over your issues and congrats to your bf having such a high sexdrive. Hope you'll get over this. Together.
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Maybe you can explain this preoccupation some women seem to have with their partners' sex lives, and their need to monopolize it, even if they only want to have sex once or twice a week? How would you feel if he started harping on how often you went shopping, or how much you eat, or how much TV you watch, or how many pair of shoes you own, or.... Get the picture?
He obviously has some desires that you're not satisfying. Do you want to be everything to him? Step up your game, don't make him put his toys away when you're not around. If you don't want to do that, shut up and leave him alone. It could always be worse. He could be pursuing those desires with other girls, or bending you over every time you stand still for a minute.
You're just trying to put a lid on him, and that's not smart. What happens when you put a lid on a saucepan with something simmering in it and go away and leave it?
He obviously has some desires that you're not satisfying. Do you want to be everything to him? Step up your game, don't make him put his toys away when you're not around. If you don't want to do that, shut up and leave him alone. It could always be worse. He could be pursuing those desires with other girls, or bending you over every time you stand still for a minute.
You're just trying to put a lid on him, and that's not smart. What happens when you put a lid on a saucepan with something simmering in it and go away and leave it?
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To the guys that have said to give him a break. YOU DONT GET IT AT ALL. Do you have any idea how crushing it is to feel like you're not enough for him? You just CAN'T satisfy him? AND the fact that he has to look at other naked women to do it. Try stepping in our shoes for just a sec. Just for a change.
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There we go... something about shoes again.
Sometimes there are things that can't be lived out by a loving girlfriend. My girl thinks that sucking me off is dirty and disgusting so I spend an amount of my spare time spanking it over what I want.
She knows that I want it, won't give it to me, so I fantasize about it using a visual source. Doesn't it make sense to do this instead of going out to get it somewhere else?
The bloke probably just wants an off limits hole...
Sometimes there are things that can't be lived out by a loving girlfriend. My girl thinks that sucking me off is dirty and disgusting so I spend an amount of my spare time spanking it over what I want.
She knows that I want it, won't give it to me, so I fantasize about it using a visual source. Doesn't it make sense to do this instead of going out to get it somewhere else?
The bloke probably just wants an off limits hole...
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Well, I was the same at his age and I don't consider myself abnormal, according to what I read. Just a higher sexdrive than others: enjoy it while it lasts. Look at porn with him(choose the kind you prefer: he will like it allso).
In any case, stop worrying about it.
In any case, stop worrying about it.
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at least he's not going to other women for sex!!!
why not help him out - if my partner feels the need i just give him a hand at least that way i feel part of it!
how about asking him to take pictures of you so he can look at those instead???
why not help him out - if my partner feels the need i just give him a hand at least that way i feel part of it!
how about asking him to take pictures of you so he can look at those instead???
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