My girlfriend is bipolar 2 and I need some answers, PLZ!

rhorvath218855 over a year ago

Hi and thank youfor any answers I can get. I have been with my 41 yr old girlfriend for almost 4 yrs now. She was diagnosed Bipolar 2, roughly 2 yrs ago. There have been 6 different medications over that period of time and all of them seemed to help for a very short period of time. Now, it's to the point where she is on a waiting list for "shock therapy" and we are both hoping it works for her. I love this woman more than she even realizes! She has told me about her past and did live in New York City (illegally), for 7 yrs but that was when she was in her 20's. I have knowledge of how sexual she was with many men when she was younger and yet has never given me a reason to not trust her. There have been times, very recent, that she secludes herself from me and I wait to hear from her or seccond guess what she is doing behind my back. She did go back to college and is in her final term. Part of her course requires her to do an internship for 5 weeks, so she can graduate. She contacted one of her friends in NY and is planning on going there for the 5 week period required. I have asked her NOT to go and do it there, especially since there are many different placements here in Ontario. One minute she acknowledges us as being together, yet when she has an "episode", she says we aren't together. I haven't heard an "I love you", from her, in a long time. When she has an "episode", she loses her temper very fast and sometimes she does get physically abusive and does punch, push and yell at me.Two nights ago we were in the car, I picked her up, gave her a ride to the store and I was taking her home. I told her I needed to use the washroomand she said for me to use the washroom at the coffee shop and she didn't want me in her apartment. I asked why she would make "her boyfriend" go to a coffee shop instead of her apartment and she replied that we weren't together and she didn't want me in her apartment. When I asked what she was hiding, she punched me while I was driving and started yelling at me. Yesterday we spent time together and laughed. It was almost like it was back to normal! I don't know what to do anymore and really have insecurities about her doing the internship so far away. PLEASE, someone try giving me some helpful advise and guidance? I am a 37 yr old man and I've never been so lost in my life!

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Guest over a year ago

well first of all, I am really sorry to here how abusive she is toward you! No one deserves to be hit like that. Well it sounds like she is loosing valuable interest in you there is something she may find in your relationship that is missing. She has a-lot of anxiety it sounds like and its possible that when she's going through her lows something you do or say pisses her off throws her over the deep end. Now she may be so disappointed or thinking of random events in her head that are causing her to seek peace and quite maybe she needs space to gather her thoughts and find herself. What I would do if I were you is give her space the time she needs to go to NY it might turn out that she needs that for herself to miss you and to realize the man that you are. Or she may want that space to figure out with all her metal issues if she needs to get her head focused on straight before she continues on in a relationship. Bipolar people are impatient, lack certain desires, very hard to please, get angry at a drop of hat or real happy. Mood swings. And most bipolar people are real unhappy and unsure of themselves. My mother is bipolar. If she is telling you when she's angry that you are not her boyfriend and it seems your chalking up that episode being caused by her bipolar state, but when I person is really angry and is in the heat of the moment and not drunk the truth comes out. Listen to her when she's really pissed you'll find that hurtfully she's being straight up with you. Taking sometime for yourself may give you the chance to not have as much on your plate. Good luck.

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rhorvath over a year ago

Thank you very much for the reply. I know that she has NEVER cheated on me, from the time that we have met, til now. My big concern is that I have read numerous articles on Bipolar 2 and they all say the same thing about people cheating. I have had a relationship, in the past, where the woman was Bipolar and she had cheated numerous times on me. Now that my girlfriend has been diagnosed Bipolar 2, I have been terrified that it will happen with this woman. I know I shouldn't think that she will cheat on me,being as she has never given me a reason to think that but I do love my girlfriend more than anything and just don't want to get hurt again! Just last night, I gave her a letter I wrote and we are suppose to talk about what I wrote, today. Thank you again for replying and if anyone else could give me some helpful advise, I would greatly appreciate it.

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