I gave up pre college life to be with my boyfriend, who had a fetish for my boobs. In due course I lactated and even attempted breastfeeding. Suffered from possible Vaginismus and impenetrable hymen. I was happy when we could have penetrative sex and hoped to have a baby. I was sexually abused by a family friend and that left a deep scar, my boyfriend left me when I could not cope up with mental/physical issues.
Now that am married, I am trying hard to forget my past and get on with my life, but whenever my hubby attempts sex I just clamp up and cuddle up in a corner or scream. I know I have to get over my past, but my hubby does not seem to understand.
Yesterday he just came home and tore at my clothes and my immediate reaction was to run and huddle up in a corner. He slapped me hard and said something like "w***e won't let me have sex' He was so abusive, he resorted to pinching and slapping me mouthing obscenities. He kicked me several times. He was never like this ever, how can he change overnight?
I spent the entire night crying and now am an emotional wreck - he has threatened to go back to his girlfriend. I dunno what to do? Do men treat women as sex objects, is that all?
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Yes indeed!
1. You cannot expect your husband to live with you in a sexless relationship because you always have an excuse of some kind (past, cramps, etc.)
2. His violence indicates that you have waited far too long and that the rubber band is breaking.
3. You need serious professional help with your past to resolve it and turn the page in your life in every area: physical, emotional and spiritual.
4. He needs help, because if he truly loves you, he needs be coached into waiting for you.
Don't give up on yourself.
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