i resently met a guy at work and he is wonderful he makes me happy in all ways and he is a cleaner at work. and i have a boyfriend of 4years and want to end it with him,is that wise? :!: :?
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Did you want to end the relationship before you met this other guy? If so, it sounds like it is a wise decision. Just keep in mind that just because you end your relationship doesn't mean you'll end up with this other guy.
If this other guy makes you want to end your current relationship, ask yourself why. You mentioned that he's cleaner at work. Are you saying he works harder? Does your boyfriend not work very hard/is lazy/not make very much money? Is his work ethic the only reason why you want to end the relationship? If so, does this feel appropriate to end based solely on that? (I understand that that question seems like my own opinion is placed there, but I'm not trying to do that. I just want to present that one thing may or may not be reason to break up with someone. Sometimes it is. It's for you to decide.) What is it about this other man that makes you question your relationship? If you broke up with your boyfriend and didn't end up with this other guy, would you feel you made a mistake, i.e., do you just want to be with the other guy?
I'm sorry I can't give more advice. If I knew more about the situation, perhaps I could. Feel free to respond if you'd like any more advice. :-)
If this other guy makes you want to end your current relationship, ask yourself why. You mentioned that he's cleaner at work. Are you saying he works harder? Does your boyfriend not work very hard/is lazy/not make very much money? Is his work ethic the only reason why you want to end the relationship? If so, does this feel appropriate to end based solely on that? (I understand that that question seems like my own opinion is placed there, but I'm not trying to do that. I just want to present that one thing may or may not be reason to break up with someone. Sometimes it is. It's for you to decide.) What is it about this other man that makes you question your relationship? If you broke up with your boyfriend and didn't end up with this other guy, would you feel you made a mistake, i.e., do you just want to be with the other guy?
I'm sorry I can't give more advice. If I knew more about the situation, perhaps I could. Feel free to respond if you'd like any more advice. :-)
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you said "he makes me happy in all ways" does that mean that you have already consumated your relationship? Do you and your boyfriend of 4 years live together?
No one can tell you if it is a wise choice to end a 4 year relationship for someone that has turned your head. Just remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. You have a bf that you are familiar with and all of his issues, now you meet someone with a whole set of new issues that you will find out about a little at a time.
In this day and age it's a wonderful and magical thing if one can find the love of their life and stay with them, 4 years sounds pretty intense. But if there are things going on behind closed doors and this new guy got your attention and turned your head, only you can look into your present relationship and make that decision. If you decide to leave your present relationship for a new one, please give your now bf the heads up. It's a horrible and devestating thing to be in love with someone who is doin the do behind your back, just be honest and up front, then you can move on with a clear head and not feel any guilt.
No one can tell you if it is a wise choice to end a 4 year relationship for someone that has turned your head. Just remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence. You have a bf that you are familiar with and all of his issues, now you meet someone with a whole set of new issues that you will find out about a little at a time.
In this day and age it's a wonderful and magical thing if one can find the love of their life and stay with them, 4 years sounds pretty intense. But if there are things going on behind closed doors and this new guy got your attention and turned your head, only you can look into your present relationship and make that decision. If you decide to leave your present relationship for a new one, please give your now bf the heads up. It's a horrible and devestating thing to be in love with someone who is doin the do behind your back, just be honest and up front, then you can move on with a clear head and not feel any guilt.
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