Pain and Bleeding During Sex for First Time...really scared

Hi honey! What happened is he tore your hymen - which usually happens when you loose your virginity! In many cultures in the world, the hymen being intact is a sign of the woman being a virgin! I hope your boyfriend wore a condom! Promise yourself that if you continue to have sex NEVER EVER EVER have unprotected not even for a second OK? As ALL it takes is 1 second and 1 sperm to make you pregnant! Just keep the area clean and don't put any talc on the area and the tear will heal in a couple of days and you will be fine I promise OK? Good luck and health honey!

ya he had a condom on...learned a lot about std's and pregnancy in health class, and i don't want either! so all the pain and the blood was from my hymen? if and when we do have sex again will it hurt again? cuz i thought it was suppose to be fun and pleasurable, not painful! And what is talc? %-) Thanks so much for your help!! thought i was going to have to see the doctor and tell my mom o.O

Talc is powder - like body powder NEVER put that down there OK!? I will tell you what I tell every other young person! "IF sex was like a Maddona Video or what you see on TV, Movies, Music Videos etc, NO one would be at work or at school!!!!" ;-) XD o.O o.O It is TOTALLY irresponsible of media in general to show all of this writhing and smiling and sweating etc, it just isn't like that, there is usually pain at the beginning, PLUS strange feelings - like "Well that wasn't all that!!! or "Did I do that right, she didn't do what Brittany Spear did" there are emotions, and sometimes negative outcomes from it! Of course sex can be a wonderful thing too, but it does send out mixed signals doesn't it? Just like friends at school - especially boys - saying how GREAT everything is! EVERY ONE of those boys and girls has the same reacton as yourself, BUT they ALL think that the rest of you had a good old time - when you didn't! So what you are experiencing IS normal, WILL get better, and just be ready OK? Just because you did it once, doesn't mean you need to do it again or even right away! And remember ALWAYS wear a condom and when you get to that point again ALWAYS have your boyfriend ejaculate outside the body into the condom as this will stop any accidents - with tears and rips etc, OK? Good luck and health honey!

o okay, ya i only use soap and water... ya sex wasn't what i thought it would be but good to know its normal...ya its so true you never hear of anyone having a bad experince...there so much no one teachs you, but now i can finally relax! i didn't know hes suppose to do that outside of me %-) thought that was what a condom was for...wouldn't that be awkward..learn something new everyday! :-D Thanks so much again!! really helpful!

It's just another backup, the mistakes that happen are when the boy/man is about to ejaculate and does and the condom tears and OOPS!!! Then you are left with having to get the Morning After Pill! So this way it takes it more out of the equation! I have counselled a LOt of girls/women on here that had OOPS's and ended up pregnant! Ask away honey! I would rather answer a thousand questions insead of one more young person getting and STI!

How old are you and boy friend. and do think he hes a normal size penis

I don't know what that has to do with anything but i'm 14 and he's 15, and i've only ever been with one guy so i don't know if its normal size or not %-) but i would guess it is, why?

Okay, so this is going to sound dumb, and i don't really know what to do. But i did a lot of thinking about what you said, that "Just because you did it once, doesn't mean you need to do it again or even right away!" well i wasn't really even ready to do it the first time, he kind of pressured me into it, like don't get me wrong, i did want it but wasn't really ready for it. well after the first time i though about what you said and really realized that i wasn't ready and i'm not really ready to do it again, but my boyfriend keeps trying to pressure me into doing it again, and i keep telling him that i don't want to. like i'm fine with doing other stuff, and i told him that, but not sex right now, but he won't stop pressuring me! what should i do?

dump him, he's selfish and its obvious that only wants to have sex and the fact that he keeps pressuring you makes him a penis.