pain when loosing your virginity

losing your virginity will hurt because your vagina has to be used to the size of the penis if its big. if its small, than it may not bleed at all o.O :-P :-| :-P >:(

The first time you do have sex you should make sure your extra lubricated. It hurt when me and my boyfriend did it, it may hurt the next time as well as your just getting used to it. But once your used to having sex you should be fine!! And be able to enjoy it! :-) (I know i do! :-P) But just do foreplay before you have sex! :-) XX

Ok here is the answer to all your questions let me give you some credentials first.

I am married to a virgin and her father happens to be the best OBGYN around my city.
I spent my honey moon fore playing, oral sex and TRYING to penetrate but up to this day and we know each other for more than a year I have not penetrated her yet! we have not tried to have sex until one month ago and she was in pain. I am an average guy with an average size penis 7in. normal thickness.
We used Water based lube and Lidocain as mentioned. The lidocain should be applied 20 minutes before intercourse and then it should be wiped off. We are not using a condom since she is on the pill. For more than a month we have been trying to have my whole penis in but we could not go beyond 1inch and a half. So I am still trying to go slowly. This is a problem for guys... you have to be understanding and comforting. It is so hard for a girl to feel "unable to satisfy her guy". I always comfort her and tell her it’s ok. And now instead of me trying to make love.. She wants Me to try to make love...
Always be clear and ask if it is hurting don’t be an animal! If you care about your love one you should care about where it hurts her and if it starts hurting you should stop. And try something else like oral sex.

The best position is not missionary or doggy or girl on top... its whatever she feels comfortable with! She needs to be able to control her muscles. I tried missionary and girl on top.. She believes girl on top is more painful because she is using more muscle. Missionary she is more relaxed and she can slid her vagina in towards my penis as much as she can and when it hurts she stops and we finish with oral!

it will take time

Ohh most importantly my wife never used tampons or anything inserted into her vagina so it is still very tight. Never use a finger or an object to ease the situation.. use your penis but be gentle and slow and let your female friend/ wife/ girlfriend/ friend take her time the more you are pushy the more the concept and feeling of pain becomes her fear.

Let me get this right now.
You've been married for at least a few months.
You haven't been able to get through her hymen.
Her father's the best OB/GYN in town.

Give me a break 8-|
Either the city has a population of three; her, you and the best OB/GYN in town ----- who can't cut a hymen. o.O
OR
The best OB/GYN in town sealed it up so you're NEVER gonna get in :-S

I have the same question, I can undrestand what u are talking about, I tried for several times with my partner who i love so much! but I couldnt make it, in any position. when it's getting inside I feel it so painful and uncomfrotable, can anybody help me what i can do for this??does anybody know if it has anything to do with my body and my vigina?this might ruin my relationship....thnks

Hi, I've been trying to have sex ever since I was 16 because of the pain. Well now I'm 18....... I'm in love wit this boy and tried it with him a million times but we didn't succeed because of the pain. We tried many different position, he tried fingering me, we even used lubrication nothing helps. If anyone has any good advice it will be very helpful
Thank u :-)

I know that if u doctor dont tell u to use medication u shut not medicate your self but I was so desperate that I start reading about how to loose it with out pain and I read about the ambesol andt I'm sorry to said this but it work for me I was waiting to loose it for five years because of the pain I was on depretation and I had to do it because I wanna get pregnant so I did it with that ambesol and it worked I know its not saved but that save my marriage and how I felt inside of me thank u girl who ever put that post

I tried to use a dildo and finger me a little bit, but it hurt really bad!  Not REALLYYYYY bad but on a scale 1-10 it was a good 6-7, why?  I am 17 years old and it hurts??? btw  i am a virgin..

Right, is it normal if i am soooooo ready for loosing my v and im only 14?

because i have been ready for a while now and really want it to come

also, i dont want to be in a relationship when i loose it is that normal?x

Ok,so I am in the same boat as you, currently trying to lose my viriginity, but we also had to stop from the pain and from what I've learned and well be trying to see if it does infact help are these tips.

u just have to put your penis inside her vagina . and push it inside and outside slowly . but make sure that it dosn hurt her .
if she says stop then just stop .
good luck :)

just have to put your penis inside her vagina . and push it inside and outside slowly . but make sure that it dosn hurt her .
if she says stop then just stop .
good luck :)

Sex hurts. But keep doing it and eventually it wont

 

it won't be so painful next time, but, you have to be relaxed and take your time, both of you

xD I love the fact that everyone is like giving a somewhat different answer even though this question has been anwsered by a professional. You guys are probably scaring this girl,