Problems with my mother in law

Story of my life. I never managed to deal with this problem. I am married for six years, and my mother in law keeps coming to my house and telling me how to take care of her son. My mother in law thinks that I must do the same things she did with her husband. Btw, she treated her husband as he was a sultan. Well, I won’t do it, and I’m sure that my husband doesn’t want me to be his servant. I am so close to lose my patience and to tell her everything, and to be honest, I don’t understand why my husband didn’t do anything about this. He knows exactly what is happening, but it seams like he’s afraid top react.

Tell the mother in law that you aae married to her son and that you will treat him with mutual respect and love. Let her know that she is over stepping her boundaries and that the marriage is between you and your husband. Don't wait for mommas boy to step in because he won't.

Talk about a close family... My wife and I had decided before our wedding to move in with my MIL. Her husband had passed away about 10 years before. She had a nice house and offered us the entire second floor. The plan was we were going to live there until we could both find jobs and get settled. I was about 27 and my wife was 25, We had been staying there for about 2 weeks. One day my wife had gone shopping and my MIL and I were at the house alone. I was upstairs and decided to take a shower in the very nice bathroom that my wife and I were using. My wife had instructed me to crack the bathroom door when I showered so that moisture would not build up. This is apparently what they did growing up.
I finished my shower, dried off and walked over to crack the door a little farther and turned the fan on.. After all, this bathroom was upstairs and MIL had never come up there so far during our stay. I was standing there buck naked getting ready to shave. Out of the corner of my eye, I see what looks like a person standing in the door. Thinking it is my wife, I turn and face the door. There is my MIL standing there talking to me. She then reaches over and turns off the fan and begins to talk to me about so-and-so's birthday party (my SIL). I'm kind of frozen facing my MIL with no clothes or towel on. She is talking like I'm fully clothed. I keep telling her that I need to get some clothes on. She says, "don't worry, I've raised two boys." My towel is crumpled in the dirty clothes basket, and I have nothing else to use to cover myself with. She continues the conversation as if we were both fully clothed, sitting at the table drinking coffee. When I'm just about to lose it standing there naked in front of my MIL, my wife walks up and joins the conversation. She's asking me questions and suddenly I'm in a three way conversation with my wife and her mother while I am unclothed.
My MIL finally goes back downstairs and my wife asks me, "what do you want for dinner?" I say, "do you realize, that your mother walked in on me naked and talked to me for about 5 minutes until you came home?" My wife says, "what's the big deal? She does that to family all the time. Get used to it." My wife and I lived there for 8 months and I had several conversations with my MIL while I was unclothed. I guess I got used to it. By-the-way, other than that fault, my MIL was a very sweet lady and we still get along very well.