Staying Hard

It was your first time, you may have been so excited that you just couldn't stay hard. If you just jumped right in that may have something to do with it also. You should try foreplay, Have her slip the condom on for you (that can be one of the worst cases, having to put it on yourself, due to the fact that youll probably be really excited and be a little foolish with it.) Try a lot of different things.

Now if you are afraid you will lose her over this then i'm almost inclined to ask what sort've realtionship you have with this girl. A relationship should be about love, not sex. Basing a relationship around materialistic things such as the attractivness of a woman or man will reap no rewards in the end other than a month of good sex. Honestly id rather have a lifetime of love, then a month of sex. Love, will lead to sex, and it will be even better with a person you are sure you love.

Now don't get me wrong you cuold be in a perfectly loving relationship, just by the way you are describing it it seems a little like the opposite.

Much luck
-Fender

No no, thank you. but it isnt' a bad realtionship. TRoo yong for love probably just worried.

I had a problem with phimosis and its still really sensitive any ideas how to get that fixed? eg i cant masterbate with foreskin back

I recommend you talk to your doctor. I do not really have any further information. I'm sorry that i can't help you any longer.


Best thing to do is talk to your doctor.

Best wishes
-Fender

Fender thank you for replying so quickly.
I am seeing a dr. i also posted it with more detail in sexual dysfunction...
under erectile dysfunction with a twist i think, please have a read has a bit more detail in it.

Probably just the usual kind, where girls want what girls want, and that includes sex. Didn't you get that memo?







Wait a sec. You mean we have to choose? Can't we have both? Damn! That sucks. I sure didn't get that memo.







Really? A whole month? Can you guarantee that? I sure hope it's one of the 31-day months. It would sure suck if it turned out to be February.







Again with the choices. If I can't have both I'm not playing. That's how I roll.







How can you ever be sure? And who says sex can't lead to love? I've had many one-night-stands turn into lasting friendships. I've also had a lot of "serious relationships" that I wish had been one-night-stands. Life is complex. People are complex. About the only sure thing I can say is that if you wait all your life for that perfect relationship, you're going to do just that: wait all your life for it. By the time you realize there is no such thing it'll be too late.



The truth is that you have to accept people as they are and work at your relationships if they mean anything to you. And you have to work at the sex too. It doesn't just magically happen when you love someone.



I do agree with your advice to see a doctor. Phimosis is a term that covers a lot of ground. It can be anything from a retained infantile condition to an indication of a more serious underlying pathology. Only a doctor can evaluate this and recommend appropriate treatment options. If it's not severe, there are nonsurgical treatments that can work, although, frankly, I don't think the surgical methods used to treat phimosis are terribly daunting.

Completely picked apart my post


Let me just say (if it wasn't already assumed) that the advice i give is from MY point of view.

It is normal that people will think differently then me.


I don't believe that i said anywhere you couldnt have love, and sex.

I feel that instead of picking apart my post completely you should have just offered advice.

However, to each his own.

-Fender

I know that i am not right 100% of the time, this is just simply my effort to help someone.

Im sorry for your missed memos.

I'd rather not turn this board into a competition for who is the best at helping.

I would rather just contribute best i can. Just as i think you should as well.

I'm greatful fender.
Must have a serious lack of time to do that.

Fender,

It's not about being right or wrong. It's about thinking before you post. All these "love is better than sex" or "focus on the love and the sex will take care of itself" platitudes aren't going to help anyone. Surely you know this!

If you have a serious difference of opinion, go ahead and defend your position. You did imply, twice, that there is a dichotomy between love and sex in relationships. If you don't really mean that, admit you just got sloppy. You also implied that there is something wrong with a girl who values good sex in a relationship. I wouldn't settle for less. Would you? Honestly? I meet women every day that are wonderful, admirable, likable people. Am I being shallow if I don't want to spend my life with someone who isn't all those things and great in bed? I mean, if you really believe that, go ahead and defend it.

Rather than arguing (becuase I will not waste the time.) Why dont i just repeat myself, because it seems you did not read my post.



"I'd rather not turn this board into a competition for who is the best at helping.

I would rather just contribute best i can. Just as i think you should as well."


It seems you are the ONLY one with a problem. If you continue to post and rant about how im just such a terrible person, i am going to ignore it. I have tried twice now, and if you continue on i shall no longer waste my time. Im here to help, not to point out everything i don't agree with.

-Fender

Excuse me. Where did I say anything bout you as a person? If I criticize what you say, and you take it personally, that is not my fault.

I'm here to help too, and that means if I see someone getting terrible advice, I am going to point it out. What am I supposed to do? Ignore it, just because you posted it first, and because you're going to take it personally if I express an opinion that differs from yours?

Again, if you believe what you said is correct, and have a substantive disagreement with any of my opinions, that would be worth discussing, but this complaining about some imagined personal offense is something you would do well to outgrow right here and now. And before you start whining about what I just said, please note that I am talking about what you said, not attacking you as a person.