I did somthing very stupid I firstly lied to my husband about losing the baby when I went and had an abortion. My husband then pressured me into sex only 4 days after having the abortion done. I still feel okay however I need to know if there is something I can get from the pharmacy without needing a script. I'm just so worried that I may get an infection and also what syptoms should I look out for
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OK, while I wouldn't go so far as stupid, I would say I'm concerned at the general tone and issues you raise in your post.
Pregnancy and raising a child is quite simply the most important issue a couple can have, so the fact that you felt you had to lie about it rather than discuss it with him raises disturbing concerns, as does the fact that he 'pressured' you into sex.
Working backwards, I first believe you should go to a doctor or clinic and discuss the medical aspects - you have quite clearly felt unable to follow guidelines, for fear of your husband, so you will need medical advice as to how to deal with the current situation - I'm not a medical professional, merely an experienced adult, and you raise a combination that is outside my experience.
As to the other concerns, feeling afraid to discuss pregnancy, and feeling pressured into sex, are not normal, healthy reactions in a relationship. It is one thing to be concerned and frustrated - about any issue - that is par for the course for relationships, and normally the beginning of a conversation, which depending on the sophistication of the couple - not related to IQ, but that magic called common sense - will either lead to a row (argument) or a solution.
In this area above everything - this is not mowing the lawn, or making dinner - your body is your own, and no one, especially not your husband, has the right to determine your actions in regard to it.
He has the freedom to participate in sex, with or without contraception, with or without having a vasectomy, and with or without a woman who wants a baby or does not want a baby. In other words, he has the choice to be in a relationship with you, and to decide how he behaves in that relationship, but his rights end roughly at the surface of his skin: he cannot act, speak, threaten or impose without infringing on your natural and legal rights to safety, well-being and choice.
In this, you both have responsibilities: google co-dependency, to see how 'abusive' relationships can be a co-operation between 'abuser' and 'victim', but at the very least you need to take responsibility for your body and your decisions, and accept the risk that he may no longer be there for you or with you if your choice is one he disagrees with.
He is not entitled naturally or legally to pressure you 'into' something - he can only pressure himself 'out' of the relationship.
Equally, if you are an adult, you need to consider that you are equally responsible for your life, including your effect on him.
Bottom line: for the medical issues, go see a doctor or clinic, promptly, and for your sake and the sake of your relationship, start reading up on relationships, or discussing them with qualified professionals or recognised support groups.
Your well-being is paramount, and he is also entitled to his well-being, but not at your expense.
Pregnancy and raising a child is quite simply the most important issue a couple can have, so the fact that you felt you had to lie about it rather than discuss it with him raises disturbing concerns, as does the fact that he 'pressured' you into sex.
Working backwards, I first believe you should go to a doctor or clinic and discuss the medical aspects - you have quite clearly felt unable to follow guidelines, for fear of your husband, so you will need medical advice as to how to deal with the current situation - I'm not a medical professional, merely an experienced adult, and you raise a combination that is outside my experience.
As to the other concerns, feeling afraid to discuss pregnancy, and feeling pressured into sex, are not normal, healthy reactions in a relationship. It is one thing to be concerned and frustrated - about any issue - that is par for the course for relationships, and normally the beginning of a conversation, which depending on the sophistication of the couple - not related to IQ, but that magic called common sense - will either lead to a row (argument) or a solution.
In this area above everything - this is not mowing the lawn, or making dinner - your body is your own, and no one, especially not your husband, has the right to determine your actions in regard to it.
He has the freedom to participate in sex, with or without contraception, with or without having a vasectomy, and with or without a woman who wants a baby or does not want a baby. In other words, he has the choice to be in a relationship with you, and to decide how he behaves in that relationship, but his rights end roughly at the surface of his skin: he cannot act, speak, threaten or impose without infringing on your natural and legal rights to safety, well-being and choice.
In this, you both have responsibilities: google co-dependency, to see how 'abusive' relationships can be a co-operation between 'abuser' and 'victim', but at the very least you need to take responsibility for your body and your decisions, and accept the risk that he may no longer be there for you or with you if your choice is one he disagrees with.
He is not entitled naturally or legally to pressure you 'into' something - he can only pressure himself 'out' of the relationship.
Equally, if you are an adult, you need to consider that you are equally responsible for your life, including your effect on him.
Bottom line: for the medical issues, go see a doctor or clinic, promptly, and for your sake and the sake of your relationship, start reading up on relationships, or discussing them with qualified professionals or recognised support groups.
Your well-being is paramount, and he is also entitled to his well-being, but not at your expense.
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