threesome & effect on a relationship

So my husband and I have been together for 4 years and we have been pretty happy but have had issues with other women at least 3 times in our relationship. I am bi and have had girlfriends before but when I got with him all I have wanted to do is look at other women all interest in being with them has passed but my husband has a fantasy of being with me and another woman. We have talked about it several times a year and have always decided not to do it but it keeps being brought up. I want to do it but I have a lot of issues and I cant even stand the thought of my husband inside of another female and I am really afraid that it is going to ruin my marriage if we do actually proceed with it as I have done a lot of thinking and research on the subject and the effects of it. though he really truly wants it and I am not sure what to do.

If Thressomes are so wonderful, why do many relationships fail at some point afterwards? I can't name one couple still together after going through with it. The relationships suffered degradation over time or shortly after. My theory is that it's centered around physical pleasure. Threesomes are also used as a means to check out of a marriage or relationship. The consequences are emotional, relational and usually affect someone's sexual health. The world is full of walking vectors of sexually transmitted diseases as it is. 1 in 4 has genital herpes, last I checked. That's not including other STDs. Condoms don't protect against everything and will never be 100% effective. What if you engage in a threesome and catch full blown AIDS? What if your partner thoroughly enjoys other people more than you? If you choose to do this in a long term relationship, look at the questions below and insert your partners name within the possible outcomes. (insert partners name) could leave me for another woman or man (insert partners name) could enjoy other people more than (insert your name). (insert partners name) may cheat on me if I don't want to continue or will refuse to leave the lifestyle. (Insert your name and partners name) could catch some of the many incurable sexually transmitted diseases! There could be consequences later on in my relationship that rear their heads when we least expect it. The list is long. Some who read this may think I'm repressive or something else. I assure you I'm not. I am an awakener. I awaken those who don't know what could happen so the can assess the risk and decide if the possible outcomes is worth it. Personally, I think it's not.

Here is how me and my wife did it. My wife has a girlfriend who I allow her to have sex with. She is bisexual and I don't have the equipment to give her everything she wants, so I'm okay with it (I understand that this may not work for everyone, but it works for us so please don't judge). One night when she came over I explained that I didn't want to wait for them to finish before I got mine, so me and this other girl both had sex with my wife at the same time. There was little to no contact between our friend and me, but it was still pretty awesome. The point is this: when I got married, I said goodbye to ever having sex with a woman other than my wife, the same way she will never have sex with any man other than myself. That being said, just having another girl there was a huge turn on for me and my wife enjoyed getting attention from a guy and a girl at the same time.

my husband wanted a threesome.he loves sex ans he loves f*****g two in the same time but i didnt agree with this threesome.instead i got angry at him because he invited a girl over and i was sleeping in my room alone and he was f*****g he in the living room downstairs.i was very angry at him and he told me it was a sex thing and that he is still in love with me.

it's sad to hear that some wives were been ignored just because another woman entered their bed, I think to give a wake up call to her man, she should ask 3some with another man, it's her right to have double pleasure too as her man have it, and will shows to her man that his wife/ girlfriend is desirable by other men, don't you think am right girls ? ;)

My husband and I have a female friend who lost her husband 5 years ago. The three of us are all in our mid-life. She's not had good luck in finding a decent honest man to provide friendship, companionship and romantic interest. As a friend and confidante she revealed to me she missed having a physical sexual relationship. A threesome turned out to a wonderful thing bringing the three of us together. My husband does not cheat on me nor feels he has a right or open invitation to see her on his own. However, about once a year we engage in a threesome that is playful, respectful, sexual, honest and endearing.

Gp pramila pramila

my wife and i indulge in threesome with the same woman all the time and my wife really enjoy looking at me and the other woman, i must say that it strengthen my marriage, i would not encourage any one to try it if your marriage isn't strong

LOL... and I believe the proper term they were looking for is "legible" is it not?

stupidd !!! thats whyy qirls are afriad wouldd happen

All of these 3some scenarios seem to be about man and two women. My wife and I have had a couple of very positive experiences with having another man join us. If anything, discussing the rules and the fantasies have strengthened our communication, and made our marriage much stronger.

So my husband asked if he could go outside the marriage for some s&m. After much badgering I relented. I also allowed him to involve me in s&m. After a fling with the other woman he then brought her home where we all played together. Now it is turning into a "what the future hold" proposition of three of us forever. At first it was an interesting threat. I competed. I lost weight, my sex drive went crazy. Now that she's here (off and on for now) it seems the jealousy monster has assumed it lost the battle and the good aspects have diminished. I can feel myself distancing myself from my husband to protect my heart from the pain. Will that anger and fear diminish too? Will we all be able to live together at some point. Can I tolerate the talk in a very small town? I'm not in love with her, though I enjoy playing with her. I do find it has turned on my "bi" switch and I am eager to find a lover of my own -  male or female. To keep the marriage intact it would have to be a female. Did we make a mistake letting in a stranger? Only time will tell. What happened to the person asking about threesomes in the very beginning? Still together, or long divorced? Sometimes I think my head will explode from all the emotions I am trying to sort out. Lately it's just made us both angry and we fight more. Good for angry sex, but that's not what you want all the time.

Advice for a girl, from a girl on the FMF variety : It depends on your relationship and why you're doing it. 1. If you're curious about a 3some because you suspect your partner of being unfaithful, becoming unfaithful or you have some insecurity that you may not be enough to completely fulfill them sexually or otherwise, or to fill some other void in the relationship - then Yes it probably will cause problems. because not only will that void or insecurity still exist after the fact, but then questioning and trust and jealousy issues will surface. If this is the case for you, and you really want to stay with your partner, focus on fulfilling eachother's needs first without a 3rd party involved (alot of guys like attractive, confident, independant, sexually fulfilling, socially fun, maternal women that make them feel secure. If you are lacking in some area, fix that first.) 2. If you're curious about a 3some because your dude is nagging you, also a red flag. Try to be more adventurous in bed and creative to keep his attention. Your man is the number one person in your life that you have to sell yourself to (goes both ways), so always be on your toes and attentive to his needs, look good, create a demand for yourself - this doesnt stop after you start dating, in continues through life if you want to keep him interested.. but it's fun. If he's nagging you about a 3some, he could be bored. And if you're not 100% for it you could end up paranoid. There are many other scenarios that cause varying results, but I imagine those 2 are most common. If you've accidentally had a 3some and now you're worried, remember that life is only 10-20% what happens and like 80% how you react to it. If you're able to control your feelings and emotions and keep your mind from wandering, take a step back, focus on fulfilling eachothers needs one on one and just having fun and enjoying life together without pigeonholing yourself into feeling overwhelmed and jealous and trying to find answers and predicting the future and blah blah blah, then sure you can still salvage your relationship. Try having a more lighthearted perspective and being more attentive to eachother then casually setting some boundaries, but the more you dwell on it, the more of a chance it has of ruining your relationship. Show him you're ok with what happened (even if you're not, this shows strength and versatility) but that you want to focus on creating more adventure with just the 2 of you for a while. And then don't f*n bring it up! Men deal with a lot of stress and want to come home to someone who is going to relieve that, not add more. What probably causes most couples to break up after 3 somes is a combination of insecurity and beating the issue into the ground. Remember that humans arent by nature monogamous. What makes us monogamous is religious belief and the desire to conquer the struggles of life and enjoy wonderful things with a partner. Relationships bring stability, etc. But most relationships nowadays aren't based on solid terms, thats why things like 3 somes and random retarded things can ruin relationships so easily. If the sex in your relationship isnt fulfilling, exciting, etc. it can breed infidelity.. The question is, what's better - your dude cheating on you (or visa versa) or presenting the idea of a 3 some.. lol (i guess not funny to everyone). Back in the day couples were working units, and they stuck together no matter what, they treated it as if there was no other option, til death do us part. Nowadays people just fall in love and become infatuated or just enjoy someones company without really developing solid companionship or partnership or udnerstanding eachother because everyone is busy and distracted. women are more independent now.. everyone has so many options.. etc. Alot of relationships these days are defined by sex, and thats why sexual activity is such a controlling factor. Is sex the most important thing.. No. Regardless of who you're with, you're going to run into problems. It's up to and your partner to decide whether you're in it for the long haul and you're strong enough to overcome obstacles. I was actually surprised when I googled this topic and everyone is all like "yeah you're relationship is definately done." You have more control over outcomes in your relationship then you think, its just whether you want to be a strong woman and fight for it and compensate for the experience or cry about it and give up. If you were enough to attract your dude in the first place, then you also possess the power to keep him interested and make yourself the only woman he would ever desire. Women are feelings-centric, but sometimes you have to let go of your feelings and stop 'following your heart' and just be more clever. So me and my boyfriend just had a threesome, lol.. We've been together about 7 months. He's a successful 27 y/o entrepreneur, 6 figures. I'm a 28 y/o professional in and out of jobs.. lol. He's an ex jock (football, basketball etcetera, also used to be the 'player' type). I'm a healing artist and musician type..The sex is phenomenal - mindblowing, the social aspect is phenomenal - VIP everywhere, I accidentally moved in with him recently =) and the home-life is great.. lots of affection, i enjoy cooking and cleaning for him (I'm a tomboy, btw - but happy to be with someone now who is more aggressive/assertive than me so I don;t have to wear the pants anymore), he enjoys taking care of me, etc.. I make sure I'm everything he needs right now, because eventually he is going to be everything I need (he already is for the most part). I help him get ready for the work week, massages when he's sore, helping with his laundry etc.. in turn he gives me what I need. The words I love you have slipped out here and there, interests in a future together are implied but we dont beat the idea of marriage and kids into the ground, we are both a little guarded but completely into eachother at the same time, makes for a fun 'game'. But the walls will be completely down soon enough. We have fought A LOT.. typically due to different levels of maturity, competing egos, etc. but neither of us have given up.. and gradually the fights have been diminishing and become less severe, maturity levels are evening out, and close to smooth sailing. This is definately the most exciting and rewarding relationship I have ever been in - because no matter what happens, we dont give up and we are both so willing to grow and adapt into eachother that it really doesnt matter what adversity we're faced with. I'm his second 'committed' relationship, so he's still learning - but its amazing watching him give himself to me and become more comfortable.. and I'm patient. I've had all different types of relationships - this one is like a Bonnie and Clyde type deal.. it feels like we're out to conquer the world together. We are kind of a power couple in our environment, attractive, everyone likes to be around us - always having little adventures either by ourselves or with friends. No matter what happens I'm going to be right there behind him to support him and he is always there when I need him. The understanding part has been slow going because we are so different, but we are really starting to understand and appreciate eachother. Long story short.. We were out raging it (strip club, bar, after-hours then hotel then home), brought a couple girls and a guy friend back to our place.. One girl for our guy friend.. and the other girl for us.. she had asked my dude earlier in the night if she could share me with him. I'm a sexual vixen, strong. worldly person so i played into it bc my guy showed interest earlier in the night and wanted to please him, even though I really didnt feel like it by the time it happened (and neither did he really) it was close to 7 in the morning. (He's getting ready to relocate for work and said 'you should bring one of these girls home as a going away present' earlier in the night.. I will be relocating with him btw.) So the 3 of us get into bed, pop in LIMITLESS she and I are discussing religion or some other retarded shh** because we're both 'intellectuals', my guy goes into the bathroom and by the time he comes out she and I are making out and my face is in her chest.. then she goes down on me and he's sexually forward so he controlled the situation from there.. But in my case, he did not have intercourse with her and she did not perform oral sex on him. They kissed and he played with her breasts but the majority of the time it was them both pleasing me. Then I finished her off in the end. Then we took everyone home.. lol. It was morning, i hadnt slept - couldnt wait for everyone to get out of the car and it just be him and I. I felt that usual guilt and paranoia for a bit.. but i didnt say anything.. i heard him mutter "toughen up" to me while we were driving everyone home. I didn't want to be that girl that was like "OMG OMG OMG" so i barely brought it up.. lol. I just asked him if he had fun and he said "I'm just glad that you did." and then i put down a beer at a friends house and felt like a million bucks after that. we went home and cuddled, held hands and slept and havent talked about it since. The aftermath? Im not going to lie, I have wicked fantasies and ive had a 3 some WMW and MMW and been intimate with a girl before, and i think about sexually deviant things (Pisces) so this was probably more my doing than his. because our sex was already amazing it was just like adding a sex toy except it was a live human being. it enhanced a sexual experience that was already on point. What it seems to be doing for me is allowing my fantasies to die down a little bit - i worked something out of my system, and it worked some tension out of our relationship. It felt like we were on a covert mission together and we accomplished it as a team, so it strengthened our bond. My interest in 3somes has faded a bit and now im just interested in really continuing to strengthen US.. without anyone else involved. Thats not to say that it will never happen again in the future.. but I would be perfectly fine if it didnt. Maybe i will allow a couple more bouts of experimentation before we get married.. but at this time I'm not interested. It was super fun.. but entirely not necessary.. haha. But so far there has been no negative repercussion. It's made us more loving and attentive to eachother, and the fact that I just let it go seems to impress him and make him respect me more. If he presents the idea again I'm going to kindly tell him 'not at this time' and fulfill his fantasies on my own, but i think we're both over it for a while. We all spend our lives worrying about cheating, and sexual c**p and ignore whats important - partnership, support, understanding, communication. Embrace the good things in your relationship and work on the sh*tty things. If things dont seem salvagable then move on and make better choices next time.

Are u an ur wife stikl together?