Hi guys I'm 18 years old and I have a rather embarrassing problem. I'm currently in a relationship with a girl. When I try to enter her my penis becomes flaccid,keep in mind I'm still a virgin. So this is what happened last night she invited me to her home and we were on the bed and we were kissing and we gave each other oral so she is lying on the bed and I go on top of her and when I try to enter I start to become flaccid. I'm becoming really frustrated because of this. I think the problem is when we do all this stuff like kissing and oral it's a very fast tempo and when we slow down to put the condom on and than me trying to enter her I become flasid. Her private parts are small so I have to go very slow and that probably unconsciously turns me off. The problem might be because I watch a lot of porn since I was 10 years old and in those movies everything goes fast and nice you enter fast and go fast.So maybe in my head I have high expectations from sex and when it doesn't match does expectations I get turned off.In those porn movies everything goes fast from oral to entering her, and when I do it with her everything goes fast kissing oral and when I try to enter it becomes super slow and then I get turned off. I don't know what to do I'm frustrated that this keeps happening especially because this is in my head and its unconscious so I can't control it. I need help guys.
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Now you are learning why watching porn is bad for you, what you see in porn movies isn't real it's all staged and set up to look like that as each scene is shot.
When you see them first start kissing to the point of where they are having sex to the climax is done over many takes!
Just forget what you see in porn movies because sex should never be like that, you should take your time from the first kiss to starting to undress each other kissing and exploring both your whole bodies not just genitals before even having oral sex that way it leads up to the actual slow loving intercourse you should be having at the end.
First time sex can fail due to loss of erection for him or lack of lubrication or vaginal muscles constricting for her and it's mainly caused by anxiety to over perform, just slow down what you are doing and if it fails it's not the end of the world just go back to oral or hand stimulation to get each other off or even just masturbate for each other. If as you say you girlfriend is small I take it you mean her vagina is tight because she is a virgin to why not let her be control and use the cow girl position that way she knows how it feels for her and when to stop and take it steady as you slip inside her.
As I said forget what you see in porn and just set aside a couple hour or more to just take things slow, once you have mastered the art of sex then you can start thinking about going faster and doing other things, you can't run as a child until you have learnt to walk an the same goes for everything in life, learn the basics first.
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