Hi there,
I'm not even sure how common this is in males, normally I hear about the complete opposite (i.e. Premature Ejacualtion), however I have a problem with taking far too long to orgasm...
It's very nerve racking for both me and my partner, because even with their best efforts sometimes I just can't seem to finish, which simply leaves both of us tired and frustrated.
Not to mention watching them orgasm with such ease is really causing me some problems with jealousy, and I don't like it one bit.
I find I constantly either lose focus, and have to try to focus very hard on reaching climax.. which not only takes half the fun out of it, but also makes me feel even more self concious during sexual acts.
I am extremely attracted to my partner, and we've tried several different things, all of which feel amazing at the time, but just NOTHING seems to get me there. Even when I masturbate it can take me a long time, though not normally as lengthy as when I'm with someone.
Aside from seeking some sort of psychiatric help, does anyone know of medication to help QUICKEN orgasm? I figure there must me something out there... we're hoping for something easier than spending hundreds to thousands on counseling.
Please let me know! I'd really like to know the feeling of a Quickie!! lol
I'm not even sure how common this is in males, normally I hear about the complete opposite (i.e. Premature Ejacualtion), however I have a problem with taking far too long to orgasm...
It's very nerve racking for both me and my partner, because even with their best efforts sometimes I just can't seem to finish, which simply leaves both of us tired and frustrated.
Not to mention watching them orgasm with such ease is really causing me some problems with jealousy, and I don't like it one bit.
I find I constantly either lose focus, and have to try to focus very hard on reaching climax.. which not only takes half the fun out of it, but also makes me feel even more self concious during sexual acts.
I am extremely attracted to my partner, and we've tried several different things, all of which feel amazing at the time, but just NOTHING seems to get me there. Even when I masturbate it can take me a long time, though not normally as lengthy as when I'm with someone.
Aside from seeking some sort of psychiatric help, does anyone know of medication to help QUICKEN orgasm? I figure there must me something out there... we're hoping for something easier than spending hundreds to thousands on counseling.
Please let me know! I'd really like to know the feeling of a Quickie!! lol
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I know what you mean.
We all practice trying to last a long time to avoid being "premature" and then it takes too long.
Try masturbating and get yourself close to the point of orgasm.
But don't go over the edge. Then the next time you have sex, warm yourself up again before the big night. Hopefully those warm up sessions will you get you over the edge faster next time.
We all practice trying to last a long time to avoid being "premature" and then it takes too long.
Try masturbating and get yourself close to the point of orgasm.
But don't go over the edge. Then the next time you have sex, warm yourself up again before the big night. Hopefully those warm up sessions will you get you over the edge faster next time.
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There is such a thing as male orgasmic disorder. This is defined as a lack of male orgasm despite being able to have sex no problem, so no erectile dysfunction. Interestingly, that disorder is listed in the diagnostic and statistical manual for mental disorders, meaning it's seen as a mental health rather than physiological issue. Still, I've heard that thyroid issues or hormonal issues can cause the same problem.
If I were you, I'd be swinging by my doctor's office to see what's going on. If there's a medical cause it can be treated, and if not, at least you know what it is and you could look into therapy.
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I am glad there are other guys having this same problem as me.
I would feel strange to be the only one.
truth is that we are not normal. haha
Nah, seriously. I am not sure. I can't Ejaculate when having sex either.
I go for an hour and we just get to tired. Then we just stop. she has all the fun and i have no fun. haha.
so who knows. but if anyone has an answer. I am sure it would help me and many guys out.
I would feel strange to be the only one.
truth is that we are not normal. haha
Nah, seriously. I am not sure. I can't Ejaculate when having sex either.
I go for an hour and we just get to tired. Then we just stop. she has all the fun and i have no fun. haha.
so who knows. but if anyone has an answer. I am sure it would help me and many guys out.
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Relax your muscles man. If you are, don't try to force it out. Let it come naturally. Don't focus on it.
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I have this same problem and I meditate and clear my mind... I have done the relaxing of the muscles... None of it seems to help. Masturbating is easy I can achieve orgasm in no time but intercourse.... FORGET IT! This is not a new problem for me. I am 28 and I have been having this problem since I was 17. Any partner I have had has no problem, and it's frustrating and disappointing when you can't get off with them. Anyways...
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I am genuinely relieved that some one else is having difficulty with this "problem" but I don't have a solution. I feel abnormal because every time I have sex I can't orgasm or it takes a few hours. I have tried relaxing and have even tried smoking marijuana to unwind but nothing works. Eating healthy did nothing and having a few drinks did nothing either. What is this called and how can I fix it ( It is very frustrating watching your girl orgasm and you can't).
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Its true, stop masturbating with your hand. When your having sex with your girl you are expecting it to feel as good as when you use your hand. My girl showed up one day unexpectedly and wanted to have sex. We did, it was great however I couldn't cum, why? Because I did it only hours before she just showed up. Any time when I prolong my masturbation and have sex with her I always cum within time rather then not at all. It may seem hard, it is to me still to resist masturbating but once you orgazim with your girl its like no other, and is much worth the wait to do it with her.
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I've been dealing with this problem for 35 years and I'm here to tell you that it's OK. Through my late teens (when I became sexually active) I could never cum when with a partner and a lot of the time it took forever when I masturbated. In my early 20's I started to give up some of my "preconceived" notions about sex and what other people told me how sex should or should not be. (e.g. The Catholic Church, what you can and can't do cause it will make you gay etc.) This started a big change in my release during masturbation but not with sexual partners. When I hit 30 I meet someone who would become my life parter for the next 20 years. Everything changed, I felt so comfortable and relaxed having sex that I never had a problem climaxing again. I was able to be who I was without the feeling of shame or guilt that society place on me. Unfortunately my partner passed on and I'm about ready to go back into the dating cesspool and we shall see if the problem still exists or I have out grown it. Oh, and remember, at least we have a boner. : ) ======= ) ~ ~ ~
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i have 2 agree with the people saying it happens 2 men from masterbating 2 mutch but i hav found if u penitrate the women hard it also help the ejaculation process
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yo man i just had the same problem with this last night and after an hour and a half i just gave up and told her i finished.then after i took a piss really easy.and i remembered if u dont piss b4 u have sex the cum has to work its way pasture piss which is why it takes so long and is a b***h so b4 ure about to have sex just take a monster piss
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hi i see that im not the only one with this problem and my girl and i tried many things and we have come to the conclusion that its all in your head one day during sex i was joking around with her couse her mouth and lower half started to get sore i jokingly said to her "hey babe maybe you need some help finishing me" expecting a slap or a curse she agreed and we went on with our little idea shokingly it worked the situation was so hot, and new that my brain couldnt even process what was happening. of course we only did this with close freinds prefirebly her girlfreinds and we just kept it fresh like that up to this day.
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your not alone man every since me and one of my exes broke up two years ago it has taken me forever for me to orgasm during sex i orgasm easiest from oral and masterbating
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I'm having the same problem. When I first had a sex, I thought OMG I'm gonna cum in seconds, but it took me about a half an hour with no happy-ending and then another half hour, but still nothing. It happened once again and I thought I was different, so I tried freaky pervert porn, but it has no effect. ha****b lasts from 5 - 10 minutes and If I want, which I obviously dont 30-40 minutes. But because vagina is not that tight it prolongs it and procrastinate for ever. I mean I couldn achive it and it frustrates me and makes me wanna give up on it. Why? It's an easy question. You are getting it from the media about girls wanting an everlasting tantric sh*t, but in fact we would have swapped it for a premature ejaculation if we had a chance. We just can't go and have sex on the disco clubs toilet, because we woul be there till the sunrise. No quickies and lots of frustration.I hope there will be a cure for this. Some people are already got off when you just warming up. Gosh.
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well i knew i wasnt the only one but i barely started having sex and i expect so much more, dont get me wrong its pretty awesome but i dont jizz she loves it but then its lame for me. the other day i told her if she was down to get high and we did we had sex at the park and it was like very sexual and i was high and i orgasmed. it was awesome. later that night the high wore off and we did it again and i couldnt cum. so since i see alot of similar stories and no answers im just going to say... SMOKE SOME WEED! if uve never tried it ure missing out and if yu have yu know how awesome it feels and the funny stories you end up with and i might sound like a cheesy commercial but if it worked for me it will probably work for you.unicorns poop tacos.
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