26 days post hemorrhoidectomy

Hi All! I just came back from the hospital they left a stitch in!!!! And it was sticking out of my head!!! o.O 8-| The nurse said "Well you could leave it!!!" I replied "What am I supposed to do with it, put mascara on it?!!!!!!!" ;-) XD Then this week, I had a saw jaw so went to the dentist and thought I had a cavity, and WHAM of course it's not a regular cavity, I have a majory infection in my tooth and in my jaw!!!!! I need an operation next week!!!!!!!! Can you believe it?!! I don't know if your brain or stress can cause c**p to happen!!! I swear guys, if I was to write ALL of the stuff that has gone on with me, NO ONE would believe it!!! It gets too much! Our furnace broke down, a lot of our roof blew off! my husband had a car accident, and my eldest son was expelled!!!!!!!! This was ALL this week!!!! Is that unreal or what?!

Anyways hope everyone is fine! Hugs to all! Dawn

Dawn... I'm truly sorry about everything that is happening with you! I will do a extra prayer for you sweetie... Is your husband ok? What happened? Oh, and your son got in trouble at school? You need surgery on your mouth? Ugh, and you have stitches still... You poor thing... I hope things start to get better for you.... I'm not doing well... The second fissure I have, opened up again and I'm in a lot of pain and bleeding with BM's and having small clots and I just don't know what to do? Its like I will be fine for 10 days or so being regular (I do everything I'm supposed to) and for some reason, I get one hard BM and it starts all over again and I re-injure myself... I cannot heal!!! I want to get the 3rd surgery and get it over with but my mother does not want me to do it... I truly understand her concern because of everything I've been through but my body can't heal on its own.... I can't take this pain and she does not get it! I love her to pieces and I know she loves me as well and is caring as a mother should... but sometimes she thinks she knows everything (like she's a experienced doctor) and she's not... she has not ever had to deal with this sort of thing... when you are in so much pain, you get desparate to do anything that may give you hope to get yourself healed... Its just hard to explain... Its just she's stressing me out sometimes and right now, I can't deal with it! I don't take that much pain meds anymore and she just wants me to take nothing! Its like human torture not having anything for pain.... I realize she's concerned that it may constipate but I go normally with my stool softners, and laxatives.. and its just every 10-14 days I'll have that one hard BM... This has always happened to me whether I took meds or not... Thats just how my body works... I can't go on with taking nothing for my pain... I try motrin, tylenol, and ultram.... It helps a little bit but I still am suffering and I can't take it much more..... I even thought about asking for a temporary colostomy so my bottom can heal but I realize there's a big risk for infection there too.. so I can't win.... I miss talking with all of you... I wish I could get my own computer hooked up... Miss you.. Hugs and Love... :-D

Wendy? Hi there.. I miss you too... I just don't have access to a computer all the time... so I'm unable to chat more often... How are you doing? How is your family? Are you healed yet? I hope so... I know you've been through a lot as well... Not only do I have a 2nd fissure, I have quite a few skin tags I developed.. It looks like a small cluster of hemis... but right now, I don't care about them, I just want my 2nd fissure to heal and its not.... It just keeps reopening every couple weeks, then I'm starting from square one again... I'm just getting very frustrated and upset and depressed at this point... I mean come on, this has been going on since May... Something is just not right or normal... Hugs to you... and you are still in my prayers as well.... :-D

Dr. Red? Hi there.. sorry I have not written to you in awhile.. Thank you for opening up to me a little so I know something about you... I'm happy you are in a nice relationship, lucky gal you have there...He he... Maybe you'll be walking down the isle someday? You would have to invite us Crack of Dawn group though! We could be the life of your party afterwards.. LOL... Although I'd be the one sitting on a donut pillow... Ha ha.. Hugs to you too.... I'll keep you all updated... ;-)

Hi Lisa! Ask your doctor about a temporary Colostomy! This is done A LOT for people who need time for their colon and anus to heal! I don't really like the idea of the botox - I know it can work! Just worried about the other outcomes - IF it went wrong! And I know you think you are NOT healing but you are, it's just you need longer so when you have a hard BM! You aren't in a mess! I STILL have this problem Lisa! And it has been 14 years, I can have ZERO problems and then all it takes is 1 compaction and WHAM! So don't feel that this is a life sentence - so to speak - it's just our bums are SO wrecked, we just have to realize that it is our norm! NOT saying ata ll that you shouldn't access any available help that you can, it's just I'm worried that this will continue for you! Some doctors are quick to try and operate while others aren't! I have a dip in my recturm and colon! But they refuse to operate as this will definitely have adverse affects. Talk to this guy about the temporary Colostomy OK? Hugs to all!

Down it really is unbelievable that all this is happening to you. It seams to me that you are getting along with this and that you are holding things in your hands. If it was me, I would cracked ages ago. You are a real strong women. And still you have time for a joke. :-)
I really don't understand that nurse telling you you can leave it like that?!!? What does that mean?!

Hi Lisa to you to. Well who knows time will show. Things are fine now, and I hope that they will stay that way. :-)
Now about that third surgery. If the chances of you healing faster are bigger that this way, I would suggest you to do it. See with a doctor what are your best chances.

Wendy are you doing well? Hope to hear from you soon.

All the best to all of you.

I know I've been delinquent on this thread but things went so well with my friend's procedure that I ended up not needing to post anything important. Of course he's been out of work and recovering for awhile now but I got a new roommate out of the deal and he's been doing great. I haven't had to do anything for him for about three weeks now and he told me that he feels as though he recovered 100% yesterday. Is that too early? He had the procedure done in August.

Dawn, wow girl, what to say? when it rains it pours? GEEZ, you've been through alot. I agree with Dr. Red that you are a very strong woman! I wouldn't have been able to deal with things as well as you, your a woman to look up to for sure! You remind me of that old saying "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger"! I hope you are doing better today, hun. Hugs to you dear!

Lisa, I agree with Dawn about the colon bag. Here's why: I started drinking vegenique, had regular bowel movements and everything healed, except I was left with skin tags, right? Ok, so then recently I pulled a neck muscle in my neck and started taking some of my left over narcotics. They made me really constipated and I had a really hard bowel movement even though I was still drinking veganique. I thought for sure I was going to rip because of how impacted I was; but because my bum was healed, I didn't! I was sooooo happy about that!

So anyways, you're kind of in a catch 22, so to say because if you take the narcotics, you will get constipated and probably keep ripping. If you don't take pain meds, the pain is absolutely unbearable when it happens; so if you get a colon bag, you'll be able to go off the pain meds and let your bum FULLY heal.

So that's why I agree with Dawn. I really want to see you better!

Dr. Red, thank you for asking how I am. I'm doing well. This weekend I went out with a group of 12 people and played paintball for the first time. OUCH! I had one time when I got blasted by three people at once! Afterwards, we all had show and tell to show our prized bruises. I had alot. I really had quite a bit of fun, though! Would I do it again? Maybe...........

Healthfitness guy, so glad to here of your friends sucess! I think we all heal at different rates and that it can definetly happen that he healed quickly. I think that's wonderful.

Hugs to all, Wendy

Hi Wendy,
I love paintball. Me and some of my friends went last month to play a game. I have to be honest, I was really good. :-) I only got two bruises, one on my left leg and one on my right. And that is all from sticking my legs out in clear space. My team won off course. Good that you mentioned this, maybe I can organize my friends to go again in next few days. Maybe for a weekend.
Also I'm really happy to hear that you are doing fine now. Just keep it that way.

Down, Lisa, how are you guys? I hope that things are getting better for both of you.

Hi Wendy, Dawn, Dr. Red and Health fit guy...... I miss all of you soooooo much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't really type a letter but wanted to let you know that I'm ok (for now) and I thank you for all your prayers and support.... Hopefully I won't need a poop bag after all... :$ I wanted that to be the LAST resort... I don't take much pain meds anymore... I still don't go but every few days but at least the pain is not as bad.... I sure hope all of you are doing alright? Still have no computer to hook up.... I can't wait to get it hooked backed up!! ;-) Maybe have some privacy... Yeah thats it! LOL :-D Hugs to you all.. and I still think of all of you often!!!! Just remember I have not left you.... Ha ha.. I just can't get on here as much.... Miss all of you and lots of love......

Lisa

Hi All!!! Lisa - a temporary Colostomy is used for people to heal, it is COMPLETELY reversable, and is temporary! So I know it doesn't sound like a great thing! But on the other hand if you can heal and get this all over, then HALLELUJAH!!!!

DR - IF you call me Down one more time I am going to scream!!!! ;-) ;-) XD XD And THAT wouldn't be good for my stitches, which another one came out again and I need the incision cut open again and reattached!!!!!! At least I know what I'm going as for Halloween!!!!!! 8-| :-S XD ;-)

I would LOVE to go paintballing, But instead of the masks, I would like everyone to wear different political figure masks, preferably people like penis Chaney, George Bush, Margaret Thatcher etc, then I would BLAST away! That would be SO therapeutic for me, and throw in there a few ex boyfriend pictures then you have yourself a date!!! LOL

Lisa! If you are having problems with "Privacy" Just walk around naked!!! And say "You said to make myself feel at home!" Or while your mom is out, why don't you and hubby have a "playdate" in the living room so when she walks back in o.O o.O o.O ! Then soon she will move out of her own home!!!! ;-) ;-) It wont be too much longer honey!!! You've been through worse havne't you?!! On the other hand I could NOT live with my dad!!!!! He would drive me up the wall! we might have too if we dont' sell our house soon and get out of debt!!! It's HELL!!! I just thank God that I don't have to worry about no health insurance etc, as you guys do! I can't wrap my mind around that you know? I have counselled so many people on here, that can't get help because they don't have insurance!!!! Hopefully that will change for you guys sooner than later!! Anyway hon, ask this new doctor what he thinks about a temporary operation!

Hugs and love to all\

Dawn (DOWN!) ;-)

I am so sorry Dawn, I really didn't notice that I have been typing your name incorrectly. Please forgive me.
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And considering paintball, really good idea. :-)

Lisa good to know that you are still with us. Just stay well. You'll get your computer hooked up soon.

Wendy, how are those bruises? Still on? :-)

Once again I'm sorry for the mistake. :-(

Lisa, Dawn, Dr. Red and Healthfittness Guy,

I justed wanted to say thank you for being there for me. You really helped me through some things when I needed all of you. Lisa, I'm so happy to hear that you don't think you'll need a bag, which must mean you must be healing. I'll probably check back periodically just to see that your still on the healing path. Dawn, you have been a great supporter and I think it is healing for you to do this in the face of everything your going through yourself, somehow things just work out that way. I wish you the best and abundant healing as well. Dr. Red, you have been such a great guy to put up with all our "girl talk", bless you for that. Healthfittness Guy, I was pleased to meet you and if your into fitness like your title, I may see you around on other parts of this thread, as questions arise or if I just feel like supporting someone that's gone through something I may know a little bit about. Take care everyone! God blesses! Hugs, Wendy

Hi Wendy! Have I missed something here? Are you leaving us? Is something going on honey? I know we can't talk about our bums for ever but, we can still talk about life in general! RU OK?

DR. JKing with you there buddy! XD

I just had the surgery for a minor lump of flesh that was difficult to keep clean and was often sore and throbbing. I had the surgery on Wednesday and it is now Sunday. I already popped a stitch and it looks infected so I just started some antiobiotics. I am 23 and I wish I would have just left my chunk of flesh alone.

The vicodin made me constipated and I passed 12 inches of hard stool. I really can't stop crying and I am so worried something worse will happen and I won't heal.

You are all suffering so much more than I am but I am freaking out and don't know what to do. The fact that my surgeon is an hour and 45 minutes away doesn't make this any easier. I fear I will have to have another bowel movement soon even though I just had one and it was like.. Bristol Stool chart number 5 or 6.

I have IBS so I always have bowel movements but this is a nightmare and I wish I just canceled like I wanted to instead of letting my mother talk me into going through with it. I knew this happened.

So tempted to take an imodium so I don't have to poo til tomorrow morning. I used to pop those like candy so they don't really clog me up.

At a loss here and I feel really alone

I am on the toilet right now.. I have had 7 bowel movements since yesterday morning. 4 were hard stools and the rest is mushy and not as hard to pass but still hurts so so much. And now I fear this next bowel movement will be diarrhea. I popped a stitch and my wound has some pus. I am so miserable and hating myself for going through with this when all I had was a large skin tag that was always sore and made it difficult to stay clean. I feel so stupid for doing this...

I had to take half a vicodin just now to slow my bowels down a bit so I don't have diarrhea. I am so scared and there is nothing anyone can do for me.

I am scared I will get an anal fissure, anal stenosis, a necrotic wound, that I just wont heal and my ass will be ruined forever. But most of you seem to have had good recoveries and I just.. I am on day 5.

I apologize if I post too much but my parents aren't very supportive and I am just losing it. I haven't really eaten in 2 days or slept because I keep having to wake up to have a bowel movement and when I try to eat I have to have a bowel movement. I am so weak.

Oh and my doctor refused to let me have any kind of numbing gel. Said I would get infected if i used it but it hurts so much I just want less pain so I don't have to bother the neighbors and my family with my cries and screaming.

I can't imagine how you all did it I'd probably would have offed myself. I am just so weak. I've had IBS since I was 14 and having IBS symptoms when you are cut open is a nightmare times 100. I just hope this lets up soon so I can have a break from defecating and not have to go til tomorrow. AND ONLY ONCE TOMORROW PLEASE LORD? This will be my second time today. I am tempted to take an imodium but I don't want to be constipated either. i guess diarrhea is better because at least I wont bleed as much or rip myself but it burns... it hurts even when you haven't had surgery.

I apologize for my misspellings but I am a bit too weak to type this out. Thank you for letting me post in your thread and I hope I don't bother you.