Unfortunately I am the other woman.. Relationship is fresh even though I know him for most of my life. He is 65 and cannot get it hard. Fore play is not an issue, there is nothing we do not do. <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />
But he just will not get hard. I am not embarrassed, and nor is he. But it is a problem for both of us. He takes Viagra and it still does not work. He wanted to take a double dose and I did not allow him to. After reading on Viagra, I am scared. He is taking the maximum dose. I just do not want the reason to be me. He says that it is not me that it has to be a medical problem. Dr. prescribed the Viagra and did tests but everything is fine. What else can it be..?
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Hello Elizabeth,
If there is nothing wrong with him medically, then it's a psychological issue. There is a reason, in his mind, why he cannot get an erection. When you say you are 'the other woman' are you referring to an affair with a married man or are you his second wife? If an affair is going on, he could be displaying feelings of guilt unconsciously. If you are the second wife, the same could apply. You may want to ask him to see a sex therapist or counselor. They are professionally trained and will be able to get at the heart of the issue.
I would also suggest you take a look at his medications and read all the side effects. If it's one of his medications then he should go to his doctor and have them presecribe another substitute. Blood pressure medications are notorious for affecting penile erections but whatever you do do not have him stop taking it because it will be very dangerous to his health.
You are very wise to make sure he does not double his dose of viagra.
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I agree with everything Birdwatcher has to say. It may quite likely be psychological in combination with medications.
I'm 72 and I haven't seen a good erection in many years. I had heart bypass surgery 16 years ago and they put me on blood pressure pills for the first time in my life after that. When I started cardiac rehab, the first question the girl interviewing me asked was "How's your sex life?" At the time it was looking like it might be heading towards "great". The first night I was home from the hospital my wife jumped my bones and had her way with me. I had always dreamed of being ridden like a rodeo bull but she was never willing. Alas that was the only time she ever did it and we went back to my sex life being mostly in my dreams.
Even though in the past she did about everything she could think of to discourage sex, my penis always worked fine given the opportunity. After beginning the blood pressure pills it slowly lost it's ability. I'll never know if it was the pills or if the "monkey finally learned" as Raymond would call it.
However, one time a few months ago I had a decent erection in the middle of the night. The only one I've seen in at least 10 years, so I suspect the pills are not the main cause of my problem. But why should I give a shxt? I have nothing to use it for, if I do get it working on command. Maybe if she goes first, I'll get a chance to find out.
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