can't stop mastrubating

You should know that excessive masturbation is not healthy at all. It depends on the age, but a middle aged men should masturbate just 2 or 3 times a week. Some people say that masturbating way too often can not make any harm to you and suggests if it makes you pleasure, why not do it?! On the other hand, there is another opinion about over masturbation, the opinion of experts which say that excessive masturbation leads to producing male sex hormones in great amounts which could turn the brain and body functions to be extremely sympathetic. I just don’t want to make you confused, masturbation is healthy but if over practiced, it can have some effects that you might won’t like, such as fatigue, lower back pain, hair loss and even boldness, testicular pain etc. Over masturbating can also make your next erections softer which could have a negative effect on your sex life so therefore, I think you should cut down on masturbating.

thank you very much.
bakura

i used to have that problem. i think it just became unnappealing and so i stopped. prayer and self help books on the root of your problem should help. maybe the root is: control, stress relief, or boredom. there are healthier answers to all three roots. counceling, karate, or taking up a hobby like cooking could help.
right now i have anxiety problems, so i'm reading a book on stress relief. it's a Christian book, so it has a lot of verses from the Bible in it. the Bible is Spiritually established, so it's trustworthy.
don't give up if you don't get immediate results!!! your realization is actually very encouraging to me!! i pray that God will open your heart and show you the life He has in store for you. :-D

You think u've got problems!
I have to masturbate 3 times a day and sometimes more and have been doing for 18 months straight!
do I need help?! thanks

I'm married and sometimes I enjoy masturbating, I have heard that excessive masturbating can create problems for your health.

You say you "have" to masterbate 3 or more times a day!!! Why?

Are you married or in a committed relationship?

Sometimes, less is best, even when it comes to self satisfaction. It is perfectly fine to masterbate and it's healthy, but 3 or more times a day would bore me to death.



I think you should learn how to practice a little self control. You can go to your local library and get some self help books. They also have books on CD's if your not interested in reading.

Master your thoughts. The thoughts we have are powerful. You'll find that because you are addicted to masturbation that it is because you have chosen many times now to follow the impulses you have received, perhaps without regard as to whether it is right or wrong. If you feel that it is wrong for you then it is. If you feel it is right for you than you are forgetting the time when masturbation stopped bringing you greater excitement (however temporary). You are choosing to ignore the moments when you've felt in despair or depressed.

You have accepted the fecal feeling of dedication that is only a short commitment (minutes, a few hours, etc.) to whatever focus you are giving yourself to. That short commitment can only bring a temporary, quickly eroded thrill. You know that already. Compare that to the excitement and happiness that you will have with greater commitments, that of long term commitments that bring joy and happiness to you. "Find something else to do." is great advice. In order to do something else you have to think something else.

Here are some great steps to take.

- Decide that you truly do want to quite masturbating. (Write it on a piece of paper and sign your name to it)

- Identify those things that you do like that you do enjoy. Make a list of things that you do that bring you intense emotion afterward and not just during. Remember those intense emotions may be in several categories (general happiness, excitement, peace, adoration, feeling accomplished etc.)

- Keep a list of the things that you will use to fill your life in the future where you would in the past use masturbation. Remember to add or include on your list things that you can do at any time, no matter what. Some examples are (sing a song you like in your head, think about somebody you love, think about amazing places you'd like to go, think about your list itself and all the things on it and what about them bring you better happiness, visualize yourself actually doing the things you love to do, think about how long you have stayed committed to your decision to move away from masturbation and toward more fulfilling things)

- Make a personal mission statement for yourself about who you are and what you want to be. This ought to be as general or specific as you like but make sure that the focus is not masturbation or avoiding masturbation. Your focus ought to be on you and what you want from life. Say the good things about yourself that you either are right now or want to be. Memorizing this statement and thinking about how well you're living up to it are two things that will benefit you. Remember, you made the statement yourself.

- When you are confronted by a friend or loved one that thinks you are wrong for not masturbating explain to them that you feel it is wrong and ask for their support. As they support you recognize it and move forward. For those that continue to tell you that you are wrong ask them to respect your wishes anyway. They may even claim that it's healthy. Stick to your own feelings of desiring to move on to other things and tell them that you would like them to support you if you decided to stop eating vegetables, stop reading or stop exercising. All of those things can bring you personal benefit but you would hope that those who care about you would respect you for your decision rather than accost you on the matter when the opportunity arises. You may not feel the same way about those activities as you do about masturbation and hopefully you don't. But to the person who believes it to be a healthy practice this may help them see how you recognize that they are trying to help you but that you are making your own choices and in doing so you hope that they will focus on the many things that unify you in your friendship or any other type of relationship rather than focusing on one part of your relationship that to you is very important.

Hope it will help

Hey , im 14 yr old i masturbate more than 3 times a week but now i'm trying to stop it just you have to busy and not think about this , make your slef near to god and get off every thing sexual and decide to read the Bible and ask god to make you understand his words he'll make you stop just should have wanted , God bless you :D 

bbfeet9 wrote:

Guest wrote:

You think u've got problems!
I have to masturbate 3 times a day and sometimes more and have been doing for 18 months straight!
do I need help?! thanks

You say you "have" to masterbate 3 or more times a day!!! Why?
Are you married or in a committed relationship?
Sometimes, less is best, even when it comes to self satisfaction. It is perfectly fine to masterbate and it's healthy, but 3 or more times a day would bore me to death.

I think you should learn how to practice a little self control. You can go to your local library and get some self help books. They also have books on CD's if your not interested in reading.

omg you suck man =)) the best thing to do is 3 times a week not 3 times a day lol. i think you should find a new hobby :/ or maybe try to find a pet. that will help you to control your self and help you waste your time in a good way.

well im just 12 and i also love to mastrubate a lot is it good for my age ?

Im 13 i cant stop mastrubating i hear mastrubating is not good for health plz tell me is it good for me?;-|

MASTRUBUTION IS 1%GOOD FOR BODY BUT 99% HARMFULL FOR YOUR BODY AND MIND. IT WILL MAKE SOME SERIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEMS AND PHYSICAL TOO. IF U DO MASTRUBUTTION REGULARLY THEN ITS 90% CHANCES YOU WILL COUGHT UNDER ADDICTION LIKE DRINK, SMOKE,DRUGS. STOP MASTRUBUTION TODAY. ITS NOT NATHURAL. DONT DISTROY HAPYNESS. 

*MOST PEOPLE DONT KNOW THAT MASTRUBUTION IS A PSYCHOLIGICAL DISORDER.

*MASTRUBUTION= STRESS,ANGAR,ADDICTION, SUCIDE,(DESTROY YOUR SENSITVITY),LAZYNESS,

* WARNNINGGGGGGGGG STAY AWAY FROM PORN CLIPS:ITS JUST ATTRACTION. IF YOU ARE  NOT ABLE TO STOP WATCHING PORN THEN TRY TO DONT TOUCH YOUR SEXUAL ORGSAM. MAINLY IF YOU ARE NOT WATCHING PORN THEN IS THE BEST WAY TO AVOID MASTRUBUTION.   DONT LOAD PORN IN YOUR MOBILE , LAPTOP AND OTHER STUFF. PORN MASTRUBUTION WAS BORN FROM PORN MOVIES.

*DONT DRINK COFFIE , TEA MORE THAN 100 ML.A DAY.

*TRY TO HATE MASTRUBUTION. NOT YOURSELF. YOU ARE INNOCENT.

*CREAT A SECRET MONTHLY CHART AND NOTE DOWN HOW MENY TIMES  YOU DONE THAT. (NOTE DOWN DAILY OR WEEKLY )THEN YOU WILL TRY TO MAINTAIN YOUR PROBLEM. 

* TAKE BATH TWISE A DAY & FELL FRESH AND HAPPY

* SEX AND MASTRUBUTION ARE TOTALLY DIFFRENT THINGS THEN DONT TRY TO FULLFIED YOUR SEXUALL WISHES FROM DHIS IDIOTNESS, SHEME. RUBUTE

*IF YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO SATISFIY ANY FEMALE FROM SEX THEN DONT THINK THAT IF U WATCH PORN AND MASTUBUTE YOUR PENNIS WILL GROW UP. TELL HER I DONT LIKE SEX  MUCH . I CAN DO THAT BUT I AM CAREFULL ABOUT YOU  IF YOU WANTS LOVE AND CARE I AM ABLE TO DO THAT. TELL HER THAT SEX CAN MAKE HER LIFE HELL. BCOZ ITS DESTROY LOVE &ATTACHMENT . IF SHE LOVE U TRULY SHE WILL ACCEPT YOU.

*****************************GREAT WISHES****************************

 

ITS ALL ABOUT EMOTIONAL SATISFACTION........

100% correct...... effects is like that lose proper sleep,lose activeness,mentally become week,losing of concentration in studies...... solution is lets fallow ur religious norms and instructions... god is with u and he kills evil things....humen has intelegent animal when he lose intelegence living like a animal......live
like humen and let know ur responsibulities...