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If you’re feeling blue, there are ways to change your thinking and behavior to increase the happiness in your life. Take a minute to let go of those unhappy habits so you can start to feel the effects of those habits that can lead you to happiness.
Ever wonder why some people are just so happy all of the time? It seems that happy people have a different way of looking at things and doing things. They exude happiness because they do act differently then unhappy people.
If you’re feeling blue today or any day, there are ways to change your thinking and behavior to increase the happiness in your life. Take a minute to let go of those unhappy habits so you can start to feel the effects of those habits that can lead you to happiness.
What Unhappy People Do
Unhappy people are often envious of others. They compare themselves to others and as a result, they covet what the other person has; be it success or material items, social status or economic worth. Comparing yourself to someone you feel is on a higher plain than you only causes your self-esteem to sink even lower, thus making you even more unhappy. Instead of being envious of others, try to focus on the accomplishments that you’ve achieved, the hurdles you have jumped and your own personal growth.
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People who are unhappy are often surrounded by negativity. Perhaps you are the pessimistic one, or maybe those around you are dragging you down. If you constantly hear negative opinions about life and other issues, you too will become negative. If you’re already a ‘Negative Nellie’, then you’ll be worse for the wear. If you look at things in a negative light, you most likely view life as largely unhappy, full of fear or even dangerous.
Just as the negative perspective of others will drag you down, your own negative mood will make those around you unhappy as well. Instead of focusing on the negative, you need to look at things in a more realistic way, accept that all situations may have a downside but understand that they often have an upside as well. Don’t dwell on the negative, instead, make a move and change it into something positive.
All of us have stressors in our daily lives, but it is how you deal with stress that can make you truly unhappy. If you spend a ton of time worrying and brooding about situations, nothing positive can happen. All of that negative energy eats away at your insides and causes you to feel physically ill. Learn how to take things in stride, clear you mind and put things into perspective so that you can take action. Try exercising or mediating to get those feel-good juices flowing, gather your thoughts and take on stress in a more productive way.
Dwelling On The Past/ Worrying About The Future
Many unhappy people find themselves constantly reliving old memories. These memories may be those of struggle or often are of missed opportunity. On the other hand, you may find yourself worrying for the future and imagining a million different ways that everything could go wrong. This type of thinking leads to a lack of presence and a fear of change. You may be so worried about your future and so busy reliving your past experiences that you become stuck and afraid to make a move to change aspects of your life. Just because things may not have worked out before does not mean that life is going to be that way again. Try to stay in the moment and focus your energy there. By putting yourself out there once in a while, you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome.
Wanting and Waiting
Unhappy people often think that an accumulation of “stuff” will make them happy. You may try to fill the emptiness with things, be it food, possessions, alcohol, or people. Oftentimes, unhappy individuals believe that happiness can be bought or consumed, when really it has to come from within. Stop waiting for something to make you happy, things may come to you but that false happiness is quickly gone. True happiness has to be developed through your thoughts, feelings and actions.
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