Caught my Daughter Masturbating

just explain to her that you don't mind her doing it but when she masturbates she needs to put a towel down under her to save making a mess on the carpet or bedding.

Some girls get very wet and others don't. Apparently you don't. Aside from that I commend you on your reaction and what you told her.

As BC said a towel takes care of the problem

First off well done on the response that you gave you're daughter, it sounds like you're daughter may have experienced female ejaculation 'squirting' if you chose to talk to you're daughter explain that some girls and women may experience this before, during and or after an orgasm, you may also explain to her that if she wants to she may place a towel underneath her when she masturbates just in case this happens alternately if she is comfateble she could just let you know that's she has ejaculated 'squirted' on her bed sheets and they need changing.

I commend you on you’re response and it will help you’re daughter know that what she was doing was okay she may have squirted for the first time you could sit with her and talk to her about squirting and how it happens and allow her to buy a towel for when she has her private time

I never got walked in on but I remember my hormones driving me crazy at that age. I wouldn’t mention the wet spot. If I were her and a parent pointed that out it would be like pointing out someone peed their pants. It would be pretty obvious if it was urine. Just clean it up to save her face.

It's good that you played it down so well. Regarding the wet spot, it sounds as though she is releasing a clear fluid from her vagina when she orgasms, known as 'squirting', or female ejaculation, of course. Remember that this is not urine, rather a nearly odourless liquid from the Skenes glands situated within the vulva.

It may be as well not to mention this and just let her work it out for herself, otherwise she may become inhibited if she is made to feel that this is somehow 'messy' or dirty - it's not! Rather than helping her, mentioning it could actually leave her feeling less able to express her physical urges and really let herself go. Don't forget, she probably finds the physical sensations during the act of releasing this fluid at the point of orgasm especially exciting and it is clearly very important to her self-worth, as a sexual being, as a developing young woman and as a human being.

Remember, also, that some grown women, let alone girls of your daughter's age, have never experienced such levels of joyful release. Please do nothing that curtails her burgeoning sexuality and she may hopefully develop into a beautiful, loving, sexual person who brings joy to herself and any future partners. There are already enough folk around who have developed hang-ups about such intimate issues.

You don't say how old your daughter is, but it's surely better to allow her to carry on exploring her sexual feelings as she has been, knowing now that at least you're not disapproving of her activities, and let her come to the realisation on her own (probably fairly soon now anyway) that it's possibly better to contain it slightly and also to then clean up after herself when she's finished. Again, another important step in her development into adulthood.

If you continue to demonstrate tolerance of her behaviour she's then more likely to retain her trust and confidence in you as she grows and will be more able to talk to you about personal matters in the future. As you say, she does this in the privacy of her own room so already understands the need for privacy and self-imposed boundaries. Really, what price a small stain on a carpet (that can probably soon be cleaned anyway) against her future well-being?