Decided to Have My Son Circumcised at 13

I was circumcised against my will at the age of 9-10 by my Muslim parents and it was one of the worst experiences of my life that still haunts me to this day. My 10-11 year old brother and I were told we were going to "Disney land" and duped by my parents. During the actual process, we were separated and, especially horrible, from our mum as well.

The actual "clinic" seemed a bit dubious and run down, we thought all the staff there including the surgeons were monsters or demon-like beings (we were kids brought up by religious paranoid parents so that projected onto us) and I remember hearing other kids around my crying and screaming. We were injected in the testicle area by a nurse and I'll be honest that entire situation felt like being attacked out of nowhere (like turning a corner and being punched or stabbed in the gut) and we both started crying.

Then one by one we were taken into the surgical room and my dad held my hand while I was lying on the table. NO-ONE TOLD ME WHAT WAS ACTUALLY HAPPENING. Like I heard screaming and it sounded bad but I had no idea of circumcision or anything else (this is how badly we were lied to). The surgeon looked at me while during the process I was told just to look up and do nothing, then I heard snipping (I was numb down there so didn't feel anything).

The next few months of recovery were awful. It hurt like hell, I missed out on a lot of school at the time and became distant from friends and I hadn't fully been able to process what had happened. Then another nail in the coffin, I had a complication (a big scab) form on the tip of my penis at which point my parents took me back to the clinic. The surgeon's response? He held me down on a table as he proceeded to tear of the scab! There was no anaesthetic or anything either. I was crying, I felt violated and I was in such horrible pain. I haven't fully been able to process it, it's affected my penis/ view of myself and the memory of the pain and the entire experience still haunts me greatly to this day, 15 years after it happened.

This, along with many others things my parents have done to us, has made me grow to have a deep hatred of them. I really could hurt them real bad in revenge (and if pushed, maybe I will and I'd enjoy it), but I have some sense of being the bigger man and just leaving them with no lasting legacy as punishment.

Never do something so egregious against the will of your children, especially if they haven't fully comprehended it. The damage will be so severe that it may never be forgiven and you will lose them completely.

At the age of 4 my mother took me to the doctor to have my foreskin circumcised. My mother told me that the doctor inserted a hemostat into the tip of my foreskin and opened the hemostat to dilate my foreskin before fully retracting the foreskin. She said I was bleeding. All I can remember it was painful.

At the age of 12 my mother found that I had a tight foreskin. She commented that the doctor needs to "snip the tip of my foreskin". Sounded painful. She further added "It will only be the puce colored wrinkly folds that the doctor needs to cut off. It needs to be done so that your foreskin can be retracted." I reluctantly agreed. She made an appointment.

all I can say is that at the age of 18 I had a normal penis and normal feelings, then a girl talked me into circumcision, my cousin had it done as a child and he was living happily with it so I thought why not and I did it
well, it was painful and recovery was long, but then 2 things happened
at first I was oversensitive, I didn't last long when making love and I got very easily erect ; the doctor said it would improve with time
as a matter of fact the skin of my glans started to change and became dry and less sensitive, I was better at making love but my erections didn't cease, on the contrary I had more than ever
in the end, after a couple of years, I had lost most of my sensitivity (today, at 27, my penis is practically numb) and developed a tendancy to high-flow priapism probably due to an injury during the operation (but I've read that in adolescents the oversensitivity which causes the erections in the first place may also result in arteries getting too large which will favour frequent and long erections)
I cannot but regret having had circumcision done : my sex-life has become a disaster and undressing in front of other people, wearing swimming trunks etc. has become an ordeal

I decided to have myself circumcised at age 40 to reduce recurrence of Hepatitis Type 2. It was not entirely effective but did give enough relief that I thought it worthwhile. Then later when anit-viral medication became available, I find better than 99% relief.

Much of the controversy about the "other C" is based upon the fact that there are varieties of the other "C". Male circumcision is not considered mutilation because the function of the penis is not affected. Thousand of years ago,when humans did not wear clothing the foreskin (prepuce) was needed for protection. Now it is not needed. The operation is no more serious than a nose or the kind of eye job.that some Chinese get.
Few people understand that in girls and women also have a prepuce which is anatomically homologous to the male prepuce (foreskin). Removal exposes the glans clitoris just as male circumcision exposes the glans penis. There is no effect on function. The procedure is properly called female circumcision and is merely cosmetic and no more serious than male circumcision.

By contrast, full or partial clitoridectomy is mutilation because it removes part or all of the clitoris, equivalent to removal of part or all of the penis. Because the clitoris is homologous to the penis. Thus, clitoridectomy reduces or removes the function of the clitoris.
Clitoridectomy is done for religious reasons to fix a mistake God made by supplying females with little penises. I wonder why the same logic is not applied to male nipples. I have never heard the claim that males should have their nipples removed.

Because it will deny him all the benefits from an early age. Why wait until he's masturbating to stamp on that filth, take away the pleasure before he gets there. It will encourage him to expend his energy on sports and study and hopefully become religious.

I don’t like uncircumcised girls as well.
So ..?! If they don’t like uncircumcised men They should do it as well. Themselves !!!

And I don’t like uncircumcised girl ...

I agree. I wish I had that information available at that age. I knew about circumcision, but I did not know that I suffered from phimosis and I would be better if I got cut. Since I knew circumcision existed, at 10, I have wanted to get cut, even without knowing I suffered from phimosis.

Circ does not decrease HIV infection appreciably. The fabled 60% reduction is relative, not absolute. A 0.1% chance is 50% greater than 0.05% chance, but both are extremely low.

Circumcision solves nothing, but causes problems.

My parents forced it on me, and I remember the ordeal. Literally the stuff of nightmares, no pain relief while being cut. I was young, the skin was still adhered to the glans, so it was ripped off, and took chunks of glans with. My frenulum was literally torn off my body.

I live with chronic pain, and basically zero sensation in the penis now. Can't enjoy sex or orgasm, and masturbation is a pointless chore. My parents ruined my sexuality before it even existed, because they wanted it.

Parents have a right to protect, not harm their children, and a circ fetish is definitely harmful. Men lose 70 to 80% of sensation according to a 2007 sorrells study. Some lose more, all because of the garbage phrases of "women prefer it," or "look like dad, friend, brother, etc."

It also kills people. Babies, teens, men, they can and do bleed out, developed infections, and die. Some survive but lose their penis. Where is the justice in that? We don't do this to girls, so why don't boys have a right to their whole body?

We don't cut girls for infection, they get antibiotics. Boys get a knife. It's misandry.

Circumcision either has been shown to either have zero affect on the spread of HIV, or even INCREASE the spread.

Not to mention the outrageous ethical abuse of egregiously violating someone’s basic human rights.

Circumcision and HIV

Risk factors associated with prevalent HIV-1 infection among pregnant women in Rwanda. National University of Rwanda-Johns Hopkins University AIDS Research Team: “History of … partner circumcision, … remained strongly associated with HIV-1 infection”: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8082965/

“17 (18%) women in the intervention group and eight (12%) women in the control group acquired HIV during follow-up (p=0·36). Cumulative probabilities of female HIV infection at 24 months were 21·7% (95% CI 12·7–33·4) in the intervention group and 13·4% (6·7–25·8) in the control group (adjusted hazard ratio 1·49, 95% CI 0·62–3·57; p=0·368).”

In the Ugandan male-to-female trial, there appears to have been a 61% relative increase in HIV infection among female partners of HIV-positive circumcised men: HIV studies.
https://research.bond.edu.au/en/publications/sub-saharan-african-randomised-clinical-trials-into-male-circumci

Meta analysis finds: “Consequently, the prevention of STIs cannot be rationally interpreted as a benefit of circumcision, and a policy of circumcision for the general population to prevent STIs is not supported by the evidence currently available in the medical literature”: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3654279/?fbclid=IwAR0iyMO25hD_GWMCavhWgmYdoW9NDsuv7a8pSfXnDJ3AB935-RyvpOJ2yas

US has highest STD rates in developed world: https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/std-rates-by-country

- In Zambia: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31608845/

- In Canada: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34551593/ “No link found between circumcision status and HIV”

- In Denmark: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34564796/ “Indeed, circumcised males had a 53% higher rate of STIs overall”

- in Britain: https://sti.bmj.com/content/79/6/499

I was circumcised as an infant, and it has caused no end of problems in my life. I didn’t have enough skin to accommodate an erection as a teenager, and had to manually stretch it. I have always struggled to climax, and orgasms are painful and often unsatisfying.

I often could not climax from sex, and had to finish by masturbation. This destroyed my two marriages, and left my children growing up in broken homes.

I have never climaxed from oral

This, all of this! Thank you!

Thank you for your thoughtful comment!

It's absurd to remove a part of the genitals to prevent HIV. The best thing would've been to educate your son on safe sex practices and how to avoid STDs. Furthermore, prep now exists which is effective for protecting from HIVso circumcision shouldn't matter anymore. If you continuously practice unsafe practices, then you will contract something regardless of the state of your genitals.
This country's fetish for mgm is frankly gross. No wonder the US has so much sexual disfunction issues amongst men.