Ever had a friend who has completely served their purpose in life?

Sadly yes. a very close friend. she is even the Godmother to my son. But ater listening to her b!tch and complain about this and that. CONSTANTLY listening to her husband, my cousin, do the same. watch them grow around the waist and have them critisize my active lifestyle i finally cut it off However i had it easy, I was changing states.
Not that all they did was complain and gripe but it was more than enought that i tmade me dreading visits.

Sorry Blue i can relate though :toobad:hope it helps

BTW is the check still in the mail? or is in stuck in the snowstorm that is also your fault?

i dunno, i think she's having problems paying her rent, paying off her visa, and supporting her "social life" at the same time...
weekly deposits of one dollar could have been paid off by now. $80 from a year and a half ago. :P my *favorite* part was that she has a friend that she doesn't talk to anymore because she "owes her money" and stuff, and i'm like "oh really? how much?" and she's like "well it used to be alot, i put like out camping trip and stuff on my visa, but it's like $80 now" and i'm like "oh, so basically what you owe me?"... and it's kinda funny because i think she just chooses to ignore those comments like i never said a word.
i think i'm going to go start a happy thread. lol. i've been complaining too much.

I don't have a friend like this.

My wife does though. She has a friend that lives 20 miles away, but will only call if she wants to go out partying, and meet to talk with ex-boyfriends.

She always tells the Mrs. "Don't tell Shane we're meeting __________." Shane is her husband. My wife got sick of it and told her off about 2 years ago.

Right around the time the Mrs. got pregnant, and now that she's pregnant again, the "friend" hasn't called again. Funny how some people are.

I cut of ties with someone like that. He would show up at my doorstep when his latest relationship didn't "work out" and one time, he wrote me a check for my Birfday. And it bounced. So...not only did I not get my birthday gift, but I got saddled with a service charge as well.

Who is this person? My own father, y'all.

oh that's hard.

I've had some friends like that. Heck, sometimes with all that is going on in my life lately, I feel a lot like that type of friend. I'm so fortunate that my best girlfriends (and Dad and some riff raffers) put up with me. I don't like to chuck friendships out the window, but I guess it really depends upon your definition of what a friend is. It's all about give and take, just like any relationship. I think there are times where I give more than I take, and times I take more than I give, and I hope it all balances out. I'm going out today or tomorrow to buy thank you cards for my friends/family. Timely topic, thanks Blue!! Oh, and you know Steff never did call me back. I'm still not sure how I feel about that whole thing. :sigh:

who has completely served their purpose in life? b*tches about everything, owes you money, and only calls if they ever need something?
Okay, I'll bite: what was her purpose in life? Tormenting you? For some reason, she was (at one time) worthy of being your friend. What was that reason? Still there? Sounds like YOU are her friend and she's not your friend. Yet you hang in there. Sounds to me like you're the kind of friend that a person needs and can count on. And you know what? Even if you can't say the same about her, there might be a time in the future when it'll all turn around. When (if?) that happens, you'll be doubly appreciated.
Sounds like an A-minor to me. Keying the door? That's grounds for dismissal. Friends don't do those kinds of things.
i'd like to hear about some of your bad friends, and maybe you can help explain why i bother ever listening to her. ugh.
Bad friends? I'm not sure if I have any of those. Does a phone call at 3:00 a.m. and a request for you to drive 45 minutes to bail him out of jail make him a bad friend?

Okay, I'll admit, I had a buddy who was a total 'drainer'. My cord-cutter happened when his new years resolution was to get in shape. So of course, he turned to me to help. Being January in Minnesota and all, we started cross-country skiing. After one session of tourist pace, I started kicking it up a notch and proceeded to leave him deep in the woods the next couple nights. Nasty I know, but it cut the cord

Bad friends? I'm not sure if I have any of those. Does a phone call at 3:00 a.m. and a request for you to drive 45 minutes to bail him out of jail make him a bad friend? No, this isn't a bad friend as long as they are there for you, too, in dire situations. I think Blue is talking about the one-way friends. There were a couple of ladies at a church I attended (membership of 25) who would only call if they needed babysitting or dog care services --both unpaid, of course, because they figured that since I was a sahm, I had the time and wouldn't mind-- and I wouldn't have minded. Except, when I called them for get-togethers or things like that, they were always too busy. So, not too busy to call and ask for my help, but when I need someone to chat and have a cup of coffee with--they're too busy?? Non-reciprocation is the death knell of friendships. It doesn't even have to be exact reciprocation--just being there is enough.

No, this isn't a bad friend as long as they are there for you, too, in dire situations. No, you misunderstood but that was my fault. That was just a dig at my bud. And it was just the first time I helped him out in one of "those" situations. However, a friend will be there for you in any situation but especially the dire ones.

Agreed - and a one-way (una via) friend isn't a friend....just like those women who don't mind using you. You probably already know - they aren't your friends, they're just people you know. Non-reciprocation is the death knell of friendships. It doesn't even have to be exact reciprocation--just being there is enough. Yep, that's a friend.