I'm 21 and have been sexually active since about 16. Never came! I do enjoy sex very much and my bf can really make me screem so I don't see what the problem can be. I've read a lot of comments to other people's similar is sure and it seems to be just relax and maybe your stresthe. But all those people hod know what it's like to have cum in the past. I, not stressed about anything except not cumming. After some yeait sit gets frustrating. I feel like my body literally skips the cumming part because I cud feel as ifim about to get off so ill go faster and faster and fasteor then my energy dies and I'm laying down breathing harder than ever as if Jesuits came but know damn well I didn't! At first I thought I just haven't had the right penis but I'm starting tobeliebe I'm the problem. there has to be an answer other than just relax! Please help
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I see you never got a response. The problem you describe is very common and there are ways to make this better. If you are still monitoring this and you would like to discuss it, then please respond.
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yes I am still interested.
I did look further for a solution and did see it is a very common problem. i read advises that where given to other women such as try different positions and don't think about it. i think my problem has become very much mental because now that is my only goal when i have sex. but im trying on not thinking about it and also holding out. i figure if i hold out for a long time when i do have sex ill enjoy it so much more and hopefully orgasm! lol ill take any advice ..
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Yes, women suffer from performance anxiety just like men. Focusing on it really can make it very hard to achieve orgasm. And every doctor or therapist I have spoken to say a woman's mind is a major part of this. In fact, they say it is a woman's largest sex organ. Low self esteem, depression, stress, anxiety, etc can all make it difficult to not only have an orgasm, but to even have any interest in sex at all.
The following two questions follows may not seem that important but I assure you they really are. Do you masturbate? And if you do, how often? And finally, if you do masturbate - or at least have masturbated in the past - are you able to reach orgasm? We should add one more question to that, if you don't masturbate now but have in the past, were you ever able to achieve orgasm?
I am not trying to pry, these questions are a really important starting point for this. If there is anything you find embarrassing, we can discuss this privately through the messaging system or via email.
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