I am involved with a wonderful man that I love dearly. We have a very loving relationship. The problem is he has erectile dysfunction and due to finances he isn't able to be under a doctor's care for treatment. Which leaves having a "normal" sex life a challenge. He is a very giving lover and always makes sure my needs are met. But because of his condition I am very rarely able to bring him to satisfaction.  In fact, when he does matter to achieve orgasm, it is via masterbation and takes a good deal of work on his part.

I still engage in oral and manual activities, which he enjoys, even though he doesn't get to finish. Many times he will get at least partly hard, only to go flacid while I am engaged in such activities, which makes me feel awful about myself.  We both enjoy the closeness we share and I know logically that this isn't a matter of being someone's fault. Yet logic and emotions don't always agree. Very often, after we have been intimate I find myself feeling bad about myself as a woman. I remind myself of the logical side of it, but this situation is really doing a number on my self-confidence. I don't know how to get past this.

We have talked about it and he continually tells me that it isn't me and that he loves me and how much I turn him on. How do I get over my issues?