My lover can only enjoy very specific kind of hand job and oral stimulation- firm up and down pumping of the shaft with rhythmic scratching of the testicles. He gets frustrated and angry because he says I don't have good technique. He's also ticklish all over, his feet, sides, chest. The head of his penis is sensitive, and gets easily overstimulated if I rub it. He's able to orgasm during intercourse.
I've never had any complaints about my hand job technique, and am generally considered a great lover, so I'm not sure what to do. I wonder if he has a problem, and if he can get help for it.
I've never had any complaints about my hand job technique, and am generally considered a great lover, so I'm not sure what to do. I wonder if he has a problem, and if he can get help for it.
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I know you posted this years ago but this might help other women who read this. First, don't take it personal if your lover tells you that your technique that has worked on other men doesn't work on him. My female friends tell me they hate it when men will finger them or go down on them in a way they don't like, and his response is "well all the other women I've been with didn't complain." It sounds assholish and tells your lover you really don't care what they like because you're not going to change your technique. Each person is different sexually and you should be happy that A) he's being honest with you're doing something that he doesn't enjoy and B) he's telling you EXACTLY what he likes. So just be patient and keep communication open. What he likes depends on how his particular genitals are built (ie is he circumcised?), what masturbating technique he's used to get off from adolesence on, etc. I too have a sensitive head and I hate it when lovers don't respect that and try to rub it. Also, ask to watch him masturbate. I guarantee that if you can mimic what he does to himself then you should be able to get him off. If all else fails, then let him do himself and try mutual masterbation, and when he's near the point of no return, take over and see if he enjoys that. Hope this helps (if not the original poster than hopefully other women out there).
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Sounds like your dude has got used to a specific type of his own masturbation to the point he thinks sex will be no good without it.
Its good he's so ticklish, because if you need to you can trick him into letting you tie him down. Then you can tickle him silly while
showing him some NEW techniques! I'm super ticklish myself, and if you get him laughing really hard he will be so sensitive in
10 or 15 minutes he will BEG you to "get him off", then scream when he shoots. Try it-its a guy thing. I love it!
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