I have wondered about this for my entire adult life (I am almost 60). I have never looked it up and believed it must be normal, that every man has the same tender sensation during climax. Anyway, like many of you, during ejaculation, and for a little time afterwards, the head of my penis is extremely tender. During intercourse I have to stop pumping while ejaculating, but afterwords I can pump gently. Oral sex has become less desirable because I can't seem to get my lady to restrict contact with the gland area while I ejaculate. Now for the odd part - when I masturbate, I can continue contact with the head during ejaculation with pleasure. It is a tad tender but not un pleasurable, when I am pleasing myself. I have wondered if there might be a safe numbing gel that men with this problem could apply before sex, that would reduce the feeling in the gland area...
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I am circumsized and have the same problem, but with an additional problem. In addition to the head being too sensitive and the orgasm being underwhelming, not thrusting or even limited thrusting is very uncomfortable...a couple notches below painful. When I masterbate, it is perfect. Just as I am about to cum, my strokes become quick and short, lightly touching the bottom of my head. In a vagina, the vaginal walls are all around my head and my hips cant make thrusts that quick and short. Hope I find a solution. Keep thrusting and stroking, men.
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I've found three things that help me:
1- reducing friction. I am beginning to use latex gloves with lube to masturbate, and that reduces glans pain by a lot. Using a much looser grip also reduces friction a ton. It takes longer to climax, of course. And both of these things reduce the potency of the orgasm, but...
2- Persistent sensitivity reconditioning. I no longer use the "death grip" like I did for 12 years straight. I am getting used to having contact with the glans during orgasm, so that had meant sacrificing the orgasm time after time. But amazingly, my body is slowly learning to adapt. in fact it feels great after a session without the massive orgasm draining me, and I have still ejaculated a bit (usually a lot less than usual). It also makes me stay hard a lot longer, able to achieve another orgasm if I want after the first non-orgasmic ejaculation.
3- Abstaining. This is the hardest one, but I recently managed to go 9 days without ejaculating, and the response/pleasure was extremely good and way more came out. Also, the very reason why this pain exists is probably due to excessive, daily masturbation for 14+ years.
So between these 3 things, they're all really helping me.
1- reducing friction. I am beginning to use latex gloves with lube to masturbate, and that reduces glans pain by a lot. Using a much looser grip also reduces friction a ton. It takes longer to climax, of course. And both of these things reduce the potency of the orgasm, but...
2- Persistent sensitivity reconditioning. I no longer use the "death grip" like I did for 12 years straight. I am getting used to having contact with the glans during orgasm, so that had meant sacrificing the orgasm time after time. But amazingly, my body is slowly learning to adapt. in fact it feels great after a session without the massive orgasm draining me, and I have still ejaculated a bit (usually a lot less than usual). It also makes me stay hard a lot longer, able to achieve another orgasm if I want after the first non-orgasmic ejaculation.
3- Abstaining. This is the hardest one, but I recently managed to go 9 days without ejaculating, and the response/pleasure was extremely good and way more came out. Also, the very reason why this pain exists is probably due to excessive, daily masturbation for 14+ years.
So between these 3 things, they're all really helping me.
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I am always very sensitive after I ejaculate, and this is extreme to the point of being oainful if I woman fellates me to completion. No problem if I ejaculate inside her in the normal way. I have, interestingly, found some women have an extremely sensitive clitoris, either before orgasm or after or both. I had one woman who could not bear to have her glans touched even very softly, including during cunnilingus, but was OK having me massage or lick the general area. Other women have liked to have the clitoris rubbed very aggressively. So over sensitivity is not just a male thing.
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I'm only 14 but have the same problem when masterbating.I want to keep on goon and I can't sl my.cum just kind of trickles out sadly any help
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I have the same problem. I went to see a specialist (sexual therapist) who said it was very rare and in 30 years of practice he had only encountered it about 20 times.
He said it was due to over-contraction of the muscles around the prostate gland during ejaculation.
He suggested 2 types of blood pressure medication to reduce the contraction and thereby the sensitivity. Neither worked.
I think almost nothing is known about it and I don't know of any research into it.
As another poster said, an accommodating partner is a good thing. One of the real bummers of this problem is that when you have to stop moving, the woman may be just about to come, and then she is frustrated.
He said it was due to over-contraction of the muscles around the prostate gland during ejaculation.
He suggested 2 types of blood pressure medication to reduce the contraction and thereby the sensitivity. Neither worked.
I think almost nothing is known about it and I don't know of any research into it.
As another poster said, an accommodating partner is a good thing. One of the real bummers of this problem is that when you have to stop moving, the woman may be just about to come, and then she is frustrated.
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I tried using a numbing gel but it didn't work. It seems the problem is not one of the skin, anyway, but a referred sensation from the prostate, via nerves.
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Do any of you feel like the sensitivity causes you to cum faster. I don't feel like I last very long no matter how often I'm having sex or rubbing one out. Wondering if it has to do with sensitive glans
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Join the club bro im only 14 but when i get ready to cum my head gets so sensative i have to stop and i twitch if i move it sucks
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Could it be related to prostatitis? Does prostate inflammation cause over-contraction of the muscles around the prostate gland during ejaculation?
I’m taking a cure, injection antibiotic to the prostate. I have just only taken one session. I’m planning to try this treatment for 3 times. I will write the result to you. Best wishes.
I’m taking a cure, injection antibiotic to the prostate. I have just only taken one session. I’m planning to try this treatment for 3 times. I will write the result to you. Best wishes.
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Interesting. I have this problem, but oddly enough it's not a problem if I have an orgasm quickly. (No wonder I didn't notice when I was young lol ) These days that doesn't happen much... I suspect it is just over stimulation from friction. I wonder if maybe it's more of a problem for those of us that are circumcised. All I know is that if I am turned on enough to cum quickly it's not uncomfortable at all, but that may not be the best for your partner!
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As some replays already said this it's a overwelming sensation that unable you to go all the way supporting the orgasm until the end continuing the stimulation (like the orgasm aproache for the 1st time to someone never experienced it ) have a simple solution to superation! - endure it!
endure it like a man or ask to be tied up and forced to endure it! full stuimulation from the start until the end from the flacide not exited state until start ejaculation during the ejaculation afther the ejaculation during the refractory period and afther it again and again ; stim of all genitals including glans.
You can feel you will faint or die that you cant stand it or evan have convulsions like a boy the first times he have an orgasm but you superate that sensation.
Yet this is not an advise to do it , im not a medicine doctor and you can have any problem that (as anyone that experience a strong comotion) triguers a dangerouse or even fatal issue so as advise my only advise is searche medical supervision and advise and if the doc you visit not solve it searche another. Also as an advise step away social conditioning and ashaming and if need remember penis an organ as anyother.
endure it like a man or ask to be tied up and forced to endure it! full stuimulation from the start until the end from the flacide not exited state until start ejaculation during the ejaculation afther the ejaculation during the refractory period and afther it again and again ; stim of all genitals including glans.
You can feel you will faint or die that you cant stand it or evan have convulsions like a boy the first times he have an orgasm but you superate that sensation.
Yet this is not an advise to do it , im not a medicine doctor and you can have any problem that (as anyone that experience a strong comotion) triguers a dangerouse or even fatal issue so as advise my only advise is searche medical supervision and advise and if the doc you visit not solve it searche another. Also as an advise step away social conditioning and ashaming and if need remember penis an organ as anyother.
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I have the same problem when ejaculating inside a woman. I usually just pull out, and use my hand to finish myself off. If my lady wants to torture me, she gets on top, and keeps riding me as
I cum inside of her. Since my penis is inside of her, and I AM having an orgasm, it is an acceptable kind of torture for me.
I cum inside of her. Since my penis is inside of her, and I AM having an orgasm, it is an acceptable kind of torture for me.
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I agree that she should ride you like a cowgirl but she should bring several of her girlfriends along to assist. One could be working a vibrating dildo in your butt while another is covering your mouth with her p***y so you can't scream and another could stand by to do whatever is necessary to hold you down.
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