im 20 and still a vergin . iv been with a gye for the past 4 months official and 7 months iv known him we fool around alot with hands and oral and stuff but as we both live at home its not often we get the chance he had a free house 2 weeks ago and we wer in his bed and had been lieing there for about an hour but when we went to have sex he couldnt physicaly we had our first fight after but we got over it while i was self concious becouse as said its my first time and he couldnt he said it wasnt me so i got over it and im trying not to pressure him ..... fast forward to last night and i was giving him a blow job when he sudinly started wincing in pain and put it away ... fter a few minets akward silance i asked what was wrong and he said not to pull it back to far cus it hurts .... ill try oviously but what if its me and i will never be able to keep him happy he always makes me happy and its getting embarrising now :( i want to make him happy so what am i doing wrong need tips help
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Hi Guest,
It doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong, he is. How can you be expected to know what will hurt him?
You both need to be talking to each other about things. You need to tell him what you like/dislike and he needs to tell you the same. Neither of you can read minds. It's OK to talk during sex.
As to him not being "physically" it's important for both of you to know that it's going to happen from time to time. Anxiety, stress, being tired, all of these and more can make him lose an erection or not get one. Again, he needs to tell you what's going on. Don't focus on it and don't blame yourself. Just do something else until he's ready.
Good luck. Hope it helps.
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