I am 21 years old and my husband is 34. When we first started dating we had sex with no problems. But after a year or so he stopped showing interest in wanting sex. He says that it is a testosterone issue but im sure it dosent happen that fast. Also when we do have sex after i perswade him to do so he has a time getting hard and even then he isnt rock hard. He always cums fast to. If I offer to give him oral he turnes it down. Weird I know. He dosent show any interest in me sexually. He has always been sexual though he has been with alot of girls. He has also been known to cheat. he was dating someone when we first got together. When we do have sex it is always the same thing, same time, same positions, he dosent want to be spontanious. I dont know if he even enjoys it. Everytime we talk about it he gets mad and defensive. It really frusterates me. We even bought testosterone pills to see if that helps but he took them for 2 weeks then stopped. He is always looking for excueses for why we dont have sex. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? He is also very protective over his phone and email and he recently changed his facebook pasword.
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The following are what I consider some key points from your post:
1) He has been known to cheat and was doing so when you met
2) He is very protective over his email
3) He recently changed his facebook password
4) He is very protective over his phone
5) After a year or so he stopped showing interest in wanting sex
6) He has problems getting hard and even then he isn't rock hard.
7) He always cums fast
8) You have to persuade him to have sex with you
From all of the above and when considering all of the other facts you mentioned, I think you will be able to think of a likely reason for his behavior as well as whether this is the sort of person you wish to remain in a relationship with.
It appears that you may have overlooked how he was treating others i.e seeing some one whilst seeing you. Even if some one treats you like a queen but treats others as paupers, shouldn't one take particular notice of this fact? Are you with some one you deserve? Doesn't it bother you that they were unfaithful before you were even together? Should anyone have to beg for intimacy?
Although his behavior could simply be due to impotence, the age difference, stress or feelings of inadequacy or any other number of things, it could also be something else. Either way, you have the opportunity to take action before it is too late. However, perhaps you are seeking solutions to the wrong problem!
1) He has been known to cheat and was doing so when you met
2) He is very protective over his email
3) He recently changed his facebook password
4) He is very protective over his phone
5) After a year or so he stopped showing interest in wanting sex
6) He has problems getting hard and even then he isn't rock hard.
7) He always cums fast
8) You have to persuade him to have sex with you
From all of the above and when considering all of the other facts you mentioned, I think you will be able to think of a likely reason for his behavior as well as whether this is the sort of person you wish to remain in a relationship with.
It appears that you may have overlooked how he was treating others i.e seeing some one whilst seeing you. Even if some one treats you like a queen but treats others as paupers, shouldn't one take particular notice of this fact? Are you with some one you deserve? Doesn't it bother you that they were unfaithful before you were even together? Should anyone have to beg for intimacy?
Although his behavior could simply be due to impotence, the age difference, stress or feelings of inadequacy or any other number of things, it could also be something else. Either way, you have the opportunity to take action before it is too late. However, perhaps you are seeking solutions to the wrong problem!
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He's lost interest in you and he's screwing around. I can't think of a better reason to get yourself free as soon as possible so you can find someone who really loves YOU. You are just starting out in life, why waste it with someone like him? You deserve to be satisfied.
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I am sorry to say this, but if he has tried using pills, you have tried to help him and you still get no response, i hope it isnt that he is just more interested in getting it elsewhere. You need to have a very deep talk with him about your feelings and your needs not been met.Suggest seeing a therapist and they may be able to help him with the erection and early cum issues. All those things can be fixed and you can still find ways around it and still have a decent sexual life. Both partners must just be willing. He cant continue to get mad and defensive, that is why you need a third part to get to the bottom of the problem. Good luck.
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