I am currently a 14 year old male just starting gr.9 and well am not currently circumcised and everyone of my friends claim to be. As dumb as i am i claimed i was to just to fit in and not get made fun of. I have been researching about getting circumcised but i am not sure because there are some things that are pulling me back from this decision because well first of all the pain that alot of young men are saying that is involved after this procedure and some of the problem with the "cuts". I am embarrassed to talk to my parents about this at the moment because i am not sure what to expect from them so i thought it would be a good idea to get any advice from the internet by posting this. The reason i do want to get circumcised though is not only to "fit in" but am told that it does look much better and feels much better when experiencing oral sex. As well the information i have gathered most people are saying that the cusp or also known as the head of the penis is not as sensitive as it is when it is covered my foreskin. I have researched this just recently and have seen pictures of this procedure and well am not very fond of how it looks. Also i am wondering if they put you to sleep or numb your body/ genital area before this procedure.
Any information is appreciated.
-Thank you
Any information is appreciated.
-Thank you
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Nonsense, bollocks, and ridiculous.
Firstly, it doesn't 'look' better - an erect penis with foreskin retracted and an erect circumcise penis are to all intents identical, and personally, having a 'scarred' member seems rather less appealing than an 'unscarred' member. Circumcision is popular in the US, and a religious or cultural practice in the middle east (where it essentially originated) for hygiene purposes. If you can wash however, you have no reason to be circumcised for hygiene purposes.
Secondly, it doesn't make oral sex 'better'. As you yourself note, leaving the head exposed to material 100% of the time desensitises the head somewhat, so no it doesn't make it 'better'. It also removes a natural aid to masturbation, as without the foreskin, stimulation of the head is direct, by friction, rather than indirect, by pressure with a comfortable rolling motion (ie: foreskin moving with the hand, but stationary relative to the head of the penis - think tank track), so masturbation now requires either stimulation of the shaft or direct friction stimulation of the head, both of which the uncircumcised male can practice, but now without the option that the uncircumcised male has, but the circumcised male has lost.
Thirdly - and girls have their own equivalent, with frankly sad results, requesting surgery (as here) to fix non-problems - young people will tease, for many reasons - peer pressure, scoring points, their own embarassment at the changes taking place. Do you seriously believe that mature young men of 25, or older business men, in sport club changing rooms, still score points off each other in common showers? They've got better things to do with life, and barely even think of what they have or how they could change it.
Fitting in is a sensitive topic for teens, but if you do this, they'll just tease you about getting cut - and in some ways they might think you're a wimp for giving in, so guess what, as long as you're a teen, you're going to tease and or be teased. You and they will grow out of it, but what you're contemplating doing to your body is irreversible.
If at 18, you've decided that having a foreskin is intolerable (for most of the world, and I'm UK), it's not only tolerable, it's thank god and how the f**k do these people enjoy mutilating themselves and their children? It's your society, and when you're 18, your life: until then, perhaps fortunately, your parents will presumably be required to consent to the matter.
None of us enjoy discussing sex or intimate matters with our parents: it's just one of those things. If you want a rational adult discussion, go speak to a rational adult: doctor, clinic, even a coach, teacher, anyone that can discuss this - both the serious changes you're contemplating, and the frankly weak rationale you're presenting for considering it: the role of a teen is to discover and learn how to create, understand, and protect their identity.
It's not faulty to have the question, to consider it, to discuss it: what is faulty is to fail to recognise that this is the nature of life: interacting with people, sometimes playing their game, sometimes not.
Hint: the most powerful people in history are the ones that don't play other people's games: indeed, they set the agenda.
As someone once said: the reasonable man adapts to society; the unreasonable man does not; thus it follows that all change relies upon the unreasonable mand.
You don't have to be a Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Kennedy, Churchill, De Gaulle, Jobs, Gates, whatever. But you and every one of your friends is going to develop a strong and nearly immutable character, and a fundamental choice within that character is to decide how to get your way, or make life tolerable. Some people surrender to win: be a victim, invite someone to bale you out. Some people negotiate to win (Hostage Negotiator), some use humour (Danny De Vito), some use threat (War On Terror).
You're rationale, eloquent, and thoughtful: probably a combination massively irritating to 'jocks'. Hint: it's a major turn-on for girls: who the hell would find a gawky jewish kid sexy, but Woody Allen is up there. Humour, intelligence, compassion, they get chicks going like you won't believe, you just haven't figured that out yet.
Check out the dork (technical term) in 10 Things I Hate About You - he's no jock, but he's smart enough to listen to advice in getting the girl: be part of her life, be there for her, and be a man - a real man, not a jock, and not a wimp: discover your own identity, and make it work for you. Cicero ruled rome without a sword; Caesar at the point of a sword: who was really the greater man?
Gandhi and Stalin both defeated empires (ours [uk] and Hitler's [WWII] - one with a word, the other with millions of lives and thousands of tanks. Who was the greater leader?
You want to cut off your d*ck or part of it, to please your mates? What kind of man is that? Cut off your d*ck to please yourself, that's being a man. To please someone else, that's being a victim. I've no idea what you will do, but whatever you do, do it for yourself. You are, until and even after you find a special someone, the only one that truly matters. When you find a significant other, they will matter too, but not - if you're ethical and they are too - at the expense of your identity, your needs, your dreams.
Talk, discuss, negoatiate, consider: explore and grow, and when you finally know what to do you will feel confident in the decision.
Final thought: a 'test' you can apply to such decisions: if I was on a dessert island, would this be something I would be concerned about or contemplating doing?
Eating - yes.
Drinking - yes.
Entertainment - yes.
Cut my d*ck off - ???.
Your call. Good luck.
Firstly, it doesn't 'look' better - an erect penis with foreskin retracted and an erect circumcise penis are to all intents identical, and personally, having a 'scarred' member seems rather less appealing than an 'unscarred' member. Circumcision is popular in the US, and a religious or cultural practice in the middle east (where it essentially originated) for hygiene purposes. If you can wash however, you have no reason to be circumcised for hygiene purposes.
Secondly, it doesn't make oral sex 'better'. As you yourself note, leaving the head exposed to material 100% of the time desensitises the head somewhat, so no it doesn't make it 'better'. It also removes a natural aid to masturbation, as without the foreskin, stimulation of the head is direct, by friction, rather than indirect, by pressure with a comfortable rolling motion (ie: foreskin moving with the hand, but stationary relative to the head of the penis - think tank track), so masturbation now requires either stimulation of the shaft or direct friction stimulation of the head, both of which the uncircumcised male can practice, but now without the option that the uncircumcised male has, but the circumcised male has lost.
Thirdly - and girls have their own equivalent, with frankly sad results, requesting surgery (as here) to fix non-problems - young people will tease, for many reasons - peer pressure, scoring points, their own embarassment at the changes taking place. Do you seriously believe that mature young men of 25, or older business men, in sport club changing rooms, still score points off each other in common showers? They've got better things to do with life, and barely even think of what they have or how they could change it.
Fitting in is a sensitive topic for teens, but if you do this, they'll just tease you about getting cut - and in some ways they might think you're a wimp for giving in, so guess what, as long as you're a teen, you're going to tease and or be teased. You and they will grow out of it, but what you're contemplating doing to your body is irreversible.
If at 18, you've decided that having a foreskin is intolerable (for most of the world, and I'm UK), it's not only tolerable, it's thank god and how the f**k do these people enjoy mutilating themselves and their children? It's your society, and when you're 18, your life: until then, perhaps fortunately, your parents will presumably be required to consent to the matter.
None of us enjoy discussing sex or intimate matters with our parents: it's just one of those things. If you want a rational adult discussion, go speak to a rational adult: doctor, clinic, even a coach, teacher, anyone that can discuss this - both the serious changes you're contemplating, and the frankly weak rationale you're presenting for considering it: the role of a teen is to discover and learn how to create, understand, and protect their identity.
It's not faulty to have the question, to consider it, to discuss it: what is faulty is to fail to recognise that this is the nature of life: interacting with people, sometimes playing their game, sometimes not.
Hint: the most powerful people in history are the ones that don't play other people's games: indeed, they set the agenda.
As someone once said: the reasonable man adapts to society; the unreasonable man does not; thus it follows that all change relies upon the unreasonable mand.
You don't have to be a Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Kennedy, Churchill, De Gaulle, Jobs, Gates, whatever. But you and every one of your friends is going to develop a strong and nearly immutable character, and a fundamental choice within that character is to decide how to get your way, or make life tolerable. Some people surrender to win: be a victim, invite someone to bale you out. Some people negotiate to win (Hostage Negotiator), some use humour (Danny De Vito), some use threat (War On Terror).
You're rationale, eloquent, and thoughtful: probably a combination massively irritating to 'jocks'. Hint: it's a major turn-on for girls: who the hell would find a gawky jewish kid sexy, but Woody Allen is up there. Humour, intelligence, compassion, they get chicks going like you won't believe, you just haven't figured that out yet.
Check out the dork (technical term) in 10 Things I Hate About You - he's no jock, but he's smart enough to listen to advice in getting the girl: be part of her life, be there for her, and be a man - a real man, not a jock, and not a wimp: discover your own identity, and make it work for you. Cicero ruled rome without a sword; Caesar at the point of a sword: who was really the greater man?
Gandhi and Stalin both defeated empires (ours [uk] and Hitler's [WWII] - one with a word, the other with millions of lives and thousands of tanks. Who was the greater leader?
You want to cut off your d*ck or part of it, to please your mates? What kind of man is that? Cut off your d*ck to please yourself, that's being a man. To please someone else, that's being a victim. I've no idea what you will do, but whatever you do, do it for yourself. You are, until and even after you find a special someone, the only one that truly matters. When you find a significant other, they will matter too, but not - if you're ethical and they are too - at the expense of your identity, your needs, your dreams.
Talk, discuss, negoatiate, consider: explore and grow, and when you finally know what to do you will feel confident in the decision.
Final thought: a 'test' you can apply to such decisions: if I was on a dessert island, would this be something I would be concerned about or contemplating doing?
Eating - yes.
Drinking - yes.
Entertainment - yes.
Cut my d*ck off - ???.
Your call. Good luck.
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By the way, either I'm getting old (true) or the website database is screwing with my spelling, viz: rational [no e] not rationale et al
I'm sure you'll figure the spelling out. Hope you figure the rest out too - most of us don't, then we die - it's just life.
I'm sure you'll figure the spelling out. Hope you figure the rest out too - most of us don't, then we die - it's just life.
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You have doubts so the answer is ----- Don't do it.
There's nothing wrong with being natural. Do you think God screwed up with the design?
You may find a girl who prefers a bare head but I dare say for the most part it makes no difference to them. I never even had a girl remark about my foreskin. Well, that's not exactly true. When I was 6 years old the neighbor girl thought it was pretty neat because her brother didn't have one. When I was 19 I had a girl who would have killed me if I got it removed. She loved playing with it.
So I see no reason to have it removed and plenty of reasons not to.
There's nothing wrong with being natural. Do you think God screwed up with the design?
You may find a girl who prefers a bare head but I dare say for the most part it makes no difference to them. I never even had a girl remark about my foreskin. Well, that's not exactly true. When I was 6 years old the neighbor girl thought it was pretty neat because her brother didn't have one. When I was 19 I had a girl who would have killed me if I got it removed. She loved playing with it.
So I see no reason to have it removed and plenty of reasons not to.
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Well shortly after reading the comments posted i have made my decision and i have decided NOT to get my foreskin cut, not for my friends or society but for me. I would really like to thank you guys for providing the information i needed for the situation i was in and well im happy with my decision.
-Thank you.
-Thank you.
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Well it is not as painful if they numb you cause you won't feel anything at all...but I am not sure how it will be if they do not numb you
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I feel you bro. I am 14 as of 2013 and I am not circumcised but I plan to be over spring break. I ask all of my friends and same thing all were circumcised and I was not so I ask my dad as weird as it was I was happy. I showed him all the benefits and he agreed. I was circumcised and 14 with no problem the pain was bad but it means a great sex life and it makes you 10000 time more happy with your body
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Hello I am 14 years old also and going through the same exact thing you are. I have many friends but there all assholes about not being circumcised at first I took it hard but over time I came to accept it. When your 20 girls and guys won't care about your penis, the only reason they act the way they are is bc there immature 14 year olds.
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Wow!! Don't hold back! Tell us how you really feel!!
Remember.....this is ONLY YOUR OPINION. ..nothing more....nothing less....
Remember.....this is ONLY YOUR OPINION. ..nothing more....nothing less....
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I am 15 and 3 days ago I got circumcised because of phimosis, not cosmetics. It will be very sensitive the first few days after and you will prob a my think it looks pretty gross when looking down at it. But it will heal and return to normal.
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I find this very important and helpful, thanks, you bave made my decision clear tht im not doing anything down their (you literally answered all my questions so thanks, also im a completely different boy from the UK)
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