i 28 and i have 2 kids 12 yrs of marriage and i dont love and like my husband since 4 yrs a go so having sex with him is not something i enjoy. instead i prefert mastur bation but 3 months a go i just cant cum and be on depo shots make it more hard because i just whant so bad to have sex but when i try mastur_bation i just cant cum i try all kinds of porn and nothing . is something wrong with me???
i kind feel embarrasing to ask this to the doctor. :$
i kind feel embarrasing to ask this to the doctor. :$
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It could also be that your body wants to try something new. Try new things during sex. It doesn't matter if it's kinky, if you both love each other, and really wants to satisfy your partner, you have to take challenges and find something new. You might even learn something about your sexual desires ;-)
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Your brain is your biggest sex organ, so you not loving or being attracted to your husband plays a HUGE role in this! Also having children can actually change your vagina - tears, scaring etc. So where you Skenes Gland is it could be scarred and thus you not being able to ejaculate anymore! It's NO big deal with this - even though the release will be missed! Your not ejaculating is nothing compared to how you are REALLY feeling about sex or the act of sex - in general! There is obviously something that has gone on in the last 4 years - with your husband etc - to make you SO against the pleasure part of sex! So those scars - emotional AND physical - are making it virtually impossible for you to relax and become aroused! What you need to do is find out and really analyze WHY you don't like your husband - which you will already know of course - but see how that has affected your feelings of pleasure!
Your brain is a WONDERFUL organ, that controls a LOT of things every second! So IF your husband has hurt you, cheated on you, forced you to have sex etc etc etc, then you will have to come to terms with that and really realize that your feelings for him OR sex is ALL about a BIG deal and your brain is stopping you from having ANYTHING to do with the act of sex - as this act has hurt you in the past! Women who have had sexual trauma - vaginal, mental, emotional,- will NEVER have pleasurable sex or stimulation till the traumas are healed! So REALLY analyze WHEN, WHY, HOW, WHAT, WHO started the trauma! And start dealing with that! And DON'T use porn! It's just fake, you need healing and natural feelings of touch and pleasure NOT fake!
I hope this helps, and just know - from someone that has been there - Once the pain has been dissolved ALL will work out in the end!
Your brain is a WONDERFUL organ, that controls a LOT of things every second! So IF your husband has hurt you, cheated on you, forced you to have sex etc etc etc, then you will have to come to terms with that and really realize that your feelings for him OR sex is ALL about a BIG deal and your brain is stopping you from having ANYTHING to do with the act of sex - as this act has hurt you in the past! Women who have had sexual trauma - vaginal, mental, emotional,- will NEVER have pleasurable sex or stimulation till the traumas are healed! So REALLY analyze WHEN, WHY, HOW, WHAT, WHO started the trauma! And start dealing with that! And DON'T use porn! It's just fake, you need healing and natural feelings of touch and pleasure NOT fake!
I hope this helps, and just know - from someone that has been there - Once the pain has been dissolved ALL will work out in the end!
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hey I had the same ol problem with my boyfriend i just wouldnt cum when we had sex. Then one of the girls in my university told me they had a mexican boyfriend and he gave her very good sex most of the time. So one day i decided to cheat on my boyfriend with a mexican guy and guess what he made me cum.Then when i have sex with my boyfriend now i cum. Maybe you need a mexican for the job....if you know what i mean lol. well good luck finding you a mexican =D
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i'm 20 and my prob is that i cant cum when i'm having sex with my bf. i have never cum during 'real' sex. I do cum when using toys but i have to nearly push my limit to do that. i have to be nearly out of breath, i'm in so deep (i often wonder if i'm doing harm to myself being in so deep), i have to be so rough (again the doing more harm), my heart has to be beating so fast, and rather than in and out movements i like up and down. it doesnt hurt, it feels great but that cant be normal... maybe i'm one of those ppl who think pain is pleasure. i use a bunny vibe which is amazing, but i'm concerned that i've been on vibes too long that a guy cant make me cum. Is this normal or should i see a gyno?
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I'm 17 and me and my boyfriend have amazing sex....but i don't know what to do because i can get him to cum every time. But when he cant get me to i feel like I'm not worth even that :'(.... he tells me that its ok but i can see the disappointment in his eyes. i just don't know what to do?
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im 20 years old,, in love with my boyfriend no problems what so ever. but i cant seem to cum during sex, even foreplay. even toys.
i feel really down abot this as i cant seem to think why? im confident during sex, and i feel sexy, but why cant i just get the finishing result. my boyfriend has been supportive through this but i just dont want him to get bord as he says he likes to see a girl cum.. HELP ME PLEASE
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I just want everyone to know that a lot of girls can't cum at all. It has nothing to do with the guy or something wrong with you. Just the simple fact that some women can't. Just like squirting. A lot of women have no idea what that is or have ever experienced it.
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Just a tip:... if you can learn to clench your vagina I'm sure your b/f would cum every time. You know when you really have to pee and you hold it... or even when your peeing and you can stop, go, stop, go.... try doing that when you don't have to pee. If you can strengthen that muscle and doing while your having sex I bet things will look up :)
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yeah same thing w me ... im a female and my girlfriend and i have been together for about 8 mnths now and everytime we have sex she cums but i have never came once .. ive never really told her but i want to come soo that we can experience it together. i always wonder what is wrong with maybe it is true that im not comfortable with doing it as of yet... i will also take the advice of the lady who said to try the pting rubbing idea hope it worls *crosses fingers*
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I have A few questions I am 17 and thinking about having sex.
Does it hurt?
What does it feel like?
What does p***y licking feel like?
And What does A blowjob feel like?
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oh god..Thought I was the one who's encountering this problem, When I was at the age of 17-19 I cum a lot whenever we have sex with my ex boyfriend. But after those age I don't cum whenever I have sex with my present boyfriend, though he cum but I don't..:(
I try to read some books, search on the internet good position, but still nothing works...
some of my friends tell me maybe I don't reach the Satisfaction level, maybe stress, some said it's Imbalance hormones.
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my issue is similar! if im riding him or if heis eating me i cum sooooo quickly, but when we have regular sex if im not hot or turned on i cant cum and its pissing me off. i understand the concept of communication but damn i dont want him 2 feel like hes not pleasing me! what do i do?
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Hello :) I've been reading most of what you girls have been having problems with. I had trouble myself and my bf would come fast. I think I read one of you say that you have to rub yourself to reach orgasm. I honestly thought it was weird when I had to move to get that good feeling but I believe that just like a guy has to do those "akward" things to get pleasure so do girls. I also areas someones tip about clenching/ squeezing your vigana, that also feels good for him ;). Oh and the clit rubbing business idk if it works with every female but maybe its the way the guy is rubbing it..maybe he's going to fast, maybe too slow; maybe to light on the clit, maybe to Hard. You should experiment with yourself first and maybe take it up another step and guide his hand and fingers until you cum and then he will catch on!! Also the g spot is important. I feel I've gotten too graphic lol but anyways point is don't give up Keep trying :) oh and don't overthink about it either. Good luck.
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