I feel sick around the guys i supposedly like... but i have

i feel the same way right now kinda liked this guy and he starts saying he like me but i cant handle ho i feel its annoying and sice gr5 i felt this way im 14 i know im young but its annoying any help i could get please i know there are answers but something simple other than therapist

I get the same problem :/
It's so frustrating! I'm glad I'm not the only one...

!!! Exactly the same thing is happening to me RIGHT NOW!!! :/ I'm glad I'm not the only one

Your not alone, very popular, handsome guys have liked me, and when I start "talking" to them to date them, I tell them that I only want to be friends, and I find EVERYTHING they say, and do annoying, and it discusts me. I feel stupid for ever liking them, I hope I grow out of it, because I want to get married one day.

Don't jump into love to quickly, when your young it seems like your missing out if you don't. The relationships that last imo are the ones that grow/bloom over time. There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone you like but I wouldn't force myself into something that doesn't feel right at that very moment. I am 27 male and felt the same way about women when I was younger. You have all of high school, college, your career to fall in love with someone. When the right person comes a long you will know it 110% with your heart and you won't be able to let go of them no matter what if that makes sense. Trust me when I say this they won't be absolutely perfect in every single way because no one really is perfect but your heart won't lie to you.

Some people fear they will go their entire life with out finding the right person (soul-mate) and force themselves into something too soon that won't work but do it anyway.

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I'm 24 and this started happening to me years ago. I originally thought it was a medical problem but doctors tests were no help. I have yet to go to a psychologist about it. But I do think its mental. Maybe we are afraid of intimacy? But the thing is, I dated this one guy and wasn't afraid of anything. But then he broke my heart. Anyways, a good way to stop the queazy feeling is to get ginger paste from the grocery store and take a spoon full of that. It works like a charm. I'm still nervous but at least my stomach doesn't hurt.

That has happened to me! I'm 14 and I had the BIGGEST crush on my friend for like 2 weeks and we dated for about a day (don't ask.) and then "broke up". And ever since then, he makes me feel so sick and nauseous. Like just like you, I noticed all his flaws and the things about him that make me sick... I avoid him as much as possible now. Honestly I have no clue what it is. But I get that feeling that he's just so scary and gross and well weird. I can't explain what it is and I looked it up, and this popped up. I've never felt like this with any other guy, so I don't understand it. I'm still doing research on it. I think it may have something to do with our hormones. We are teenagers and we have weird stuff happening inside of us, so maybe it's related to that? This is really weird though.. 

Thank you. I have been so worried I was crazy. I just started my first real relationship with a guy I really liked until we started to date and I have had this sick feeling before with guys I like. Every time we start to get close to them they weird me out and I stop talking to them. The kid I'm with now is so perfect but now that ware together he weird s me out so much that I want to leave him but I don't know why. I really wish this would stop because it's ruining all of my relationships. I am heading off to college and I wanna either stay with my boyfriend or be able to start fresh with someone new in college. Is there any tricks you found that helped you?

I'm actually like that to! except when I get close to friends and guys when i go to heir house i dont know what happens I feel so sick and I get anxious and shaky and panicky and i dont know why! My parents got divorced when I was 10/11 it didn't affect me I see my dad alot and I rather it this way. My mum and dad are still good friends and its good! I just dont know what to do. It's not about scared to be intimate or anything I just feel sick when I get closer to people! Please help me!

IM THE SAME WAY!

i had no idea why i felt like this. everytime someone says they like me, i get sick in my stomach. even if i liked them at first, its like i become disgusted with them! and i end up feeling like a b*tch. its been happining since the 6th grade.

i decided to ggogle it becuz i thought it had something to do with anxiety, because thats how this problem is effecting me. everyone says ull grow out of it, i honestly dont think thats the case. i havent been in a relationship since 6th grade because of this. im 18 too!

i decided to tell my dad because non of my friends could relate. he is just like me! hes been married 3 times but he says that he always has that feeling. is it genetic?

i could really use someones help. i really dont wanna push these guys away. i always feel guilty and tbh im really lonely. i know im too young but ive been proposed too more then once and ive always wanted to puke when it happened. :,( please someone, help.

i NEED A CURE!

I feel this exact same way and I hate it so much! I first like the guy and then suddenly I start feeling uncomfortable and just generally terrible. He can be so perfect in every way but it still happens! And any other guy I look at I see as better than him. It's ruining every relationship that starts and I have no way to explain it, I really need some answers

I can't believe how much of this post is so me. I just recently experienced being sick as a dog around a guy that I really like, or think I do. I had no idea anyone else experienced this and it makes me feel so much better! But my point is, I've been so depressed since I had to tell the guy I liked I wasn't ready for a relationship which was last night but I've been anxious and sick feeling for the whole 2 months we were talking. He's such a great guy, I don't want to lose him but I don't know how to make it all better. Can someone help me?

It has been going on since 7th grade and I am now a junior in high school, I am sick and tired of it! I just want to be able to have a normal relationship :(

I've been reading a lot about this lately, trying to figure out what is wrong with me. I'll have an attraction to a guy, which eventually grows into a crush, but when they make a move (not physical or sexual but literally just asking for my number or asking to meet up outside of school) I'm initially happy, but then it turns to dread and a sick feeling in my stomach like I'm going to throw up. I start to think of all the reasons it could never work out, and the thought of dating them starts to disgust me a little. My mom told me that just means I'm not ready for a relationship.

A year after my first experience with this, I started liking a different guy, with a similar result. I really didn't understand how I could go from having a major crush on someone, to being disgusted with the idea of dating them! It's not like these guys did anything wrong, it was just like a switch flipped and suddenly I felt sick.

So after reading other people's stories, and looking back over past crushes, I FINALLY realized why I believe I do this. I realized that when I like a guy, it's easy to imagine what it would be like to date him, and I get all these expectations. When that guy makes a move, I realize my expectations are probably unrealistic, but if I have all these expectations of him, he probably has expectations of me. Subconsciously I am so insecure and so flawed, that I "know" I will never be able to meet these expectations, and therefore this guy is going to realize how flawed I am, and I'm going to get hurt when he dumps me because I'm not perfect.

I know it sounds a little crazy, I mean nobody's perfect, but I think deep in my subconsious, this was what I was feeling, but I was unable to identify it. All of this is just a defense mechanism so that I don't get hurt, because I feel like no man would ever want someone flawed like me. Of course this goes back to daddy issues like a lot of other people expressed. This is the conclusion I've come to, hopefully someone finds it insightful for their own situation! :)

I used to feel like this a lot, last year I REALLY liked this guy, then he said he liked me too and I couldn't stop feeling sick and like I wanted none of it to have happened.

Now, I am coming up to my 5th month with my current (and 1st proper) boyfriend. At the start (talking 1st couple of days/1st week) I kinda felt how I did the first time but not as bad and after about a month the sick feeling hadn't come back again! I think it is our bodies way of dealing with this new and frightening concept, we don't like change.

Don't stress about it, you don't need to see a therapist! It's normal and you won't always feel like that, it will get better and stop eventually :)