I give My WIFE so much and get NOTHING in Return... What do you think is the problem?

Bro, this is not something you should be a part of. I know you love her, I know she is your wife, but there is a huge problem. She clearly does not care for you as much as you care for her.

Problem is, she is your wife. Stop spending so much money on her. I cringed when I read abut your Christmas. She obviously was in it for the money or something, not you.

Get rid of this filthy human being, you obviously deserve much better. Stop buying her things and tell her that she is a b***h and is not grateful for anything. Show her that you CAN leave, and I bet she will change her ways.

She is not wife material'.... and sorry for you but she was just looking for a provider.. i would dump her.....quick.. mirror her behavior and get out asap!

What has happened since? Are you two still together?

dump er before its to late. Sounds like she thinks you a dope.

I once heard familiarity breeds contempt.  Sound like exactly what you have going on.  You are abundantly good to her and she likely views you as weak and a pushover and she enjoys rubbing you face in the dirt ie ignoring you while at the same time playing up to others, tries to control you by threats of leaving.  I could go on.  She must have a streak of sadistic cruelty based on all you have said.  This type person gets off on destroying another person's self esteem.  It is a sick control thing.  As long as you continue to treat her as lavishly as have been nothing will ever change.  You are no challenge to her.  She has you in her hip pocket and she glows knowing that fact.  Just get away from this nightmare of a woman before she does something irreversible to you.  Dude, not only is she neglectful and disrespectful of all you do and who you are, she sounds dangerous and a bit creepy.

PUT 1000% ATTENTION TO THIS: read Your own story as it was from and older or ugly or fat guy been used by a pretty slutty girl. Then think about it!!
I feel sorry for You bro!

What of there is a child in the picture? Everything here is spot on with what I'm dealing with but I have a daughter with her

dump her sorry ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Mother in laws can break a marriage apart from my personal experience. Marriage is when two become one. No one else should have a say in what y'all do period. No offense but it sounds like she maybe having an affair as well. Just going from personal experience.

Stop buying her jewelry and buy her divorce papers!! She's never going to give u back as much as you give. She foes t speak the same love language as you. Read and take the test. 5 love language. You may not be as fluent in all 5 love languages and u need to brush up on one.
Acts of service
Affirmations
Quality time
Gifts
Physical touch


If you take the test you'll know what I'm talking about.

My wife is quality time
I'm acts of service

You mr. Are definitely gifts. So u show her you love her when u buy her nice things. You'd recognize her love if she came home kissed and hugged you and even gave you a keychain. It would mean the world to you.

It may mean the world to her if you stop getting her gifts and just said something nice or I dono had a drink with her.

As great as you sound, she probably got a drinking problem and you probably mention it to her.

I mean I don't know. She could just be a total b***h who only cares about herself.

She sounds miserable and depressed and that's why she drinks so much. You sound like a great guy who can do alot better. If you love her learn her language or let her go fina happiness

The word is narcissist. She will continue using you until you are bankrupt and then throw you away like garbage. A test is tell her you have lost your job and in financial debt and to ask her to pay the debt. She will drop you in a millisecond. Like mother, like daughter. She learned it somewhere.

Well you sound amazing

I know this is a year out from the post but I stumbled on this because of my similar situation as the individual writing this story. I moved to my wife's hometown so that she would be happy. ALL her family lives within 12 miles of our house. She has numerous friends around town because her job is only 7 miles away. I commute 50 miles one way to work each day because that is where my job is (Government). I have little time to build a friend base where we live because of my commute to work. Every spare time on the weekend is taking care of the house and trying to do things that make my wife happy. I have one family close by member 50 miles away (Father). the others are far away. Him and I have become close because he is all I have nearby. I haven't seen one of my grown son's in 5 years because the vacation time I do take is with the wife which I have elected to do so the marriage would be strengthen. My other son I saw one year ago only because of a funeral I went too that was in his area. Every time I do things to make my wife happy I get let down. My wife's family ALWAYS come's first before me. Family Holiday's hers first mine (my father) second or sometimes not at all. We went to marriage counseling a year ago and I listed 4 pillars of marriage that I needed for success. For a while she was making an effort to complete those pillars I requested routinely, now she back to the routine of only one pillar being met. If I discuss my feelings with her she gets defensive or makes an excuses. Tells me it's me being ridiculous. About 6 months ago I announced no more sacrifices for her and her family at a family gathering and I'm doing what I need to do keep my sanity and to see my family. So coming up I using my vacation time to visit my grown kids and my friends in my hometown without her. I found one of the pillars I requested of marriage success to be so severely broken and I called her out on it on the other day. Now she is very angry with me because she got caught and once again defensive. She is currently frustrated with me that I am not saving vacation time for her and I to take a vacation. The problem is I don't believe in divorce because of religious reasons but I am internally frustrated with the marriage. I can't sleep at night which makes things amplified I'm sure. I feel vulnerable that if a girl would come by and really paid me attention I would make a mistake that I would regret because of my frustration with the marriage. It is like she has everything going on in her life and I have the same old daily routine of not much of anything. I'm sure my actions of recently taking my life into my own hands and being slightly selfish is the talk with her friends because I was never that way in the past but I am to the point of getting sick of being taken advantage of then being let down. I'm miserable and lonely now anyways so what if she dumps me. That is my story. Am I going crazy??? ES

You have to think about your health and sanity. Sometimes, you have to do your own thing such as divorce, or clamp down on her selfish ass. Women now are sociopaths and get off on control.

Give it up