i got fingered. am i still a virgin?

Um no. You cannot go on living saying that if you've never had a penis in you, your a virgin. If you have had any sexual relations then you are no longer a virgin. Being a virgin does not depend on the hymen whatsoever. If he went down on you that is oral sex, you are not a virgin. If he fingered you that is still having a sexual relation, you are not a virgin.

Sorry your wrong technically she would still be a virgin as he says until a penis enters the vagina! Kissing is classed as sexual relations but that can't take your virginity!

No that can't be right either because by that definition all lesbians are virgins.

I would say you are a virgin till you have a moment that you consider losing it it is extremely narrow minded to say that you can only loss your virginity if a man sticks his penis in a woman which makes it seam like same sex couples can not loss it many say its till they hymen brakes but that can brake before but doing simple things in daily life it can reform and a man doesn't have one so by that logic a gay man that always bottoms or even a strait man that bottoms (there out there) will not loss there virginity. its not a case of how it happened its how you feel. If you Believe you are still a virgin then you are if you feel that you gave up your virginity to your partner by ingageing with what you have then you have its your perspective.

If you had oral sex are still look at innocent?

For all those who answered that you are not virgin. I strongly believe they are not virgins in the first place. Okay, I wouldn't say ALL of them, but I would say at least 80% of them would be non-virgins. To them, its a recurring thing or something they take lightly, or at least they have some sort of experience already. AKA they are non-virgins! Which is totally not right for you to follow them! Seriously, okay, this has become a trend in modern society. Which i strictly think its not right! Simply just giving away your virginity is becoming a trend. This is not right! You are on a loosing end. Firstly, you girls are TOO EASILY letting guys take away something that is precious to you! They need show you love, kindness and aptitudes of a true husband and true love before you give them something that you hold so preciously. If you sleep with your boyfriend, and you change boyfriend and then you change another boyfriend and in the end marries someone else, what makes a difference between all your previous boyfriends and your husband? It's the same the other way around. How would you feel when your husband told you, "oh I have had 20 girlfriends in the past and I had slept with all of them"? You'll feel something right? Of course if you've also had 20 boyfriends in the past and slept with all of them, then it would be nothing to you. But for someone who has been reserved and did not sleep with their previous boyfriends/girlfriend's would feel the unfairness, or disgust, or discomfort or however you call it, there is something there. (FYI, personally i feel disgusted that if you've slept with large numbers of people, you're kind of a part-time prostitute, except you're not collecting money from it, which is kind of stupid.) You want something from your husband, loyalty, purity, kindness. And your husband would also want the same from you, isn't it? It's a gift to each other. And it's also nice that you enjoy each other's sweet and loving gesture. There's a saying "Save your first kiss for your first love and your first sex for your husband." This saying was stupid because it does not apply to guys. I strongly think its stupid as it should apply to guys as well. My point is, you have to be fair for your husband/wife right. This is a gift and a precious one. I would think both husband and wife would appreciate. (Don't believe in diamonds, don't believe your boyfriend if they give you diamonds, diamonds are far from rare and they stockpile them so that prices remain high, and diamonds are stones! Its a business! They do not represent true love in anyway. De Beers is the company that branded love.) For the person who say that you don't deserve a husband who emphasize on virginity. That's a lie! That's probably because she's not a virgin anymore. Keeping one's virginity demonstrates responsibility and that's a virtue. I would say most guys still would still prefer a virgin in any sense. And girls should prefer that too. Most probably that sort of girl who thinks that the guy who emphasize on virginity, is not deserving of any girl would end up with a non-virgin husband, and that's fine if everyone is okay with it. And if you are not a virgin guy, and yet you are demanding a virgin girl, then you are just sick in the mind. And for someone to say that one wouldn't have experience or technique if he/she is a virgin. I am sure learning in this field would be much easier than Calculus, Algebra or for some even easier than the English Alphabat. You can always explore around on this if you find mastering this skill difficult, or refer to some professional guides like the PROPER KAMA SUTRA (Although so many ideas on this book have been thoroughly misunderstood, mislead, and misguided, and people just use this for sex with anyone) Personally, I have not had sexual intercourse. But I wouldn't consider myself a complete virgin and I really regret not saving my whole self up for my future wife. I've had a "girlfriend" once but just because I wanted to have a girlfriend and try sex. This was when I got so depressed and I thought that having a girlfriend and having sex would be great. Perhaps because I watched too much porn and have that unrealistic illusion of sex. (Seriously guys [and sometimes girls], porn gives you an unrealistic view of sex and makes your mind goes haywire, without you even knowing it. Masturbating to porn makes it worse, it gives you the hypnosis which sends you into a spiral of illusions and unrealistic thoughts. The fact that you've seen this post means that you've some sort of idea on what true love and true sex is like. You need to go talk to your friends, play soccer or play other games with your friends, do your homework properly, get on with life, do your favorite hobby, fishing, chatting with friends, shopping, whatever. I am sure one day you will find the love of your life.) I would say I did not love my girlfriend entirely and did not see her as a future wife. In fact I would say I have abused her, I fingered her a bit and forced her to give me a hand job, which she as a nice girlfriend, trying to please me didn't reject me. It was then, I realized that I couldn't orgasm and I had to force myself hard to orgasm, which I think its not right. It was also then I knew that I did not love her from the depths of my heart and did something evil and hurt her. Anyway, apart from that, we did not have oral sex or sexual intercourse. So, I felt lucky that I didn't take away her virginity entirely. I was so depressed, apart from my own life problems, another thing is also perhaps because I listened to too much of these NONSENSE PEOPLE that thinking sex is something that can be taken lightly and that nowadays you can't find any virgins anymore. Let me tell you for one thing that that is not true! Many of my friends are still virgins and I am still partially a virgin (not something to be proud of). On another hand, I did went to massage palours and have handjobs quite a few times and there was this one time I had a blowjob with condom. I was so depressed at that time and there was that regret in me for my future wife. I did not have any sex though. Anyways, now I wouldn't expect much of my future wife since I myself have done indecency. I just wish that she still has some little gifts for me. At least be a virgin, I don't mind if she has had oral sex with others once or twice but please use condom so you are clean.

Yes, if penetration is the main reason for loosing the virginity then penis covered with condom or a finger stands the same chance brother... to loose her virginity.. that doesnt mean penis is something different that vagina feels and allow a girl to loose her virginity... penetration is penetration brother...it is also a type of sexual intercourse

You're wrong. Sex doesn't have to be between a man and a woman to be considered a virgin or not.

So lesbians can remain virgins for life?

Most women don't have a cherry to pop. It's often worn away throughout the years.

No. If you have had vaginal penetration then you're no longer a virgin.

Generally speaking yes.

This is very true. Virginity defines differently based on religion, culture, etc. So it all depends on how a person determines it

No there are different types of sex such as oral so it would be considered sex therefore she is not a virgin

So that means that I will forever stay virgin because I am a lesbian? That makes no sense. Losing virginity is not just penis-in-vagina-sex