I'm a 13 year old girl and i have always had a close relationship with my dad. But recently since i turned 13 i have noticed he has been a lot less tolerant of me and will get angry quickly. We have always play wrestled and he has even taught me jiu jitsu but he has been more agressive and has been hitting me really hard when we play he always says i was being too rough and he was showing me what it feels like but i feel i am being his punching bag. As for psychological abuse he will yell at me often and will get mad at me over very simple things, such as not wanting to watch a horror movie or saying one minute he always calls me lazy and that i have no work ethic and will "Be one of those people who are stuck with a S**tty job and regret their life!". I happen to be an A student and am planning on being a veternarian but he says i'll never make it in college and the responsibility will be too much for me. He has recently changed jobs and is going through a tough time but i don't feel he should take it out on me and my mother who he also yells at regularly. Please give me advice on what to do i'd really appreciate it....
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Hi,
It sounds pretty tough. From my point of view i think your dad is just going through a phase in his life so he is generally not happy hence the frustration. So he is taking it out on you guys. I'm pretty sure he doesn't actually mean what he says and i think you should just hang in there for a while and be a grown up girls.
Your dad needs your support, so be there for him. It's easy to offer support to someone who is nice to you, but in your situation it's tough. What i think you should do, is to just settle down and don't take him for granted. Let him say whatever he has to say and you just keep quiet. He just needs a blow of valve. Be there for him.
It's good that you have all A's and have a goal to be a veterinarian. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't make it. Just keep that in mind and go on with your life. Study, hang out with your friends and be there for your family.
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i also thought i should mention that he is also forcing me into being Catholic, i don't necessarily believe everything they do and would prefer to convert to Judaism but he forces me to go to mass and take catacism classes what should i do about that and i have told hiim my feelings but he just ignores me :(
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I see. That is definitely tricky to handle. I don't know about you but i think that no one should be forced into religion. That is a wrong way. I think parents should educate, to some extent, their children about the religion and let them choose when the time is right.
One thing is sure about your whole situation; your dad is definitely making a mistake. Not just one but a whole bunch of them. I am definitely on your side but i feel i can't help you more than comfort you. I feel bad for your situation, and i can somewhat grasp how you feel. My advice to you is to keep it calm. Don't stress about it much, at least try. You are to young and you shouldn't worry about stuff like this.
Find a hobby or something and use your free time to do something costructive. Do you have any hobbies, friends ?
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