Ladies, God gave you a beautiful sex organ. No matter how large or small your clit or labias appear to you, most of us men could care less. I have had ladies of all sizes and shapes. Just like the size of a man, its how you use it and what counts in your heart and head. Be happy with what you have. Personally, I love a large labia and clit, as I am very oral and it does not bother me. DONT have the surgery.
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I'm a 20 year old male that grew up looking at playboy. I was a virgin until I was 18 and I never even got to see her because it was dark. I always thought that's what a vulva looked like ( no protruding labia). I currently have a girlfriend that was sooo nervous to let me see her or go down on her. She finally told me that she was uncomfortable with her large labia and that she was having surgery soon to remove it. Anyways, she let me see her and it was beautiful. I had to admire and caress it. I truly want her to realize that it's extremely normal and HOT :-D
So I have a question for you - How do I let her know that she's beautiful the way she is. I've tried telling her, but she thinks I'm just trying to be nice %-)
maybe I need to let her see this thread???
So I have a question for you - How do I let her know that she's beautiful the way she is. I've tried telling her, but she thinks I'm just trying to be nice %-)
maybe I need to let her see this thread???
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Hello ladies,
A friend of mine is going through exactly what all of you are going through. It breaks my heart and makes me so angry to know what has been done to her, and all of you, by someone you trusted.
We've talked about what's happened to her and although I have tried really hard to be there for her and support her as much as I can, I feel I can't possibly know what she is going through. This got me thinking about what I could possibly do to help.
I tried to do a bit of research and came across this forum. I see that a few of you would be interested in being part of an online discussion group. I would really like to help out with this if I can. I have the necessary skills to set this up and I have a personal interest in the project.
Obviously I would like to know what the level of interest would be for something like this. I am quite happy to fund and set up the project if it means that it would help even a few people out there to cope with what's going on.
So I guess this post would be a first step towards helping my friend, and other women who are feeling really isolated because of what's happened.
Any feedback or comments would be much appreciated.
Thanks.
A friend of mine is going through exactly what all of you are going through. It breaks my heart and makes me so angry to know what has been done to her, and all of you, by someone you trusted.
We've talked about what's happened to her and although I have tried really hard to be there for her and support her as much as I can, I feel I can't possibly know what she is going through. This got me thinking about what I could possibly do to help.
I tried to do a bit of research and came across this forum. I see that a few of you would be interested in being part of an online discussion group. I would really like to help out with this if I can. I have the necessary skills to set this up and I have a personal interest in the project.
Obviously I would like to know what the level of interest would be for something like this. I am quite happy to fund and set up the project if it means that it would help even a few people out there to cope with what's going on.
So I guess this post would be a first step towards helping my friend, and other women who are feeling really isolated because of what's happened.
Any feedback or comments would be much appreciated.
Thanks.
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An "online discussion group" sounds a good idea, if you would like a man's opinion then I would be prepared to join, and maybe share some of the cost.
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i had it done on wednesday and it is now momnday
it looks like they havbe only done half the job on the right side as towards the back of the labia it is still dangling, like a big bulge of flesh
i dontknow whether this is swelling but it is no where near the desired result and looks like i only got half of the labia done
has anyone else had this appearance aftyer?
it looks like they havbe only done half the job on the right side as towards the back of the labia it is still dangling, like a big bulge of flesh
i dontknow whether this is swelling but it is no where near the desired result and looks like i only got half of the labia done
has anyone else had this appearance aftyer?
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Dear MissAnony,
Thanks so much for your very kind offer of help. I am truly sorry your friend has found herself in this heartbreaking position.
I would be interested in an online support forum and agree it could be a real benefit to others who have suffered this atrocity. 14 months on, I am still in a great deal of pain, despite some remedial work which has addressed one problem, and my life can never be the same. What I've found is that the body does adjust to perpetual pain and discomfort, but the mind and heart don't. If anything, I am worse emotionally because hopelessness has set in. I applaud your insight in that it is nigh on impossible for someone who hasn't experienced this trauma directly to ever imagine it and how online support of some kind could help your friend. I did think of trying to set something up myself, but haven't the technical skill and wouldn't attempt something I couldn't deliver, especially to a group who have already been let down so very badly. So again, my thanks for your offer.
Best wishes,
GUEST15
Thanks so much for your very kind offer of help. I am truly sorry your friend has found herself in this heartbreaking position.
I would be interested in an online support forum and agree it could be a real benefit to others who have suffered this atrocity. 14 months on, I am still in a great deal of pain, despite some remedial work which has addressed one problem, and my life can never be the same. What I've found is that the body does adjust to perpetual pain and discomfort, but the mind and heart don't. If anything, I am worse emotionally because hopelessness has set in. I applaud your insight in that it is nigh on impossible for someone who hasn't experienced this trauma directly to ever imagine it and how online support of some kind could help your friend. I did think of trying to set something up myself, but haven't the technical skill and wouldn't attempt something I couldn't deliver, especially to a group who have already been let down so very badly. So again, my thanks for your offer.
Best wishes,
GUEST15
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I need to say the same as the previous guest. One can never overcome the emotional trauma of this. I am 12 months out. I would die to have a support group. Yes, the pain and discomfort is always there and it always reminds us of what we have lost.
Large thick labia provide for a great satisfying sex live. I wanted a very minor trim. I have nearly nothing now. Astheticly, I look like a porn star but I'm very deformed and can't enjoy foreplay.
This has ruined my life and by extension my kids.
Dont do it. or, look careflly for a good doctor. I trusted my OBGYN and would not have gone to a cosmetic surgeon. I'm lucky not to have died on the operating table for having bled so much. This is a cosmetic procedure and most OB's dont know what they are doing.
Large thick labia provide for a great satisfying sex live. I wanted a very minor trim. I have nearly nothing now. Astheticly, I look like a porn star but I'm very deformed and can't enjoy foreplay.
This has ruined my life and by extension my kids.
Dont do it. or, look careflly for a good doctor. I trusted my OBGYN and would not have gone to a cosmetic surgeon. I'm lucky not to have died on the operating table for having bled so much. This is a cosmetic procedure and most OB's dont know what they are doing.
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Let me just add to what I was said. Nobody can imagine the trauma if they haven't lived through it. Psychologists are useless, medication is useless. And the revision surgery's help esthetically but I too have the sense of hopelessness that have set in.
I've spent alot of money visiting doctors, all of whom tell me I look fine and normal. I dont feel fine or normal and can not imagine having the sex life I used to have.
If you are contemplating labiaplasty - dont do it. If you insist, then do a small reduction - very small. You can't put back the tissue that is taken.
My revision surgery gave me an esthetic benefit but made me much smaller and that is very difficult to adjust to.
I've spent alot of money visiting doctors, all of whom tell me I look fine and normal. I dont feel fine or normal and can not imagine having the sex life I used to have.
If you are contemplating labiaplasty - dont do it. If you insist, then do a small reduction - very small. You can't put back the tissue that is taken.
My revision surgery gave me an esthetic benefit but made me much smaller and that is very difficult to adjust to.
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I hope you can help. My daughter had labiaplasty today for medical not cosmetic reasons. I have scoured the postop instructions but see nothing on what to do for pain on urination. She is 13 and handles pain quite well but she still won't urinate because of the pain. What can I do to help her? I have tried using the showerhead to cool the area while she tries to urinate, using her hand to keep urine from touching the site (almost impossible) but no help. :'(
She is very susceptible to UTI so I don't want her holding her urine. Any suggestions?
Thaks
She is very susceptible to UTI so I don't want her holding her urine. Any suggestions?
Thaks
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I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's pain.
The only thing I can suggest is that you put some warm to the touch water in a jug and pour this over her as she urinates. She will need to sit far back on the toilet seat so there is space to do this and angle herself slightly so that the warm water will wash down as she pees - it should be much more gentle than any shower spray and prevent or quicly soothe away any irritation from the urine. I would also impress on her the need to drink a lot of water while recovering from the procedure and how drinking more than usual will help her urine be more dilute and therefore less irritating to pass.
I hope this helps.
The only thing I can suggest is that you put some warm to the touch water in a jug and pour this over her as she urinates. She will need to sit far back on the toilet seat so there is space to do this and angle herself slightly so that the warm water will wash down as she pees - it should be much more gentle than any shower spray and prevent or quicly soothe away any irritation from the urine. I would also impress on her the need to drink a lot of water while recovering from the procedure and how drinking more than usual will help her urine be more dilute and therefore less irritating to pass.
I hope this helps.
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Hi all. I had labiaplasty 12/30/08. That was one week ago today. I thought I'd start the new year with a new look so to speak.
However, my results were not as I expected. The first few days I felt great and thought everything was going well. I am happy with the way the area looks and am pretty sure my doc did not remove my entire labia minora. I am now in quite a good amount of pain. I went to the doctor yesterday who is my OBGYN and she removed some of the stitches because I was in so much pain. I have never screamed in a doctor's office before, but with every stitch she removed I had to muffle a scream and cried. Lord, it was horrible.
I feel ok when I'm sitting down, but an unexpected movement can cause a significant amount of pain. Walking is weird. I look like a duck and waddle so as not to touch or rub something wrong.
Peeing is the ultimate pain. I dam near puke every time I do so. The burning is awful. Diluting it with water doesn't help either. I'm praying God forgives me for changing what he gave me and that I won't be in pain forever.
Unfortunately, i didn't see these posts before my operation. I kept wanting to change my mind before but thought I was just being a chicken. I wish I'd have gone with my gut.
For now, I just hope my sex life will be as good as it was before, which is why I did all this or so I thought. Right now, I'm just gonna keep taking the vicadin and although I might still be in pain, the vicadin just makes it so I don't care... :-)
I'll post again in a week...Love to hear more from peeps who hurt at first and then got better!
However, my results were not as I expected. The first few days I felt great and thought everything was going well. I am happy with the way the area looks and am pretty sure my doc did not remove my entire labia minora. I am now in quite a good amount of pain. I went to the doctor yesterday who is my OBGYN and she removed some of the stitches because I was in so much pain. I have never screamed in a doctor's office before, but with every stitch she removed I had to muffle a scream and cried. Lord, it was horrible.
I feel ok when I'm sitting down, but an unexpected movement can cause a significant amount of pain. Walking is weird. I look like a duck and waddle so as not to touch or rub something wrong.
Peeing is the ultimate pain. I dam near puke every time I do so. The burning is awful. Diluting it with water doesn't help either. I'm praying God forgives me for changing what he gave me and that I won't be in pain forever.
Unfortunately, i didn't see these posts before my operation. I kept wanting to change my mind before but thought I was just being a chicken. I wish I'd have gone with my gut.
For now, I just hope my sex life will be as good as it was before, which is why I did all this or so I thought. Right now, I'm just gonna keep taking the vicadin and although I might still be in pain, the vicadin just makes it so I don't care... :-)
I'll post again in a week...Love to hear more from peeps who hurt at first and then got better!
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IMPORTANT. I had a severely botched labia plasty. I have had two revisions by Dr. Gary Alter. The man is a genius. If you have any concerns - save the money, see him in NY or California and have him fix you. Do not have the doctor who botched you touch you again. The is critical information. You may be able to have an improvement but he is the ONLY one who has the expertise to do this.
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People need to be more aware of the risks of the surgery. I can't believe how nieve i was, listening to the doctor. It sounded like it was going to be simple. Because large labia was knocking my confidence, and causing discomfort i decided to have the operation. It's all completely messed up. I didnt' think it would be possible to feel worse about my labia but i do. I wouldn't recommend the surgery to anyone. The trouble is, you don't realise until it's too late. I'm 15, i really think someone should have tried talking me out of it.
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I was with a MILF a couple weeks ago. She had large labia and it was awesome. I could feel it gripping my penis.
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I am so, so sorry for your unfortunate experience through the operation. I'm almost positive you'll completely heal and your life will get back to normal in all aspects. Just remember to love WHO and WHAT you are in every way. That is all that matters.
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