Labiaplasty Nightmare

Who do you think you are? How dare you insinuate that these women knew full well that they would be butchered against their will and decided to go ahead and do it anyway?



Your absolute ignorance is astounding. Not a single one of these women asked for what happened to them. It is blatantly obvious that you are not the friend or relative of anyone who is in this position. I highly doubt you even have any friends with an attitude like that.



This is not a forum where people come to be abused by people like you who are happy to dish out insults but won't even put a name to their post! It's so easy to sit back and judge people from behind a computer isn't it?



I am QUITE sure these women did their homework but there is precious little information around about how badly things can go wrong. There is plenty of information on TV, in magazines and online about the success stories but I yet to come across a widely publicised bare-all story about what happens when it all goes horribly wrong.



Your comment about the document they should all have signed detailing the exact dimensions of the flesh to be removed is absolutely laughable! If we took this to it's logical conclusion, why do people not have to do this for all surgical procedures they undergo? It's because we (stupidly) trust the healthcare "professionals" who belong to the very organisations who are supposed to ensure our safety; but don't.



So you're 43? I for one would think that someone your age would have developed a certain level of compassion and understanding over the years, especially since you claim to have such vast experience with what men think of a woman's labia. Did it ever occur to you that these women may have had the operation for reasons other than pleasing fussy men?



You are the most ignorant person I have come across in a long time and I find your attitude appalling.

Hello Busybee27 and All ;

I read your email you have asked if little part moved from labia inora was okey or not . I would like to say you that mine also was moved little part and only from one side . But it was enough for problems . Because these lips may can be un usefull but they are not ! Firstly it makes wet the vagina and makes help for sex . Even if little part is moved your all system is going bed .. Because you may not see but there is soo much nerves ; vein . If even small parts be moved you can not feel as before . There can be insensibility . Im the example : )

You may can think ; its only small part just little and unusefull part ( I was thinking like that before ) what can be if I make as mans ; circumcision .. But that are is not same . Its entrence area like mouth . Think that ; eating sleeping and sex is the most importent thing in the life is that RİGHT ? So if you have lost one of them what will be in future ..

Im sure that NO ONE is satisfied from Labiaplasty . AND ITS VERY IMPORTNENT MISTAKE AND IT MUST BE FORBIDDEN .. dONT BELIEVE WHATS WRTİNG ON THE INTERNET . THESE ARE ALL LYE ... THINK THAT IF YOU CUT YOUR REAL tongue WHATS RISKS CAN BE ?? ITS SAME YOU WILL LOST YOUR SENSTIVE .. . BE SURE IF UGLY OR NOT IF ITS VERY HORRIBLE OR NOT BUT THE MOST BEATIFUL THING IS YOURS ... THE MOST BEATIFUL THING IS BEIGN NATURAL ...

I had my op back in February and I'm a wreck of the person i used to be. Do any of you people who are in the same boat as i am have msn or jsut an email address i can talk to you via? I feel so alone at the moment.

Hello I can add you if you write your msn adress I will add you . We can talk about this .

My problem was after just having a reduction, and was covered by government health care as it was way to large to be comfortable.

I had this surgery almost 3 years ago and find that I experience general discomfort around the stitch lines quite frequently. I'm not sure which is more irritating though, the discomfort I experienced before the surgery or after.

I'm very thankful that you posted this topic though. For a long time I had thought there was something else wrong with me in that region despite my GP reassuring me there wasn't.

My other surgical scars are all uncomfortable from time to time, this one however being in such a sensitive and commonly used location, (even if you are abstinent) comes to my attention MUCH more frequently. I'm booking a follow-up with the surgeon to see if he recommends anything.

Thank you again for all your comments!

4 and a half months have gone by now since my labiaplasty surgery at Spire hospital UK. I have spent a small fortune on therapy which I used to think would never be for me. But I felt I had nowhere to turn as I felt so distressed, depressed, feelings of anxiety, of loss of reality, feeling detached from life and people I love, lost sense of who I am, deep regret, nightmares, anger, shame, sadness, feeling stupid...the list is endless. The procedure has rendered me numb physically and emotionally but I think I am getting a little better. Talking to other woman with whom I can be totally honest and who understand. I read parts of the nightmare posts before the surgery and never thought I would end up posting here. There is such a mixed bag of woman who are happy with the surgery and others like me whose lives have been totally ripped apart by the procedure. And I never thought for one minute that I would be stupid enough to be one of those. But I am. Mostly, besides trying desperately to come to terms with the change to my anatomy, I am trying to forgive myself. It is hard. I have been so traumatised by what I have done I could not bring myself to cry about it.

Give it a little time. I'ts probably still swollen.

For the past two years i have contemplated having this proceedure done. I have seen a surgeon in Harley Street who says yes whip it off and whilst we are down there you need a full vaginal prolapse repair. I freaked out and had second opinion at Spire Health (another £200) who said that she doesn't really like operating on the labial unless it is for medical reasons and the prolapse is normal for someone who has had three kids. This still didn't convince me and most days i think should i or shouldn't I.

This is the first honest forum i have seen and want to thank all you lovely women for sharing your stories. I feel so sad for all of you who have had bad experiences and feel that i am the lucky one now as i still have that choice. .... unless they become a problem, i am just going to have to learn to except what i have and not be so bloody paranoid about what men think. x

Guest, you can tighten your vagina with "Kegel exercises" also known as "pelvic floor exercises", Google these for more info and also "vaginal barbell".

I had this surgery Thursday 16th 2009. It is now 8 days since my op and I am still in a great deal of pain. Whilst I feel that the care that I received at Bath RUH UK was impeccable, I regret my decision to have it done. The surgeon removed all my labia minora which is what I asked for, but now it looks ridiculous. Furthermore, my stitches have come undone on the left side and has left an open wound. It is agonizingly uncomfortable and is very sore. I have been back to hospital and they told me not to bath, let air get to it and apply anticeptic cream to avoid infection. They will not stitch it back up as it may cause more harm. My doc said that I should heal okay, but my worries are first and foremost relating to the problems that some of these ladies have experienced post op. I worry that my sex life will be ruined, but I will not be able to have sex for several weeks anyway and I am sure that it will feel very different. I am worried about scarring too. I need to take more time off work and will not be having a wonderfully active summer as I had hoped for. ANYONE reading this who is interested in having it done, think very wisely about it, get a professional gynae doctor

It will show you that you are not deformed or different. You learn from your mistakes and personally I miss my larger labia!

Thank you all for sharing your experiences (except for that mean-spirited ignorant one). I too had a labiaplasty 2 and a half years ago. Yes, I thought I was a FREAK case, my labia minora was so large, hanging thickly an inch or more outside the labia majora. I didn't know anyone with a minora so honkin' big. My OBGYN said she performed the surgery and I thought it would be the right thing to do for many reasons: comfort, clothing and appearance. I had spent a year thinking about it and hadn't found any of the blogs or photos that are available today. After the surgery (like many of you), I felt changed in the way I moved. I no longer wanted to do yoga or workout or hike. Sitting became the way to not feel the results of my poorly done labiaplasty. I was now more ashamed of this part of myself; I admit I wanted to be perfect...acceptable to all including myself. Yes, for some this may be incomprehensible...many things came into play—poor self image, an upbringing that had a real dearth of love and acceptance—psychologically devastating. Many years later (I was 42 no children) my choice was made from a desire to control the way I looked. This decision was made from an emotional place...I sincerely thought I was making the decision after much consideration...though not as clearly as I wish now. My OBGYN did perform the operation, someone I trusted implicitly, which was my mistake. There were many questions I should have asked and did not—why? I cannot answer that. I was in therapy before the surgery (family issues) and continue now, with much talk about a lopsided labia and how to move on from a decision that plagues me every waking moment (yes, constantly!). Thank you for allowing me to share my story. It means so much to me that I know I am not alone and will gladly correspond with anyone who would like to...

hi there i am soo sorry to hear what has happened to u and everyone else! the same thing has also happened to me. The whole left hand side has come undone bar one stitch its not that painfull a the min although last nite and this morning when i woke up i felt lyk i had been butchered literaly!(they defo dont prepare u for the pain and discomfert this op incures. i had it done 8days go and still cant walk properly as it hurts, wouldnt even dare think bout trying to sit down eith! 5days recovery period my arse!!!!) i am on antibiotics as i also have an infection so they seem to be helping with the pain but it looks gastly my libia what is left of it is compleatly gaping open by about half an inch! i rang the docters today and they said there was nothing they could do till monday and not to worry as the anitbiotics will tide me over and keep any other infection away till then and that it will propably heal its self anyway!??but I am terrified of it not healing properly and looking all distorted once finally healed as the stitches aren’t there to hold and mold it into shape?! I also have a big lump of skin on the same side at the bottom of my clitoris it jots right out like a sprout on a moldy potato!!! The doctor told me that it was perfectly symmetrical both sides after the op and she was really pleased with it so where has this come from??! Just wondering if this is normal or if anyone else had the same thing and if it will go down as the whole clit is still quite swollen. Im going out of my mind with worry hear!!! Also they don’t worn u (amongst a million other things!!!) how much pain it is to go for a number two a was literally screaming the sweat way pouring off me. Ur total constipated off tablets they give u so going is like passing a brick worst pain of my life as it feels lyk your whole front is splitting from the tight stiches!!!! I normally have quite a high pain threshold hence not being worried and goin ahead with this op! I have only been once as I am too scared to go now and keep holding it! Is that normal that it hurts so much? Also I fear that is what ripped my stitches!?? : cry: also should i be bathing with this wound or not or does any one no what i should be doin the nurses at the hospital have all give n me conflicting advise i just dont no what to do im sooo scared!!! can any one give me any advice or help i dont no how much more i can take!!! also how is everyone else getting on are u any better now? i hope so!!xxxxxx

I have had my surgery 11 days ago and so fari AM NOT HAPPY WITH THE RSULTS, I WISH I COULD SEW THIS DOCTOR FOR HE PROMISED ME GOOD RESULTS , I HAVE AN ODOR :'( THAT IS UNFAMILAIR TO ME AND THE STICHES ARE NOT CLOSING THE WOUND! I'M VERY UNHAPPY WITH THE RESULT AND NOT ONLY THAT I HAD A HSYTERECTOMY DONE AT THE SAME TIME AND IT SEEMS TO BE HEALING FASTER THAN THE LABIA JUOB THIS IS A NIGHTMARE!

Hello there,



im 21 and i had labiaplastry done two weeks ago on the NHS! and the same thing happened to me they removed all my inner labia! and just like you im EXTREMELY concerned about scarring,sensation,pain, etc..im more depressed than ever before and i can't stop crying...



ive had brief pain but nothing unbearable im just worried after reading all these posts....what the outcome of my op will be.



how did you get yours done? NHS or Private?

Hello there,



you are not in this alone, alongside you all i have undergone this horric operation only two weeks ago in addition created one of the biggest mistakes of my life. im only 21 and i feel like my life is over and would give anything to turn back the clock and undo this massive wrong!.......



i cannot begin to describe my emotions at the moment i cant stop crying and i feel beyond depressed...your extract is an on point definintion!.....i can only ask if this online website/forum exisits? as some to talk to about this would be ideal....as i feel alone freakish and more ugly than i did before!....



i dont know what to or who to trust with this as my doctor and the cowboy surgeon are obviously not reliable!.....



please if there is anyone out there...who can assit me in this i feel so alone..and helpless and stupid ...