Okay everyone i need help. Big time. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a little over a year and we have done the whole bj ha****b, breast touching thing. And we love each other unconditionally. and i am not including my age becasuse i dont believe that it matters. I think loosing your virginity should be based off of your own maturity level and with someone that you truly love. Okay we havent had sex yet, and i havent really said anything to him about it . I am a compulsive planner i go over everything in my head over ten times before i do it, especially dealing with my own body. lol it took me over a year do get my heart to stop racing when i got my period, and even longer to get to the mind set of using a tampon. and Im not sure yet of i am ready for sex, emotionaly. BUt i am trying to ready my self on the physical side of things. I am here to ask to women that have already gone through this right of passage, what to expect when i lose my virginity. I mean i know the basics like your hymin breaks and most women bleed. and yes we are g oing to use a condom, if he doesnt have a condom, we arnt going to have sex. I am not going to have a baby right now. And i hear that it hurts really bad. Do you bleed alot? Could someone please just explain to me what happens down there when a girl has sex for the first time. Because i have no idea. I never had a sex talk . Is there any reason to go to my doctor? what would be the warning signs that i should see a doctor? If we use a condom what are the chances that i would become pregnate? Another question. I know every woman has a cycle and you only ovulate a certain few days in a month, is it true that you can only get pregnate durring those few days? If this is true there is a test on the market for women who are having trouble conceiving that will tell you when to have sex, when your best chances of getting pregnate are. Could i use that test to find when not to have sex? To see when my best chances would be and then avoid those dates or week? I am very nervouse for my first time but i suppose that is completely natural. One of my friends told me that i should use a dildo before i have sex with him, so that i wont be embarrased to bleed infront of him. But i do not see it that way. I love him and if i cant be comfortable with something completley natural like that than I wouldnt be thinking about having sex with him. please help if you can .
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First of all, please don't make a big deal out of this. I know that it is your first time, but it is not going to go smoothly. Have you ever seen a baby walk for the first time? It is going to be a little awkward. No one starts off by having sex gracefully, so please be sure to adjust your expectations so that you're not disappointed!
Second of all, use a condom, use a condom, use a condom. Make sure that both you and your boyfriend know how to put it on properly, and use lubricant, even if you already feel like you produce a lot of moisture. Do not skimp on this, as it can break and cause a problem.
Your first time will probably hurt. Those are muscles that have not been stretched, and it will not feel pleasant. Ways to make it better--make sure he goes slow. Use lubricant. Practice breathing deep so that you do not feel much pain. But chances are, your first time will hurt. This is normal. It should not be an intense pain--just a dull or low grade sensation. If you feel intense, sharp pain, stop. You would probably need to see a doctor if you feel that.
Does this help put your mind at ease? What do you think?
Second of all, use a condom, use a condom, use a condom. Make sure that both you and your boyfriend know how to put it on properly, and use lubricant, even if you already feel like you produce a lot of moisture. Do not skimp on this, as it can break and cause a problem.
Your first time will probably hurt. Those are muscles that have not been stretched, and it will not feel pleasant. Ways to make it better--make sure he goes slow. Use lubricant. Practice breathing deep so that you do not feel much pain. But chances are, your first time will hurt. This is normal. It should not be an intense pain--just a dull or low grade sensation. If you feel intense, sharp pain, stop. You would probably need to see a doctor if you feel that.
Does this help put your mind at ease? What do you think?
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