:-( I had a total hysterectomy two years ago and until about 6 months ago I felt great. The incision healed up, I still had energy and now it has all somehow gone to he**. My husband hates me and I am sure it is probably my fault. I never drank before I had this done, although my husband tried to get me to drink for 25 years prior. My thoughts were, I have children to raise and drinking and extra curicullar activities just don't fit into my life style.
My mother started drinking alcohol when she was going through menapause and I knew then that was the reason. I now find myself in the same pattern. I don't drink every day but when I do once or twice a week I don't want to stop until I am drunk. I find myself blaming the menapause but I'm not sure if it is that or my husband, who really doen't understand the he** I am going through. I am not the same person I was before the hysterectomy. I don't have the patients to deal with all of his trivial needs. Before the surgery was done I was always there for his every beck and call. Now I don't want to be. He kicks me out of the house on a regular basis because he says I am crazy. I'm NOT CRAZY!
I just don't feel like I need to wait on him hand and foot anymore. It's time he grows up and learns that life doesn't revolve only around him.
Since the hysterectomy I have developed high blood pressure, anxiety attacks and an irregular heart beat. I left my job and haven't heard the end of it since then. Money seems to be the only thing that matters to him. That doesn't sound like love to me.
As I stop to think about it maybe the whole thing isn't about my hysterectomy, maybe it is just a simple matter of he doesn't love me anymore. I don't have the answers but wish there were someone out there who has experienced something close to what I am and might have some insite on what is going on and what I should do. I have no communication with him accept anger towards me and what I am doing. I'm very educated and have lived a very good life up until now. The confusion is tearing at my soul and I need to know that I am not loosing my mind. Please respond, and help me understand why my life has turned to such a negative life, instead of the positive live I have always been accustom tol
My mother started drinking alcohol when she was going through menapause and I knew then that was the reason. I now find myself in the same pattern. I don't drink every day but when I do once or twice a week I don't want to stop until I am drunk. I find myself blaming the menapause but I'm not sure if it is that or my husband, who really doen't understand the he** I am going through. I am not the same person I was before the hysterectomy. I don't have the patients to deal with all of his trivial needs. Before the surgery was done I was always there for his every beck and call. Now I don't want to be. He kicks me out of the house on a regular basis because he says I am crazy. I'm NOT CRAZY!
I just don't feel like I need to wait on him hand and foot anymore. It's time he grows up and learns that life doesn't revolve only around him.
Since the hysterectomy I have developed high blood pressure, anxiety attacks and an irregular heart beat. I left my job and haven't heard the end of it since then. Money seems to be the only thing that matters to him. That doesn't sound like love to me.
As I stop to think about it maybe the whole thing isn't about my hysterectomy, maybe it is just a simple matter of he doesn't love me anymore. I don't have the answers but wish there were someone out there who has experienced something close to what I am and might have some insite on what is going on and what I should do. I have no communication with him accept anger towards me and what I am doing. I'm very educated and have lived a very good life up until now. The confusion is tearing at my soul and I need to know that I am not loosing my mind. Please respond, and help me understand why my life has turned to such a negative life, instead of the positive live I have always been accustom tol
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OK..I understand part of what you are saying..It has been 4 months since my hysterectomy and I went to the ER because I had such high anxiety that I could not stand it..My BP was horribly high..and I have never had hypertension. I had this cold feeling in my chest,was weak..felt very strange..The DR said I needed to be on hormones as my surgeon said they dont give women hormones anymore. I am not the same since surgery..I feel like im going crazy..Good luck to you..I understand.
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