There are many guys I know who get angry particularly at their wife and kids but behave in a very good manner outside.
Also - be patient. Do not reply/argue when he is angry.
please move away from him as he should not start hitting you.
He has a problem with anger management - but then there are many such guys in this world...and not everyone will admit that they have a problem or go for therapy.
so the best you can do is alter your behaviour.
try not responding verbally. maintain a calm/sorrowful face (pretend atleast). dont say anything.
does ur husband's anger reduce when you start crying/weeping silently then use that.
else move away from him...and pretend to be sorry...dont say anything
after sometime he will calm down (say after 4-5 hrs) then u say sorry.
even if you have not done anything wrong.
Something is standing behind his anger, definitely. All you need to do is to figure out what. Actually, both of you! You need to find way out of this situation together.
Together, you can make it!
I know that you just can't without asking yourself what makes person angry, what can you do about this if you are in the same situation? Was your fault?
It also seems to me that your husband is angry always because of his mom. He will never forget that, her behavior, he will never forget that she was beating him.
But I do believe that this is a good thing in one hand because you do have a cause of his anger issues.
I am not sure if the symptoms are related but if he does not seek help, you may want to actually leave him until he does. He will not get better if you continue to act as you have. Please let us know how things turn out.
My husband sounds like yours. I made him go to a psychiatrist and he was diagnosed with OCD and ADHD. But the meds aren't working, I think he has biplor disorder and PTSD from physical abuse. His dad was an alcoholic and did drugs and his parents went through an emotional divorce as well.
my husband has aner issues and when he gets mad he hit me and throw stuff at me what to do?
Those days I was trained to meditate and I had a great self confidence. Also never got hurt for the others behavior on me. But now I am very busy with the baby and studies, I am missing meditation and lost the confidence. So I was very sad and stressful but still be silent. I understood it. If I got angry with him and react same he will never come to peace. These are the things I did:
I played Damma videos to make him listen at home.
I gave a gift to him, it was a book of positive thinking for a happy life.
I am training my mind to be patient and kind as I was in the past.
I pates some positive quotes on some special places of home.
When he is happy and cool, I slowly tell him the matters I was hurt by his angry.
Amazing! he is changed. Not completely, But I trust on him.
The life is not the past or future, it is just this moment we live. If we want to change the world first we have to be changed.