if you do want to stay though try talking to him or go to counseling it might help.
best of luck!
If you are not happy, you should not force yourself to stay with him.
I just don't want to get me wrong, I don't want you to think that I don't know what am I talking about because I do know. Those things what makes person angry can have so many factors and causes that we can't even imagine.
My ex was causing me a lot of stress when he was like that. He even quit his job one day because he was "soooo angry with this boss". So, I was working alone, trying to raise my kids and whenever I am at home he wants to fight because he is angry.
I left him. One year ago. I am still sad sometimes when I think about him and about all those wonderful days that we spent together, but he was choking me.
Last thing that I have heard about him is that he had some girl after me, but his behavior was worse than when he was with me.
One thing he does when he's angry, he shuts down and gives me the silent treatment. Then when I ask what's wrong he sais nothing. Finally when I get him to talk... well he doesn't talk to me, we text fight...
he tells me to figure it out, and when I ask him was it this was it that, he says what about it? that doesn't tell me anything, he's horrible at explaining or finding a solution.
He said he wants to hurt me the way I hurt him. He told me to not hold grudges, when he holds grudges all the time. We argue every weekend. And I hate it.... I'm losing my mind. He says I need counseling, when really he needs it more than i do. He says I have a mental problem. I talked it out with one of my friend and he said I don't have any mental problems. I explained himt he situation, and my friend said my husband's crazy.
*sigh* Everytime we argue, I tell him to drop it and leave it alone for the sack of our relationship. And we have a son. He's not my biological son, but I see him as if he was. And I told my husband this. I accepted him as if he is mine, and the other day he wanted a divorce.... he was taking his son away. And I told him. From the first day I told him, I didn't want to get too attached to his son cuz I had a feeling he may take him away. It happened once, and I didn't want that feeling again.
Well he said he'll let me see him still... I don't want to continue to see him if we get a divorce, cuz it will hurt me even more. He doesn't get me. He complains I can't read him. And I told him I can't read his mind. urgh this relationship is going down hill... then he said to me "I'm glad I haven't gotten you pregnant" and my reply was "I'm glad I'm carrying your child" We need marriage counselling but knowing him he thinks he's perfect and nothing is wrong with him. It's always my fault. Never his.
He brings up my past all the time. And says your past is who you are.
And I tell him your past teaches you how to be a better person today. It molds you. Well as always I'm always wrong.
I'm tired of always saying sorry. I'm tired of all the arguing, I'm tired of doing everything for him. Yes i can stop but a part of me says if I stop, he'll just give up. I mean I do everything. I massage him mostly every night, I do his homework for college every day, and I make sure he has clothes to wear the next day or week.
I feel like I'm doing too much. There's so much going on. I keep a record of how often we argue and it's every week. Last week, we left me at church and got mad at me cuz our son was hungry. When our son told me he was done eating, and when I asked him is he hungry he said no. Then 2 min he said he was hungry. My husband got mad at me for that.
Not very happy, but it seems I'm doing too much. I have finally realized I need to focus on myself, no more trying to go through hoops and what not for him when he doesn't give a damn about it.
I just needed to let some anger out... been a rough year for me.
He's always comparing me with his ex. I'm not his ex, and for my hubby's b-day he got upset with me, cuz our son needed to use the bathroom while we were watching a movie, and he got upset with me for that..... REALLY! he couldn't have just asked me "can you take him to the bathroom?" instead get all moody with me. And says I ruined his birthday weekend. At least I gave him a birthday weekend, for my birthday we didn't do anything, same thing with father's day and mother's day.
I feel like he just want to argue about something. I'm still trying to have faith, and be strong, but it's getting so hard for me. I think I may kill myself when it's over. lol...
I just needed to vent that's all.
What country are you from? Do you speak English or are you just learning?