OK so i dated this girl but i have had a lot of her FRIENDS tell me she is a s*** and stuff like that and i am trying to help her change but she doesnt understand why being a slutmuffin at 13 IS BAD! So plz comment to this post so i can show her and possibly help her change. Thx guys she is a good friend and she means a lot to me so plz put helpful posts. Thx
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if she REALLY IS a **** at that age she needs some intervention, but some of this may just be gossip. Try to guide her toward someone older that can be trusted, -maybe even a school counselor?
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Hi youngfun, it is great that you are caring and want to help your friend. The first thing to realise is that you can't help people to change their behaviour by shaming them. Shame is so painful that most people won't listen to a message that makes them feel ashamed. Calling her a s*** or something similar will make her feel ashamed. Try building her up. Telling her what a great person she is and why. make it about her personailty and character, not her looks. Be specific. But you also need to be genuine. She will see through it if you don't believe what you say. Also talk about why sleeping around is not a good idea, but do it as part of a general conversation, not a lecture. You could simply say that you are concerned about her. That you are worried that she will fall pregnant or get an STD, that she will be hurt emotionally etc. Find out how she feels about it and try to listen, really listen, without judgement. and as frustrating as it might be you need to realise that she might not change her behaviour. I wish you both all the best.
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Talk to her. There Mau be things going on in her life that are leading to her behavior. She will appreciate your unconditional support
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