Also eer since i lost my virginity it's like i grew up more. Im on top oif my school work, and working hard. But they don't see that side. I need some suggestions.
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I think that your parents are disappionted in your actions, and lost your trust with them, and that is hard to earn back, you will need to slow your actions and reactions back some, so they will not hound you. and find a way to get their trust back some. working with more then two parents, it will be very hard to do.
Did any of your female parents talk to you about "sex" at a earlier age?
So I think if you made a Dr. appointment for birth control pills and one other form that suits your needs, and take them regularly, this is a way to show that you are responsiable for your own heath, and you are not willing to have a child at this time in your life, but just the closeness that intercourse gives. (I am OK with that)
As a perent/grandparent I know that one day the granddaughter will lose her virginity, and I have nothing to say about it, or when it will happen, just hope it is under her control. Loosing your virginity is not the end of the world, but your parents might think so. I does show some rebellion & growth in that person, may be they are not ready for that with you.
I wish to ask you to contine with your school work and get into a good college, this may be the only way out, but that is years from now?
RT
SO good luck, and if you wish to talk again "all of us" are here to help.
I am sorry that I have more to say but out of time at this moment.
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wow long times ago i lost mine when i was about 10. i was boured so me and my /gf played around after 10 min i turned in to sex. my litle brother(bill,10) found out. he came to me abotu a month later as i was fixing my car and he siad how did you lost you virginty. i my head slamed on the car fram. so my big brother (rob 20) jsut stared at him and then me i was rupping my head and he jsut started walking for me extpeting him to beat em to the graond i grabed my pipe wrech he grabed it and threw it he then siad" you dumb i cant belive you! who did you lsot it to i better not me thata dumb s***" i was siting there "no it was with my real /gf" so then he pulled me up and threw me to the back wall walked out and grabed bill and grabed the lock and locked me in. so i sleep there for two nights bill came by once and while and we talked at that moment i noticed hes the real good brother so i sleep there for a few more nights untill rob came back to get me but before he let me out he siad " you have sex one more time! im not leting you back in the house i then looked at the hosue and siad" well i'll get my stuff and may i sta ying the garage then he siad fine so i got my stuff and lived in the garage for a week after that rob let me back in the hosue so if your still reading im goign to give advce DON'T HAVE SEX UNLESS YOU TELL YOUR BROTHER!!!
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I will tell you this isn't good behavior from family, my mum and brother knows i'm not a virgin and they even think i'm a s*** just for mumbling during a sexual dream... all just because i'm female... it's like guys can some how have sex without any jiff but girls are some how dirty and bad for exploring their sexuality... they are the disgusting ones not you, it's very sexist behavior. Sex is also overrated and honestly you don't get pleasure just from a penis being inserted and the fact your brother ratted on you like this is NOT okay and just back to the sexist behavior... you shouldn't of said anything... honestly not many of us can trust our family these days (if that's what they call themselves), but i will tell you to have no shame about exploring your sexuality, you are human and i'm tried of seeing people treat others like they are less than human all just because they had sex, my family ain't even religious... but yet it STILL happens... and honestly the fact you were sexually abused very young and they are STILL treating you like this is VERY wrong and it's in no way the right way to deal with such things just by trying to make you feel ashamed of your sexuality just so they don't have to deal with what happened, do they expect you to stay a virgin your whole life and deny yourself that experience?, i know... it's ridiculous.. What they should be saying is that since you are now wanting to be sexuality active to go on the pill and keep condoms with you but also that what happened to you being sexually abused, don't let that influence things because what happened to you was VERY messed up and it can confuse things, sex isn't all that though, but your family should be behaving maturely about this but instead they are letting fear control them and they shame you and push you down just so they don't have to face you were sexually abused and that your growing up, that's NOT how a family should be and that's just like saying there wasn't anything wrong about being sexually abused... and it's any wonder you ended up in that situation... their ignorance clearly means more than yours or any of their familys safety... but it's NOT a laughing matter nor should it not be spoken about... how awful... they sound just as immature and stupid as my family. You probs could never speak to them about these things and i know... it's incredibly hurtful the people who are meant to love after you and your not able to talk to them with anything even if they claim you can... just don't bother... believe me it's just a world of disappointment, i stopped talking to my parents about anything now and just keep my trap shut except for things that don't mean anything lol, because that's all they seem to be capable of talking about (if they are even interested). Just don't go having sex on account of what happened to you though but don't let guys take advantage ether, id go get the pill from your doctors but try to just make responsible choices and if you DO have sex try to do is discreetly, make sure to have condoms with you, but don't let your bro or parents find them because i guarantee they won't be nice about it... the pill is free from doctors and i think so is condoms, your sexuality is yours to explore nobody else's, nobody has to know about it.
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