Please, go through our FAQs of all sexual health topics. Any double posts i.e. topics already answered within FAQs will be deleted to avoid the situations of discussing the same matters on numerous different spots.

Within FAQs, you will be able to read some of the most discussed topics. If your question doesn’t match the questions and answers from the FAQs, you may submit your unique question. Trolling, as well as disrespectful and rude posts are not welcome and will be deleted.

1. My partner doesn’t feel like having sex yet/My partner’s pushing me to have sex

If you do not feel like having sex yet, then do not do it. No one should ever force you to do anything that you do not want to when it comes to your body. If you are not ready, embrace that and be proud. If a boyfriend or girlfriend is pushing you to do it, attempt to sit down and have a mature conversation about it, allow them to express their feelings and also make sure that you are able too. If they are still pushing you and just not listening to your request, as much as it may hurt at first it is safe to say that the person is not right for you now. If you are in an established relationship, normally sitting down with the person and explaining your feelings, concerns to them in a heart-to-heart and calm conversation can really bring to light your feelings and bring you closer... if they respect you and truly love you, they will respect your feelings.
Also, if your partner doesn’t wish to have sex yet or at some point, do not push but try to understand the underlying reasons of it.
If you ever feel threatened, or are physically touched in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or scared, remove yourself from that situation completely. Get up and leave, run or even scream, anything to defuse the situation and allow you the space to feel safe again. If you are physically touched or violated, tell a trusted adult, call the authorities and get to the doctor. The person may have been a friend, boy/girl friend, relative, neighbor or stranger, but the relationship does not matter, do not hide or conceal what happened tell someone right away and get help. If you are scared of retaliation make sure to let the police or doctor know that you are scared that the person may hurt you now that you have told on them. Not only are you doing this for yourself to protect YOU but also to all the possible future victims of this person.


My boyfriend wants to have sex

2. Is it smart to practice vaginal sex directly after anal?

No, this is not a smart choice. Anal area is loaded with bacteria that can be easily transmitted to the vaginal area and cause infection. If you decide to do vaginal after anal, make sure you take another condom.


Vaginal after anal sex

3. Why is safe sex the best option?

By using different methods of birth control you are protecting yourself and your partner from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases of which many are incurable such as HIV and herpes. Condom is the best option so far as it protects from both pregnancy and STDs. Refraining from sexual intercourse is another option but since you are reading this FAQ, it’s probably not your option.


Safe sex is sexy
Safe sex_Room 101

4. Is safe sex a turn off?

It shouldn’t be. Safe sex should be the only option to avoid unwanted problems like pregnancy and STDs. Like someone once wrote on the board, “Safe sex is an opportunity to have fun and enjoy with very few worries”


Safe sex is sexy

5. Pain during sex

Sex should not be painful to neither men nor women. If it hurts, it may be a sign of insufficient lubrication. If this is not the case, pain during intercourse could indicate vaginal spasms, some kind of an infection (including STD’s) in women, as well as the presence of ovarian cysts and fibroids (benign), cancer, PCOS, endometriosis, etc. Pain during intercourse should be checked by a gynecologist. Quite often, the cause is physiological and emotional.


Vaginal pain after intercourse
Vaginal pain during intercourse
[Pain during intercourse
Internal vaginal pain during sex
Vaginal pain during intercourse

6. Bleeding During Intercourse

If it happens only once, it may not be a big deal. If the bleeding persists, you should address it.
There are so many possible reasons why a woman could bleed during an intercourse. Some of them are harmless, others dangerous. The only way to figure out is to see a gynecologist, tell your story with all the symptoms and how it happened and s/he will perform all the necessary tests to see what could be happening.
Sometimes, the bleeding could be caused by hormonal imbalance, bc pills, cysts on the ovaries, polyps (harmless) on the cervix. Bleeding could be caused by almost all sexually transmitted diseases although you haven’t had any symptoms before.
Benign but annoying growths in the uterus like polyps or fibroids could be causing bleeding as well. Dry vagina during an intercourse would bleed due to improper lubrication of the vaginal walls.
Cervical or ovarian cancer would also make a woman bleed. This is why it is important you had yourself checked especially if the bleeding continued the next time you had sex.


Vaginal bleeding during sex
Bleeding during intercourse

7. Am I a virgin if he inserted his penis just for a little while?

It depends on how you look at it. Some people would say No, because you had a penis inserted inside your vagina, which would not make you a virgin anymore. Others would say that you are if your hymen hasn’t been broken at the occasion.


Am I still a virgin?
Am I still a virgin

8. Am I still a virgin if I bled during fingering?

A virgin is considered to be a girl that hasn’t had sexual intercourse yet. By sexual intercourse, we mean having a penis inserted inside of her vagina. Hymen can be broken in different situations like masturbation or by using a tampon. Having your hymen broken without having an actual intercourse doesn’t mean you are no longer a virgin.


Am I still a virgin?
I got fingered, am I still a virgin?

9. Burning after first time having sex

"Honeymoon cystitis" usually occurs after girls having sex for the first time, having sex with your partner for the first time in a while, having sex with a new partner or having too much sex.
Honeymoon cystitis may include bladder or urethra, a tube through which urine passes from the bladder to the outside. The common cause is the introduction of E. coli bacteria that normally lives in the bowel into the urethra. When this bacterium begins to replicate, an infection may occur.
The most common symptoms of honeymoon cystitis are burning or painful sensation during urination, the urge to urinate frequently, cloudy urine, blood-tinged urine, and/or pain above the pubic bone.
The treatment involves antibiotics or maybe even some additional analgesic to relieve the burning and the pain.


Bleeding and stinging after loosing virginity

10. My girlfriend says she was a virgin when we met, however intercourse was quite easy and she hasn’t bled

Not all girls would bleed during their first intercourse. This is because some hymens may be elastic enough and break without pain and bleeding or the girls hymen could have been broken in another incidence like by inserting tampons, masturbation or riding a bicycle.


Virgin or not?

11. Vaginal fart

Vaginal farts are also known as queefs. What it happens is that air gets into a vagina during arousal, penetration, or exercise. During arousal, the vagina lengthens and the uterus moves, and creates more air space. During withdrawal to their normal positions the farts may occur. You should not feel embarrassed about the farts as they don’t smell and are normal and expected. They could be indicating high passion.


Vaginal fart after intercourse
Vaginal farts
Vagina farts

12. Sex in pregnancy

Unless your health care provider advised you otherwise, sex during pregnancy is safe for you and your baby until the beginning of the ninth month. After that you should refrain from having sex.
Just because sex is safe during pregnancy, it doesn't mean you'll necessarily want to have it! Many pregnant women may experience decrease but also an increase in their sexual drive. Many women could also find sex uncomfortable as their bodies get larger. Sex will not harm your baby nor will the baby know that you are having sex. Your baby is fully protected by the amniotic sac and the strong muscles of the uterus. A thick mucus plug seals the cervix and helps guard against infection. The penis will not come into any contact with the fetus during sex.


Sex in pregnancy