Sildenafil and some doubts

Hi Martin,

First off, congratulations on the erection and sex!  It probably felt pretty amazing and wonderful after being so long without.  Also, it should feel pretty gratifying and make you feel proud that you were able to achieve this after such a long time of not, whether it should have been longer or not.

Secondly, why would you feel more comfortable about asking us "non-doctors" if you took the pill properly when that is a  question for your doctor?  You also pretty much answered that question yourself as well: not suppose to take it with foods or fatty foods for that matter and you took it with fried chicken, pretty much the fatty of the fattiest meals.  4 hours is nothing for digesting a regular meal and let alone a fatty meal would need a lot longer than 4 hour digestion.  So, could be one reason for one erection, I'm not a doctor though.

Thirdly, you took one pill and achieved one erection while you have tried for years and have not.  Give yourself some credit where credit is due.  One erection is better than zero erection even if you only achieved one - it may take a couple of times taking the pill and working it through with your mind that you CAN DO IT - think of the train that can.  A new mantra for you: yes I can, yes I can, yes I can and I did!  I don't think it was placebo affect, it was you all the way and the longer you are on that pill the more you will achieve erection again and again.

Hope this helps and good luck for your future endeavors!

Thank you so much for such kind reply, LQ20 :)

Regarding your questions...
I'm asking advice for non-doctors (although there could be actual doctors logged on, I don't know) because of two reasons: first, I didn't have time to see my doctor (this happened just yesterday after work), and even if I had time to do so, I can't go without the previous arrangement for a date, which takes at least one week to be granted. And secondly, I wanted to read experiences from regular people or even users of Sildenafil.

Just one correction: chicken was boiled. Also was rice. Vegetables where the only thing fried. Yet, if 4 hours aren't enough for the stomach to become empty, well, that's something to think about.

I wasn't looking for "extra endurance" or nothing like that. Just like you said, only one good awesome orgasm is a million times better than none. But I was thinking it this way: if Sildenafil lasts for four hours, then -after its onset and if taken properly- I should have been capable of more than one erection, or at least one more after ejaculating. And it didn't happen. So, that's why I'm wondering if a) I did took the drug as I was supposed to, b) it actually was given enough time for its onset, c) foods didn't undermined its effects, d) or none of the above and it was indeed all me by myself.

That's all.
Thank you again for your insight!

Also, one other quick question and then I will stop bugging you, I will even give you some names of guys here that might be able to help you and this situation.

Question: have you ever tried to get to the bottom of the anxiety and your sexual dysfunction? I mean more than the Sildenafil, anxiety medication when it happens or talking to a counsellor?

Names on SteadyHealth that may be able to help: njoynlife, levar85, medic-dan, or blankcanvas002. All knowledgeable guys and have answered questions to other posters positively and with as much knowledge about the situation as possible and personal experience if applicable to them. Give them a try.

Sorry, I forgot to mention that: yes, I'm currently on psychotherapy. It's soon to be one year since I started. No medications. Just talk therapy. (As I already pointed out, I had a previous experience in 2008 with psychiatric therapy, including medications of all sorts; the current one has nothing to do with that). I guess that talk therapy is an important factor to bear in mind, of course.

And thank you for recommendations! And you are not bugging at all ;)

Any other input?

Hey Martin,

How has it been going for the last couple of days? Have you had a chance to try medication again? Have you been able to find someone else with a similar experience anywhere on google?

I was just trying to stay away so you could get some help from a male possibly.

Did you get any other side effects from the pill or just the one time use of the pill? Common side effects some males complain about during or after the pills use is head aches and stuffiness - which doctors commonly suggest aleve or tylenol. Some males report the pills stop working for them after a couple of years of use.

What is the dose you are on? What dose amount did you try? It also looks like from my research about males taking it for their first time that some of them also report that it only worked for a one time use as well but some were able to achieve erection in the morning again easily.

I hope this helps and hope you get continued success with this.

Hi again, LQ 20. The last couple of days were just *awesome*. I feel in such a good mood and seeing life in a more optimistical way. I'm so happy. I can't remember when was the last time I felt like this. I got rid off a huge weight from my back. It was a great relief. All this anxiety I gathered through years has now gone. I can't believe it.

 

I haven't had time for looking for similar cases upon Google. Anyway, there are lots of health-related forums on the Internet, but I found this one as one of the more reliable and serious. I wouldn't ask for advice in any other place.

 

Of course, a male perspective would be of great help, too. But the thing is... no men showed up yet :P

 

No side effects. No stuffy nose. No blurred vision. No blush but a little red in my ears, which I'm quite prone to, specially on cold weather (here, in my country, it's currently Autumn). I did experience a mild headache, but that's nothing new to me. I have a tendency for migraines and even muscular tension during/after stressful situations. Having sex isn't an everyday thing yet, so I guess it's quite obvious that I've been a little up-tight. Other than that, nothing strange. All of this, of course, assuming I did took the pill correctly.

 

I'm on 50mg and 50mg is the dosis I tried and I'll stick to it. I took it just once so far. There wasn't yet any other chance of having sex. But I don't feel anxious about it. And that's some good improvement, too. Back in the day, I used to feel always so affraid towards any opportunity of having sex, whether for the lack of them or even when they were at one's elbow ( I mean, I was so anxious for having sex that I felt bad for not getting some but also for actually getting some, for it put me face to face with my fears for situational ED). Right now I'm just cool, calm, relaxed, satisfied.

 

Sorry, but I didn't understand your last paragraph ("It also looks like from my research..." and so on). Could you please repeat your point for me, please?

 

Thanks again! Cheers.

Hey Martin,

Good to hear you are in such good spirits. It's uplifting and empowering for you, or at least it should be.

My last paragraph was me going on Google and finding other guys experiences for their first time on Sildenafil. And, what I found was very similar to yours. The amount of pill you are prescribed by other men too, so everything so far sounds good and seems that it worked as it was supposed to. Other men also found it difficult to achieve erection after coming as well, so that also sounds normal to what you said you experienced.

Some men were also prescribed a 100mg which they said then they were able to go longer, again and also achieve erection in the morning as well.

Remember what I said and the men I suggested you could talk to. Click on their names and you should be able to throw them a private message if that is what you would like.

No probs. Cheers to you too.

Now I get it. Thanks! I read some things about refractory time, how it kind of becomes shorter with Sildenafil, but maybe -like you said- it depends on the mmgg per intake and / or each organism.

I'll be asking that people you mentioned, of course. I didn't mean to bother them via pm, though; that's why I didn't do it in first place. But I'll take your recommendation.

Thanks once again, LQ, and have a great weekend!

Hello everyone once again! I'm just passing by for a quick update...

 

Last Friday I had, for first time in my life, and ocassional encounter. A one-night stand, that is.

It wasn't big deal. Yet, not my worst experience.The girl (or should I say woman) was 20 years older than me and there were a couple of things -besides being total strangers- that made me a little uncomfortable.

Anyway. I had the first orgasm a little before time. I just came so quickly. I did had a strong erection (after three weeks of avoiding masturbation and with no chemical help) but while I was trying to stick my penis inside her, she would stroke me with her hands. That made me reach orgasm before I was even capable of achieve penetration.

Ok, here's the thing. I was carrying with me (just in case, you know) one of these Sildenafil sublingual pills. It took 15 minutes to disolve completely beneath my tongue. Right after that (I mean, immediatly) I had this strong erection which allowed me to finally have intercourse.

 

I didn't last too long, though. Just a couple of pumps (sorry for my language) and I was orgasming again.

 

Yet, I must leave clear that there weren't so much foreplay involved, and we were definitely no match for each other.

 

What puzzles me is the following:

1) I didn't have any trouble in getting an erection the first time. I just ejaculated before penetration. I seriously doubt it makes me a "premature ejaculator", of course. I just wonder if I came that quickly because she stroke me so hard when I was trying to do my thing, you know.

2) Indeed, is it possible for Sildenafil to act that fast? I mean, right after it disolved, I was rock hard again. Or is it just a placebo effect / psychological suggestion? (Note: during the next hour, yes, it was obvious that Sildenafil was kicking in, since I was capable of a third orgasm with an erection as strong as the first two; also, that third time it took me some little effort to come, which didn't happen previously)

3) Even after the onset of the drug, I noticed that my penis was still going flaccid after trying the doggy position. There were no problems with the missionary position, but when I wanted to do it in a different way, I would become sluggish again. She also tried to go on top, yet with no success. We ran out of condoms, so that third orgasm was achieved through mutual masturbation.

 

Any advice?

 

Hi Martin,

It does sound as if you're taking a the sildenafil properly.  Yes, just put it under your tongue - you will still swallow spit.  Normal.

A few things about Sildenafil, it will still work even if you ate a fatty meal, it just can take longer to work - like many medications.

It recommends taking it 1 hour before sex and lasts about 4 hours.

After three weeks of no masturbation I would say it would be fairly likely that you'd ejaculate quickly.  That's OK, then you took the pill you had the strong erection.  It is unlikely that sildenafil would have that much effect so soon.

I tend to think it was a "placebo" effect more than the drug itself.  You were nervous and anxious the first times, with the escorts.  Anxiety will destroy an erection.  This time you got one without the pill at first, you were likely more relaxed since you are now more "experienced."  I would expect your refractory period to be about 15-20 minutes at your age so getting an erection so soon would be likely.

Translation: I don't think it is JUST the pill that's working now, I think your anxiety is decreasing so your performance is improving. 

You are going to go flaccid occasionally during sex, that's NORMAL. 

Try it without the pill. 

Question.  Were you able to get hard without the pills, when you masturbated?

 

 

Hi, Medic-Dan.

Thank you so much for your response. Your question leads me to the issue of masturbation itself.

I decided not to masturbate after reading about porn induced erectile dysfunction. That's why I avoid touching myself (which I always rather do whlist looking at porn). I mean... I use porn just as "background music", if you will. It's not what's on the screen, but what goes on my mind while I'm watching. It's not the porno video itself: actually, I fantasize about real people when I'm watching porn. I imagine us (that people and me) in that situation, doing those exact same things. So, that's why I don't think I'm overly attached to a "perfect woman stereotype", which only exists on porn movies.

Anyway, I read about PIED and that was sort of a wake up call. I wondered: "What if that's what's happening to me?" After a couple of erectile dysfunction incidents, I got so scared that masturbation to porn was screwing up my brain chimestry that I decided to cut if off for good.

I do get hard without the pills. Specially in the morning, and also at random times, but that's happening specially since I stopped masturbating on a daily basis. Back then, most of times I masturbated out of habit, without feeling really turned on, and so my erections weren't at their fullest. But yes, the answer is I do have hard, strong erections without the pills, although I kind of suposse that the quality of those erections are result of my masturbation sobriety.

Hi i have read through your sort but sorry to say that i cant really give you know more advice on it than the others have all ready.
Would like to say thanks to lq420 for the kind words recommending me :-)