I've always had a large foreskin. This never really caused any problems and when I was younger, doctors decided that a circumcision was unnecessary. However, as I matured I would masturbate in a very differnt way to others. Not sure if this was due to my foreskin but I would place the penis between my legs and squeeze with my legs, using them to rub the penis shaft. I am unable to masturbate in the normal fashion - it doesn't stimulate me.
When I had sex for the first time, my penis wasn't stimulated and I was not aroused so couldn't orgasm. I have worried that my erection is not hard enough or that my penis is de-sensitized but am unsure how to solve this problem.
When I had sex for the first time, my penis wasn't stimulated and I was not aroused so couldn't orgasm. I have worried that my erection is not hard enough or that my penis is de-sensitized but am unsure how to solve this problem.
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There's a couple of different things you can do to approach this.
First, if you do nothing (no sex) for about two weeks, you'll find that you're primed and ready to go. It won't take much stimulation for you to come. So, though not many people plan sex two weeks in advance, you might keep this in mind so that you're "ready" the next time you want to attempt intercourse.
Second, the mind and body are wonderful things that we are able to "reprogram" to find different things, different techniques to be sexy or arousing. Just because you have used one technique for years does not mean you can't learn another. After all, now you are learning how to respond with another person, instead of solo sex. Don't write it off too soon. There's a learning curve here.
One of the worst things you can do is to worry and keep watching yourself and your response during sex. That type of scrutinity will turn just about everyone off. It at least will be a distraction. Relax and let it happen. Go in with the attitutude that you're playing, and if it happens, great. If it doesn't, that's OK too... you're learning about each other. Don't make a federal case of it.
First, if you do nothing (no sex) for about two weeks, you'll find that you're primed and ready to go. It won't take much stimulation for you to come. So, though not many people plan sex two weeks in advance, you might keep this in mind so that you're "ready" the next time you want to attempt intercourse.
Second, the mind and body are wonderful things that we are able to "reprogram" to find different things, different techniques to be sexy or arousing. Just because you have used one technique for years does not mean you can't learn another. After all, now you are learning how to respond with another person, instead of solo sex. Don't write it off too soon. There's a learning curve here.
One of the worst things you can do is to worry and keep watching yourself and your response during sex. That type of scrutinity will turn just about everyone off. It at least will be a distraction. Relax and let it happen. Go in with the attitutude that you're playing, and if it happens, great. If it doesn't, that's OK too... you're learning about each other. Don't make a federal case of it.
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