too sensitive inner labia, is that much tearing normal?

well I started sex about a year or more ago and sence then I feel like my inner labia and below the vaginal opening is tearing a lot.  Some times just by rubing there it tears and it takes days to heal which is why I even grow scared of having sex again. When ever I feel like I need to pee I have to prepare myself to feel pain, and trying to wash myself down there is another painful prosses. I haven't had sex for months now and it still happends.

Is that much tearing and pain normal? If it is, what can I do about it? please help, its already hurting too much.

Thank you