Im 18 and I guess in a manner of speaking i lost my virginity to my girlfriend who i love and comepletly trust a couple days ago. The problem is that that time i could not get it up the only reason it went in was because we used redicules amounts of lube. When ever i masturbate i can get it up and cum with no problem. After trying to get hard for a while we decides t try again later. Later while it was still soft i manages to cum while i was still soft. I have no idea why this happened and did not even know it could happen. I think that it is just nerves but i am not sure. She is completly supportive and not pushy at all but i can't deal with this. We tryed again last night and again, i could not get hard. Someone please tell me what to do.
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I can't even get it up while trying to masturbate atm, so I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice. Still...
Performance anxiety is probably the cause of your problems here; you couldn't get an erection the first time, so you are worried that this will happen again.
The best advice I can give you is to not plan sexual ecounters in advance, but instead just go for it whenever you feel comfortable. Planning in advance will just make you worry more.
Performance anxiety is probably the cause of your problems here; you couldn't get an erection the first time, so you are worried that this will happen again.
The best advice I can give you is to not plan sexual ecounters in advance, but instead just go for it whenever you feel comfortable. Planning in advance will just make you worry more.
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My first couple times i had this same problem. i supose ur using a condom. i would have and erection and when i would get the condom on it would almost immediatly go away. the only way i could get around that was to either have my girlfriend give a ****. or i could even start masturbating myself. once she got on birth control i stopped using a condom and i have not had a problem since, and since shes had birth control weve had sex probably 60 to 70 times.
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im having the same problem except i used to last 20min with no condom and stayed fully hard the whole time, ever sense me and my gf had sex in my car and i got soft because i got nervous i haven't been able to stay hard for as long as before and she yells at me and storms out of the room making me feel even worse. i am also 18, i just don't get how i can go soft...
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