Uninterested Husband

First I have to tell you that you are not alone. Many marriages experience these kinds of problems. Most of the time, woman is the one that is uninterested in sex. Now, when it comes to your husband I can't say what is wrong with him. Maybe nothing's wrong and he just reached the phase where he doesn't have desire for sex. Also, there is a possibility that he is involved with other woman. Clearly, I can't talk about this because I don't know your husband and the situation in your marriage. I advise you to keep trying to talk with him. You need to find out what is going on because maybe he has some emotional problems that are blocking him. Now, I don't want to attack you, but have you ever think about the fact that maybe something that you said or done have made him to feel or act uninterested. Tell him to look for professional help, to talk with the therapist. Sometimes, talking with a complete stranger can help us a lot.

Okay now....read up and just maybe you can lend some insight to this.
Married 24 years with 2 kids. Not the most nurturing marriage but none the less I define it as safe sex and a commitment.
About 2 years ago my hubby enticed me into the bedroom to kiss me and reveal that he had my thong on. Okay I was really not into this. Kind of would say turned off and a bit ill but I played it out cause I was way too embarrassed to let on. None the less sickened. I got over it after I talked with about everyone I knew I just blew it off. I have been working on health and losing weight and looking better....2 weeks ago when family was in from out of town we are sitting in the living room. I had come home from working al day and took off my new mules. My husband casually put them on and walked around. I asked what are you doing and he says that his feet are cold. I was a bit ill seeing my dear hubby walking around the living room with my new mules on. Later that night when alone with my dad I mentioned it to see what he had to say and his come back was -- at least he doesn't have your underwear on. OKAY then. The other night he is telling me that he would like to have a purple striped shirt for Christmas. Kind of purple pink. I just may be looking for things but then again I just may be making up excuses. What the hey. I forgot to add the incidence in bed about 1 month ago. I woke in the middle of the night to find him feeling my bicep. I am working out and looking quite buff now and tried to include him in this which he abruptly and repeatedly has refused. His reply when I asked about it the next morning was that I looked like I was flexing my arm at him. Come on. In my sleep and in a long sleeve silk night shirt. Does anyone have a clue of what the dear husband is experiencing after 24 years?? This is a major turn off for me. Got a new cord jacket the other day and he told me that it was too small for me (short). He tried it on and bragged that he was wearing a sweat shirt and it fit him. So is he yearning for that chubby wife to make him feel secure or is he having a major burn in personality and making a shift? What do YOU think? 8-|

Ok,here it is,after 26 years of marriage hubby is not interested in the horizontal poka anymore,I feel I know the problem,he takes pills for his blood pressure and his cholestrol.I have often told him to see the Dr.but,he insists that there is nothing wrong,BULL! When I mention this to him,he gets angry,but I am getting even angier

HELP

Now think: How old is your husband. My husband is 67 and we have been married only 5 years, and we almost NEVER have sex any more. In fact, we have had very little sex in the whole time of our marriage. He has erectile disfunction. Every time he did it he had to have viagra or something. It was always awkward too. I am 70 and I rarely have any interest either. I don't think he is having an affair. I don't think he has been interested very much in sex in the past 10 or 15 years. But he is a truly loving and lovable person. At some point sex is not important as it used to be. If you disagree with me, I would like to hear it from you.

I'm only married 4 months and already my husband has no interest. We have a 2 year old child and we got married last October only, 2009. I can't believe the disinterest he has shown me. I went on a new business venture today and when i got back I was so excited to talk about it and all he said was 'Whatever'. We haven't had sex since our honeymoon back in October. when i address it he says, 'I try but you don't want it'. I've told him before that I think the way he asks for sex makes me feel cheap, I want the man he was before i married him, back. He was never the most romantic and he always make promises he never kept and he used to be a gambler so i look after the money. I still love him for himself, deep down he is so lovely, i've seen it, but I don't see it anymore. He's always got a huge attitude when he comes home from work. Don't get me wrong, I tell him off and he sees it as nagging but what can i do??? Already i have dreams of moving to a different country and starting afresh with my 2 year old. This is so wrong. We are supose to be in honeymoon period. Don't get me wrong, i am no angel, i can be kranky, controlling (with money because he was a gambler I control the money), he hates it. I know he's not happy; and i'm not happy but we still love eachother and we need to make it work for our baby as well as for us. Can anybody help us? He's too proud to go to a counsellor and i can't deal with another argument over it.

I have been married for6 months. During the whole 6 months me and my husband had ses once. I t happened last week. Never had it not time during honeymoon. I ask him to have sex but he says I am pressuring him and its a turn off. How is it a turnoff if we only did it 1 time. I am 45years old and he is 51years old. Everynight he gets up at 2 in the morning and goes on the interenet and chat with girls. He gets excited talkling nasty to them but not with his wife. He is into phone sex. But what about actually sex. The one time we did do it, it was fantastic. So whats wrong with him. Help. I love my husband dearly. I know sex is only a part of the marriage but it is a important part.

Age is a factor for erectile dis function in men, but there are other factors as well.
High blood pressure, diabetes, psychological factors, stress, overwork, lack of sleep, watching to much pornography desensitize the brain and overexcites the sexual organs rendering them useless and disable them. Sometimes an extra marital affair can be the reason but not always.
When a man have ED once in a while there is not problem but when a man has ED for a long period of time he need porfessional help.
Now viagra can help, and an erotic massage could be of help. Remember sex start in the kitchen long before bed time.
Good luck

Variety is the spice of life. You wouldn't want to eat the same thing for breakfast, lunch & dinner everyday, nor would I imagine that someone would want to have sex the in the same position/ place every time. Try to spice it up with different foreplay, locations, toys..... Toys can be as cheap as 5 bucks or so for a one time use little vibe & can be found at Wal-Mart next to the condoms, even saw them once on an end cap there too. Try something different, but within both of your comfort zones. Try taking a trip to a porn store, you don't even have to get anything, but you'll have something to talk about & probably get you both arroused. Some toys can be quite expensive, but others are cheap. If you are just trying out a new kind, go with the cheapest one to see if its for you. Talking about doing things can be just as exciting as doing them too!

My husband has been disinterested in intimacy, sex, and me for 30 years. I've been hurt and depressed for years. I learned to accept myself for who I'am and not worry about him. He eats sleeps, works down stairs, and I have the upstairs. We hardly ever communicate !!!! Its apartment type living. I'm a very social person so I surround my self with friends, both male and female, we go on dates for the weekend or an evening out to dinner. My husband doesn't care where I go or what I do.

 

I went through this with my X wife. I would get up in the mornings, make coffee, and tell her good morning when she got up. She would immediately begin bitching at me, and that drove away any sexual desire I had for her. Eventually, we split up because of this. Since then, I have had sex more times with men, than with women, as guys are always willing to give or get a blow job from most anyone, and I do enjoy receiving the anal sex from them.