ok so I’m talking to this guy and I always get so turned on around him, like all he had to do is touch my leg and it’s waterfalls from there. So I recently just tried to lose my virginity to the same guy and it was excruciating pain. He tried to give me oral first and even that slightly hurt(also I was really dry, whereas when we’re not even having sex I’m wet) so the oral hurt but not that bad, then he tried to finger me and that was just as painful as him trying to insert his penis. The pain is so unbearable like nothing I never felt. We tried different things for atleast 30 mins nothing worked. He also tried stimulating me and I just couldn’t get turned on but like I said above I usually always get turned on. And everyone said to just relax but that felt impossible I couldn’t loosen up like every body  part was clenched from my teeth on down 

So my question is why did it hurt so bad?

why am I more turned on by him when we’re just kissing and not having sex as opposed to is 

why wasn’t he able to go in (even when I tried to wheather the pain it felt like it wouldn’t go any further 

 

also he isn’t a virgin so wasn’t he suppose to realize how dry I was. I don’t know anything about sex at all so in the moment I didn’t know that it was bad u til I google it later .