What Is Sex Like After a Total Hysterectomy

I can identify with you Rootbeer...I was 31 when I have a total hysterectomy done and my doctor was very quick to do it because I had very good insurance....I had endometriosis but it was not known until the doctor went in for surgery and saw it..the endometriosis was very painful and I was finish having kids so I didn't think it would matter but my whole world has changed...I make look like the same person but I live in a completely different body and it all happened over night...if I had to do if again I would have sought out other resources ...going from being a young healthy active women to a women that has mood swings, hot flashes day and night, severe depression and no sex life just to a name a few is terrible....I feel like my life is over and I have cheated my kids and husband out of their mom and wife...I have been on the patches but they give me migraines so I'm dammed if I do or dammed if i don't. Please exhaust all of your options before you make any decisions.

After the total hysterectomy ,I was immediately given a prescription for estradiol hormone replacement therapy. My sex life has been wonderful for years now it's time to stop the hormone therapy and i'm in menopause, sex is difficult.I now use rephresh vaginal gel along with k-y jelly lubricating gel.I need something natural to help give my body natural moisture .

Ok to those of you who feel surgery should not be an option well guess what sometimes people like myself have tried every option out there and surgery as a last resort. my doctors my husband and I have pondered over this surgery for a little over a year when a month ago he told me I could no longer wait for the surgery.  I typed the question about wanting to know if u could get orgasms after a complete hysterectomy cause that is whats happening to me. They cant save anything it all goes and I was just curious what sex will be like after this is done. I am hopeful for a better sex life and wanting to have sex more but yet unsure of what will come!

I am 49 and had Breast Cancer.  Because I was allergic to tamoxifen, helps stops producing estrogen, I had a total hysterectomy.  I have zero interest in sex and is causing issues in my marriage.  If someone could help me, I would be so very grateful.  I cannot take hormone replacements.

My wife had her hysterectomy when she was 29 she is now 52 and I will say after her surgery our sex life was just about non exsistent, she had a complete hysterectomy by the way. I have seen not only the change in her sex drive but also her personality as she is very irratable and when sex does happen which is rare it is like she isn't even there, no kissing no hugging it's just hurry up and get it over with. To anyone getting ready to go through this I wish you good luck as you will need it.

i am facing your exact surgery at 43 and I am most concerned about sex drive... I am looking for an online blog, do you know of one or can you share if you sex life is still good - 4months after you wrote this?

I had a Total Hysterectomy about 3 years ago. They left my ovaries. Everything else is gone. If I had to do it all over again I would have tried other alternatives.... My sex drive is all but gone. They severed nerves around the clitoris so the feeling isn't there that once was. I wish it would come back. They also severed nerves in my abdomen, I still have numbness there. I wish I could sue the Dr. For not giving me all the information.... I didn't want to be an old married couple at 34, Ive lost my youth :( I should be having the time of my life, not researching every few weeks if there's any new info on a sex cure for people who have had this terrible operation. Try the hot water balloon ablation first! I had a friend who had that done her issues and her period all but disappeared. It worked great for her. I hope this helps.

I am so sorry to hear this, I am in the same boat. All I can say is you can try to experiment with some toys and maybe watch some movies together. I've tried it all. Even some Esotroven, and herbal pills. I haven't tried the mens pills wonder if that might work?

It is the same for me, but several years longer. At least we had 7 kids before. My wife had cervical cancer and it is better she is here than not. I had a prostate procedure last year and my libido went through the roof. Thanks for your post, now I know that I'm not the only one.

Sex is NOT the same after a total hysterectomy unless you take hormone replacement therapy. I wish I would have never had the procedure, but for some it is a life saving option. I am 46 and it has been 3 years since my surgery. I can not have intercourse now. I waited 3 years to go on bio-identical hormones which brought back libido, etc. But it is too painful. The cervix shrinks, shortens, and scars.

My hysterectomy is scheduled in 2 months. I'll be 39 years old. I am VERY scared too but I've had ovarian cyst problem for over 10 years now. When I had my c-section with my child, I had a severe infection in my uterus and ended up with an ambulance driving me to ER because I was creaming and claiming walls in my house from pain. Now 8 years after that, I switched my OB/GYN from male to female and she told me I had very thick "pre cancerous"uterus and I have a large cyst on one ovary that isn't going away but giving me pain and problems.

As far as sex for me goes, I do have intense orgasms but my sex drive is almost next to nothing. I don't even think about sex for 3 weeks out of 4 weeks of the month and I experience hot flashes and vaginal dryness now and I haven't had my hysterectomy now.  My female doctor told me "you'll feel 100% better after is" and all the people I've met who'd had their hysterectomy done told me their sex life improved and they are very happy without now menstrual cycles. 

I think it's for you to decide, either tolerate pain from fibrosis and constant ob/gyn visits with biopsy or get it done and then work with hormones to get to level where you'll feel comfortable and enjoy your sex life

Good luck

Hey, I had a total Hysterectomy in 2010 and im here to tell you sex is great, now its the weight gain and mood swings i cant deal with but for me sex is awesome!

I feel for you , I am 50 yrs , before my wife surgery sex was good and a few times a month , but now all i can ask what is SEX , she has no drive will not even touch me , is this what i am suppose to live like the rest of my life ,we been married 28 yrs and now i haven't had sex for over 2 yrs , and worse my doctor has me on testosterone replaement therpy , so i can side with you much

I am 37 and just had a total hysterectomy 1 week ago and have been concerned about my future sex drive/feeling/response as well. My mother had when she was 34 and it ruined her sex life. The estrogen hormone replacement left her with sever migraines and still no desire or feeling. Switching to Estratest (estrogen and testosterone) solved the migraine problem but stil no desire. She is 67 now and last year she tried the bio identical hormone implants. She is a new person. For the first time in over 30 years she has feeling and sexual desire. Her libido has gone thru the roof. The bio identical hormone implants have changed her life in so many wonderful ways.

My MD Anderson gynecological oncologist told me that they don't have to cut nerve bundles to do the robotic total hysterectomy that I am having on Monday morning. They insert surgical tools and cameras through four small slits in your abdomen and come up through the vagina to do the removal of the ovaries, cervix, and uterus. If you have more extensive cancer out side of the uterus, I cannot speak to that. The sex psychologist told me that the clitorlus is a larger organ than right at the opening of your vagina and kind of wraps partially around your vagina. I will probably miss uterine contractions because I've always had a very intense and easy orgasm, but have been assured that most of your orgasm comes from the vagina. I hope so. If I let the cancer spread, I won't be having any level of sex, so what are my choices?